Good Looking Men Make Women Anxious

[dallastonez4]

This is why you often see results which are counter-intuitive initially.

 

A woman may feel totally at ease with an unattractive man, talk with him in an open, casual manner for hours on end, but it leads nowhere.

 

But around an attractive man, she is on edge, guarded, says little and often is short-tempered and ill-mannered or even avoidant. In these instances the probability of a sexual encounter are very high even though to an inexperienced observer she appears to hate him, even loathe him.

 

Interestingly enough, the more attractive the woman, the more likely she is to act in this extremely prickly, even confrontational way in the first few encounters.

 

It's just something I'm trying to learn to accept, although I don't think I can fully.

[basil67]

So are you the unattractive man or the attractive man?

[ExpatInItaly]

But around an attractive man, she is on edge, guarded, says little and often is short-tempered and ill-mannered or even avoidant. In these instances the probability of a sexual encounter are very high even though to an inexperienced observer she appears to hate him, even loathe him.

 

Where are you getting this from?

 

How much time are you spending watching women interact with hot dudes?

[healing light]

I haven't noticed this to the degree that you are discussing. I'm generally quite warm and friendly and usually at ease in public. Being around a man I find attractive can make me a little self-conscious or slightly more inhibited in the very beginning because I am rarely attracted to a man, but it doesn't turn me into a snip or prickly. More like...I have more awareness of what I say or how I look at first, if that makes sense.

 

But I think most people considered widely attractive tend to get preferential treatment in many areas and usually men who are attractive know it. If anything, I've seen women go out of their way to flirt it up with cute men. I live in a superficial, wealthy area, though, where women often pursue and men don't necessarily take the lead as much as in other areas of the country. If a guy is cute here, he'll get hit on by everyone.

 

Why do you think women are being abrasive to you on the first few meetings? Do you think you intimidate them or that you could be giving off some unintentional signals?

[littleblackheart]

It's just something I'm trying to learn to accept, although I don't think I can fully.

 

You not fully accepting it is your logical mind telling you this 'theory' has no basis, I'm guessing.

 

In any event, personal insecurities makes people feel anxious, not someone else's looks (a subjective thing anyway).

[chillii]

Seems like we have yet another one joining a new forum and the first thing they do is tell the world the gosbel of how it all is because they say so.

[Wallysbears]

I’m going to have to say that this hypothesis is not correct.

[d0nnivain]

It's such a generalization. My husband is absolutely drop dead gorgeous, movie star handsome. I was never nervous around him or any other good looking man, solely because he was attractive. I have been on edge around powerful men but on superficial looks alone, no. People are people. Treat then that way & they will respond in kind.

 

In fairness, I was probably twitchy around cute boys when I was a teenaged girl.