snowcones Posted March 18, 2019 Share Posted March 18, 2019 This is the number one reason I hear people talk about moving in together. Not love. And they think this practical reason makes more sense. What say you? I think its crazy. Link to post Share on other sites
chillii Posted March 18, 2019 Share Posted March 18, 2019 So many people are so mind boggling shallow these days if the Internets anything to go by so that wouldn't surprise me at all you hear that so much. But nope , it's a ridiculous reason, just asking for trouble later and wasting what often ends up years of each others lives when there's no love, they just split down the track anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted March 18, 2019 Share Posted March 18, 2019 I usually only see this mentioned in the context where someone else is arguing that "you can love a person without needing to live with them, so what's the point of moving in together?". Honestly I don't see too many people moving in with a person they feel nothing for solely to "save money" - that's what roommates are for. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted March 18, 2019 Share Posted March 18, 2019 It's a reason, just like living together to have sex every day is a reason.. but that doesn't make it a great reason.. I think the younger generation does this today, with all the high rent on apartments and such they move this reason up in the priority chain so to speak... IMO, in my past it was never a reason but a benefit of living together... my reasons normally were all directed at the relationship and future rather than the benefits... To each his own... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Simple Logic Posted March 18, 2019 Share Posted March 18, 2019 If you are sleeping together now, is it really a big deal? Link to post Share on other sites
Wallysbears Posted March 18, 2019 Share Posted March 18, 2019 We moved in together officially for finances...but we were already in love and engaged. Made no sense to continue to keep 2 houses just waiting on the wedding date. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted March 18, 2019 Share Posted March 18, 2019 If you are sleeping together now, is it really a big deal? Of course there is a difference - it's a lot easier to break up when you don't have to find a way to break the lease with minimal financial impact, find a new place to live, and separate all your stuff. There's a good reason why living together is seen by many to be an intermediate step between dating and marriage. If anyone moves in together without realizing that it IS kind of a big deal, they're gonna have a bad time. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted March 18, 2019 Share Posted March 18, 2019 its a horrible reason...deb 2 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted March 18, 2019 Share Posted March 18, 2019 It is a consideration but if it's the #1 reason, just get a regular roommate. Living together is a commitment. You are sharing your lives together & making a statement to the world about your level of commitment to each other. If you are not that deeply in love, saving a few bucks is not the best reason to attach yourself to a SO 24/7 Link to post Share on other sites
Author snowcones Posted March 18, 2019 Author Share Posted March 18, 2019 FYI - these are people I know and hear from in real life. Not on the internet. And he’s i think getting together, staying together or moving in for finances is a horrible reason. Link to post Share on other sites
Author snowcones Posted March 18, 2019 Author Share Posted March 18, 2019 It is a consideration but if it's the #1 reason, just get a regular roommate. Living together is a commitment. You are sharing your lives together & making a statement to the world about your level of commitment to each other. If you are not that deeply in love, saving a few bucks is not the best reason to attach yourself to a SO 24/7 Exactly. Not to mention that I frown upon being financially dependent on someone to stay afloat. Do you know how many people are still married because of finances? Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted March 18, 2019 Share Posted March 18, 2019 FYI - these are people I know and hear from in real life. Not on the internet. And he’s i think getting together, staying together or moving in for finances is a horrible reason. I'm confused, how do you know they don't love each other? Link to post Share on other sites
Author snowcones Posted March 18, 2019 Author Share Posted March 18, 2019 I'm confused, how do you know they don't love each other? Because that's what they say! When you ask why they are moving in or why they are staying, they say.... money. Either saving money or not being able to afford being on their own. Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted March 18, 2019 Share Posted March 18, 2019 Because that's what they say! When you ask why they are moving in or why they are staying, they say.... money. Either saving money or not being able to afford being on their own. But how many people are going to say "Because we're in love!", even when they are? I don't generally go around telling people IRL about how in love H and I are... it's somewhat self-evident IMO. In the case of people staying in a clearly unhappy R to "save money" though, I agree that that's plain stupid. Link to post Share on other sites
Tribble Posted March 18, 2019 Share Posted March 18, 2019 Because that's what they say! When you ask why they are moving in or why they are staying, they say.... money. Either saving money or not being able to afford being on their own. I am wondering how these conversations come about. Do you ask why they are moving in? Do they volunteer the information? And when they say it, is that all they say? The reason they are moving in together is because of money only? When I moved in with my partner money was one consideration (not reason, but it was a side benefit). We moved in together because... we wanted to. We were in love and wanted to live together. But if someone asked me why, I wouldn't cite that as a reason because I would assume that was a given. When discussing why at the time, monetary considerations and what we would save did come up. I did not go around saying because we're in love! Because it feels silly to say that... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted March 18, 2019 Share Posted March 18, 2019 FYI - these are people I know and hear from in real life. Not on the internet. And he’s i think getting together, staying together or moving in for finances is a horrible reason. It's a real world pressure in parts of the US and other high-cost countries where a one-bedroom apartment starts at $2500/month. I think many young people are under the mistaken impression that a casual BF/GF will somehow be a more financially dependable roommate than a friend or stranger... Mr. Lucky 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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