Bittersweetie Posted March 26, 2019 Share Posted March 26, 2019 Thank you all. I am finding myself in a very dark place full of anxiety and guilt. I feel it most when I wake in the morning and it hits me like a train. I wonder if this is the start of how a breakdown feels. I'm not sure it's a breakdown as much as starting to recognize the ramifications of your choices. Like Zona said, this can be a time of personal growth for you, a pivot point. You are at a crossroads: do I continue down the path of MM and avoiding reality, or do I face my issues and work toward a more authentic self? Frankly the MM/avoidance path is easier...but the authentic path, while much more difficult, contains more rewards in the long run. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
vla1120 Posted March 28, 2019 Share Posted March 28, 2019 Gwen, if I were you, I would go completely NC. Tell him to bug off and stop contacting you. The only regret he has is getting caught. Clearly, he's willing to get caught again, but that's on him. Don't let it be your problem. What I wish for you is to think enough of yourself not to be someone else's second choice. You are better than he deserves. Give yourself some time to find someone who will make you (rightly so) the center of their universe. Link to post Share on other sites
Zona Posted March 28, 2019 Share Posted March 28, 2019 Give yourself some time to find someone who will make you (rightly so) the center of their universe. If she wants to date, she should divorce her husband first. Constantly lying to him and deceiving him while she dates and gets new boyfriends will eventually become a total catastrophe for everyone involved. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author gwen uk Posted March 29, 2019 Author Share Posted March 29, 2019 (edited) []Thanks to to everyone who contributed constructively - I appreciate all of your time, even the opinions I did not want to hear were well thought through and constructive and I am turning a corner as a result of your input. I valued being able to talk to people who had been in similar situations and have helped show me the way through some very dark times. Goodbye and please all take care of yourselves. The older I get the more I realise that life is far from black and white but we define our own choices and the people we want to be. Thank you again. Edited March 30, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Response to deleted content redacted 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Tristian Posted March 30, 2019 Share Posted March 30, 2019 Thanks to to everyone who contributed constructively - I appreciate all of your time, even the opinions I did not want to hear were well thought through and constructive and I am turning a corner as a result of your input. I valued being able to talk to people who had been in similar situations and have helped show me the way through some very dark times. Goodbye and please all take care of yourselves. The older I get the more I realise that life is far from black and white but we define our own choices and the people we want to be. Thank you again. I will leave this reply to a now deleted post here as a closing statement Link to post Share on other sites
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