nimrod303 Posted March 20, 2019 Share Posted March 20, 2019 The mysterious species... what can i say lol first post here by the way, so hello all:) So it's like this, 2 separate incidents. 1) i was on the phone talking and happened to turn in the direction of a woman just passing by. Saw here immediately roll her eyes(or half roll, as in just turned upwards). Is this her being full of herself, thinking for some reason that i was gonna gawk at her or something? Or perhaps because she's just the sort who thinks too much and got defensive? Or is it one of those contradictory moments where she found me attractive but being a 'self-respecting' woman did that to reassure herself? I get affirmation and indications that quite a number of people here and there find me attractive so this is not me being full of myself or self-aggrandizing, for those who're so inclined to think! 2) is this evasiveness or some passive-aggressive act of revenge(and lack of decency)? When this one girl gave me IOI's over the entire course of a school term but apart from smiling out of courtesy i never made any move, and when i saw what was clearly her being hurt(salty or whatever), i took the initiative and, frankly, pains to write a very prim and proper letter and eventually find her months later. She denied having ever liked me after reading it. That is not a problem. Here's the thing though. The 180 turn from taking every opportunity to make eye contact with me, to completely avoiding same during the new term is too obvious, especially when she completely turned her face away from me when i looked in her direction on one occasion. Yet, when i did eventually find her, it was as if nothing had happened, and in her own words: "what happened?" with a bright smile. Now i think anyone would find this fishy, or plain rude. Why not say right from the beginning that i'm mistaken and not specifically ask me to meet her to give her the letter(had first established contact on the phone through a friend)? If there really was nothing, why not set the record straight right from the start? Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted March 20, 2019 Share Posted March 20, 2019 Chances are, 1) the sun was in her eyes and 2) she was nonplussed at the unsolicited contact. nimrod303, going to guess you're young and, like many your age, have a strong tendency to overthink. Trust me, when a woman finds you attractive or is interested in you, no analysis will be needed. You'll know... Mr. Lucky 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted March 20, 2019 Share Posted March 20, 2019 Everyone will look at someone once. Sounds like you're giving them some strange reaction when their eyes just land on you, and that's why they're then ignoring you. Not because they think you're attractive. Sounds like you've had this delusion before, that women are looking at you and attracted but then ignoring you because they think you're so attractive, and then denying that they are interested. Sounds like they're, ta da: Not interested. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author nimrod303 Posted March 21, 2019 Author Share Posted March 21, 2019 (edited) Chances are, 1) the sun was in her eyes and 2) she was nonplussed at the unsolicited contact. nimrod303, going to guess you're young and, like many your age, have a strong tendency to overthink. Trust me, when a woman finds you attractive or is interested in you, no analysis will be needed. You'll know... Mr. Lucky Hahaha... we were not on a baseball pitch, much less anywhere under the sun, and scowling the way she did in another person's direction would just be...weird for the other person... and yes that's what she sounded like. It was several either obvious or little actions that gave me such a hint, but maybe i'm just more conservative than her to be ,perhaps, carelessly giving such looks. Anyway, everyone has their own way of expressing things, attraction or no and what's an IOI to one may not be to another so i'm just following the visual evidence and my instincts. Thanks for your advice though. Edited March 21, 2019 by nimrod303 Link to post Share on other sites
Author nimrod303 Posted March 21, 2019 Author Share Posted March 21, 2019 Everyone will look at someone once. Sounds like you're giving them some strange reaction when their eyes just land on you, and that's why they're then ignoring you. Not because they think you're attractive. Sounds like you've had this delusion before, that women are looking at you and attracted but then ignoring you because they think you're so attractive, and then denying that they are interested. Sounds like they're, ta da: Not interested. I believe i did say something along the lines of looking more than once, and i have not been on the receiving end of "what's wrong with this guy" looks i'm sure.. And i'd phrased this as a question(see that i'd asked which of the 3 possibilities it mostly like and usually is), not as some statement confirming a misguided and pompous self-impression as you insinuate, which i'm trying to understand. Now i'm sorry if i don't sound exactly friendly this time, as much as i'd like to, these being my first posts, but then again it seems that i'm getting a skeptical and strangely damning preconception of my personality even after i'd taken care to clarify that i'm not blowing my own trumpet and am merely stating what others have said about me, not as a personal opinion! Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted March 21, 2019 Share Posted March 21, 2019 What's an IOI? Link to post Share on other sites
Garcon1986 Posted March 21, 2019 Share Posted March 21, 2019 indicator of interest Link to post Share on other sites
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