rg1986 Posted March 6, 2019 Share Posted March 6, 2019 I was dating an amazing woman, who is now traveling for an undetermined amount of time. We still chat while she is traveling, she says she misses me, sends heart emojis, etc. Our goodbyes were tough for both of us, as we both developed strong feelings. It is unknown if she will be returning to the area we were together. The thing that I am struggling with is keeping in contact vs cutting contact to help myself move on from this person I care incredibly deeply about. I truly enjoy chatting and hearing about her travels, but each time I feel like it keeps knocking me back from moving on. On the flip side I know the mature thing is to keep in contact assuming that she isn't coming back, because she is someone I want to continue to have in my life. This is a first for me, trying to wrap my head around the end of a relationship that we both didn't want to end (travel plans were preexisting prior to us). Not really much of a question other than, cut ties for my hearts sake or keep that amazing person in my life albeit not the context I would prefer. Sometimes it feels like a curse to love so deeply. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted March 6, 2019 Share Posted March 6, 2019 Yes, you need to take plenty of distance from her. Your connection will likely fade out over time anyway, as her travels lead her in another direction. I don't mean to rain on your parade, but consider this: will you still want to be in contact if you discover she's met another guy on the road? Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted March 6, 2019 Share Posted March 6, 2019 I'd say you need to reduce contact. Usually I say separate on all platforms. Here you can stay "friends" on social media but reduce the personal back & forth. You want to keep something IF she comes back in the area but you don't want to be so tied to her that you can't date others while she is away. Link to post Share on other sites
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