alphamale Posted March 9, 2019 Share Posted March 9, 2019 I’ve never dated a vegan and never would. I also don’t dAte women who don’t drink 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Kitty Tantrum Posted March 9, 2019 Share Posted March 9, 2019 NO! I was born and raised as a strict vegetarian until I was 18 (plus some extra household dietary restrictions due to my dad's preferences/aversions), so I've got a pretty good taste of what that life is like. Without cheese it literally wouldn't be worth living. I find it difficult to take people seriously or find them attractive in any way when they build up a diet/lifestyle that has all sorts of restrictions and stipulations. Picky eaters, too. If there are legit medical reasons, that's a different story - but I wouldn't date someone I wouldn't want to have children with, and I wouldn't want to have children with someone who is likely to produce offspring that require a restricted diet. Dancing around a handful of mild food allergies is bad enough. 18 years on a grain-and-legume-based diet was more than enough for me. I still eat lots of plant matter (mostly greens and fruits), but meat and eggs are huge staples in my diet now. I find consuming the connective tissue of animals to be invigorating and life-sustaining in a way that eating plants is not. I could never build a life with a man who doesn't allow meat in the house, or wrinkles his nose when I'm searing a big steak or tearing into a rack of ribs. Nope nope nope. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted March 9, 2019 Share Posted March 9, 2019 It always kills me that vegans don't hold it against their cats that they're strictly carnivores. Unfortunately, I have known one who pretty much killed hers trying to keep it from eating meat. They have to have taurine, which is only in meat. My friend whose bf is the sugar vegan, I asked her what he feeds his cats and she said cat food, but all I know is every time I talk to her, another one or two have died (he's a bit of a cat hoarder). Link to post Share on other sites
LivingWaterPlease Posted March 9, 2019 Share Posted March 9, 2019 I'm vegetarian and have never dated anyone who was a vegetarian. Even my H wasn't a vegetarian. I've been to and go to lots of steak houses, etc. I can find a salad (and sides, usually) to eat anywhere. I've been to barbecue events where the only thing I could eat would be cole slaw, some kind of salsa or tomato sauce, and potato chips. I've grown to love the combo because I associate it with good times! I never point out to anyone I'm with anything at all about the way they eat. I don't care how anyone else eats. I can only think of two times being a vegetarian ever presented a problem. Once was when meat was the only thing served. I ate it. The other was when I was at a wedding reception on a boat where shrimp was the only thing at all served. After everyone was drinking a lot and I didn't want to eat the shrimp I kept moving it around my plate then began to put it underneath my plate as I felt I needed to be doing something with it! They kept bringing me more of it. My plate began to get higher and higher off the table, basically a plate sitting high atop a pile of shrimp but everyone was so plastered no one noticed it. We all had a blast! Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted March 9, 2019 Share Posted March 9, 2019 I'm kind of surprised by the # of people who say they won't date a picky eater either. I'm a pretty picky eater. I don't care for a lot of foods. I have mouth feel issues -- I literally gag when I try to eat green leafy vegetables because I can't handle how they feel when I try to eat them. I do not like most condiments (mayo, ketchup, mustard etc.). I despise seafood & have been known to vomit if a seafood smell is strong. I do not eat at seafood restaurants but am fine if my dining companion orders the fish in another type of restaurant. I could not care less if other people want to eat the stuff I don't like. I keep many of those items in my house so others can enjoy them. My husband loves salads & seafood. He drowns everything in sauce. What do I care? I don't have to eat it. So on behalf of picky eaters everywhere . . just leave us to our plain stuff as long as we promise not to negatively comment on your consumption. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Kitty Tantrum Posted March 9, 2019 Share Posted March 9, 2019 I think there's a difference between having legitimate aversions, and being picky. Picky is when you, more or less and for whatever reason, have a very limited set of foods and methods of preparation that are acceptable (and there's often an element of emotional attachment/unwillingness to try new things). I can't function in that model because my entire way of life revolves around making use of what is available that is healthy and cheap. I make a lot of accommodations in terms of catering to PREPARATION preferences, and seasoning/dressing preference... but when it comes to basic components, I couldn't be in a relationship with someone who had a bunch of restrictions - refusing to eat vegetables is just as bad. One of the things I love most about my fiance, practically speaking, is that he'll eat nearly anything I make, as long as I account for a few select aversions and one known allergy. He'll refuse anything that has raisins in it, for example - but he'll eat kale on a semi-regular basis even though he doesn't really like it. I can work with that. People who only want their favorite/preferred foods all the time, no matter how impractical or unhealthy or un-economical... I can't cook for that person. And preparing food for my family is a big deal to me. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted March 9, 2019 Share Posted March 9, 2019 I'm vegetarian and have never dated anyone who was a vegetarian. Even my H wasn't a vegetarian. I've been to and go to lots of steak houses, etc. I can find a salad (and sides, usually) to eat anywhere. Vegetarian would be a whole lot easier to date than a vegan. They do eggs and dairy. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Robert Posted March 9, 2019 Share Posted March 9, 2019 (edited) The topic in case you were wondering: Non-vegans, would you date a vegan? Vegans, would you date a non-vegans? Why or why not? What would make or break the situation? I left the 2 posts about picky eating as they are somewhat inside the topic and fit somewhat into the why you wouldn't date a vegan. Let's keep the posts about the topic though Edited March 9, 2019 by Robert 2 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted March 9, 2019 Share Posted March 9, 2019 Dating's nothing it's living together that's hard if they're a very strict vegan. Good point. I could casually date a vegan....like once a week or such. Link to post Share on other sites
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted March 9, 2019 Share Posted March 9, 2019 I had no idea vegan vs. non-vegan was such a controversial topic to warrant such heavy moderation. The vegans I know are pretty judgmental of others, so that is another reason I'd find it hard to date one. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted March 9, 2019 Share Posted March 9, 2019 eating rabbit food on a date in not my idea of fun. bring on the ribeye steak and onion rings, a man's meal studies have shown that some single women are turned on when their date eats a steak in front of them 1 Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted March 9, 2019 Share Posted March 9, 2019 studies have shown that some single women are turned on when their date eats a steak in front of them And I guess the pollotarian, pescatarian, vegetarian and vegan women are all turned off... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted March 10, 2019 Share Posted March 10, 2019 About picky eaters, I used to have a couple who were my friend and they drove me crazy but I felt bad for getting tired of it. Now, he couldn't have been that picky of an eater because he was huge and tall and huge. She had been a vegan until her doctor told her to stop it because he health was failing. So at that point, all she would eat for meat is some chicken fajita strips. He wouldn't eat anything with pasta in it. She wouldn't eat and could barely stand to look at salsa and so there was only one restaurants they would both go to together, and it was a crappy commercial TexMex place compared to other good places around town, and expensive to boot. She always had fajita strips and I think he did too, can't remember, but then they had the staff trained to blend the salsa because if it was anything other than solid looking, if you could see a bit of onion in it, it made her sick to look at it. Now these were super nice people (until later they became judgy religious fanatics after they joined a church prior to adopting a child). Anyway, I hated that restaurant but if I wanted to see them, that's where we had to go. So found out she liked this other restaurant that is a little place for salad and bread mainly and it's good, so I asked her to go with me there alone without him (he didn't like it) and then he never wanted to speak to me again. Geez. So people with picky food habits can have other issues, but I would still trust them with my life, but they are not without their piccadilos. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted March 10, 2019 Share Posted March 10, 2019 And I guess the pollotarian, pescatarian, vegetarian and vegan women are all turned off... I don't know elaine567 Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted March 10, 2019 Share Posted March 10, 2019 About picky eaters, I used to have a couple who were my friend and they drove me crazy but I felt bad for getting tired of it. Now, he couldn't have been that picky of an eater because he was huge and tall and huge. She had been a vegan until her doctor told her to stop it because he health was failing. So at that point, all she would eat for meat is some chicken fajita strips. He wouldn't eat anything with pasta in it. She wouldn't eat and could barely stand to look at salsa and so there was only one restaurants they would both go to together, and it was a crappy commercial TexMex place compared to other good places around town, and expensive to boot. She always had fajita strips and I think he did too, can't remember, but then they had the staff trained to blend the salsa because if it was anything other than solid looking, if you could see a bit of onion in it, it made her sick to look at it. Now these were super nice people (until later they became judgy religious fanatics after they joined a church prior to adopting a child). Anyway, I hated that restaurant but if I wanted to see them, that's where we had to go. So found out she liked this other restaurant that is a little place for salad and bread mainly and it's good, so I asked her to go with me there alone without him (he didn't like it) and then he never wanted to speak to me again. Geez. So people with picky food habits can have other issues, but I would still trust them with my life, but they are not without their piccadilos. most of the "food challenged" that I have met IRL are just plain weirdos and I would not date them Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted March 10, 2019 Share Posted March 10, 2019 I tell you, my best friend has been on so many jags. What happened is when young and impressionable, she worked at Whole Foods and got her head filled with a lot of nonsense, a lot of it now debunked. But of course, some was fine and she's been in and out of meat eating. She got diabetes young and had to start eating some meat again because if you eat meat with carbs, the body can process the carbs better. But she loves different food, but like right now she's into that poke and raw stuff and I have been friends with her for eons and I just tell her NO WAY on that crap. I mean,why go out to eat raw food? Plop it in some lime juice and eat it tomorrow, no muss, no fuss, right? Her whole family has oddities about food and not the same ones. I don't know how she keeps from going insane. Two won't eat pork, one won't eat meat and is so emaciated they called her in at school, but part of it is genetic, though, but if he ate better, I bet he would fill out. One will eat stuff but gains weight easy due to her heritage. But yes, people in general who are overly obsessed about anything have something going on. But then don't we all, I guess. One thing I have noticed over the years is some people will restrict themselves to a challenging diet and obsess about it and focus on it INSTEAD of giving up their alcohol or pot or worse. They control something to feel more in control but won't stop the habit that's most likely to kill them and is ruining their lives. I've actually seen a lot of people do that. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
5x5 Posted March 10, 2019 Share Posted March 10, 2019 As a parent who is now experiencing the horror, of having a teenage child with an eating disorder. There is no way I would date someone, after finding out they're Vegan, Since in my opinion being vegan, looks like having an eating disorder. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
chillii Posted March 10, 2019 Share Posted March 10, 2019 I had no idea vegan vs. non-vegan was such a controversial topic to warrant such heavy moderation. The vegans I know are pretty judgmental of others, so that is another reason I'd find it hard to date one. Yeah same. They say they're all cool with this or that but the minute your doing something they don't approve of you still at least get the look even if they can keep their mouth shut. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
snowboy91 Posted March 10, 2019 Share Posted March 10, 2019 The vegans I know are pretty judgmental of others, so that is another reason I'd find it hard to date one. Interesting - almost all the vegans I know won't say anything if I eat a steak in front of them. I'd like to think I could date a vegan, as long as they didn't mind me eating meat/animal products every now and then (say when we go out on a date - many restaurants in my city have some form of vegan option). Normally I really don't care if a meal is vegan or not, as long as it tastes good and satisfies my hunger! But in reality, over time the level of implied restriction over my lifestyle would probably start getting on my nerves, and the relationship wouldn't last long term. That being said, it's very hard to find anyone these days without some kind of dietary restriction. My last partner was diabetic (couldn't have sugary snacks except during hypos), and my current partner is lactose sensitive (though not completely intolerant). But that's simple stuff I can work around. Link to post Share on other sites
edgygirl Posted March 10, 2019 Share Posted March 10, 2019 (edited) I would date a non preachy vegan. I went on a date with one and he was profoundly disappointed I ordered something containing cheese, and showed it. And I’m mostly a vegetarian. Gosh... I’ve started being vegetarian in my early 20s. Then went back to eating fish as I moved to a country with less vegetarian options. For me it’s not about the moral thing, it’s more about me never liking the texture of any meat even when I did eat it as a child/teen. I tried to go vegan last year for an autoimmune illness to see if it helped. Not only it did not help, I also missed dairy too much. I love all things vegetables & grains but it was so hard to cut on so many things I ate all my life. I gave up. I’m still mostly a vegetarian with some pescatarian thrown in. I don’t care much what a partner eats but I’m less prone to kissing right after they had meat specially if raw kind, like steak tartare. When I meet a man who eats like me (rare) it gets me really happy. It happened this year and I was really surprised. Edited March 10, 2019 by edgygirl Link to post Share on other sites
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