Author Cannis_Rex Posted March 27, 2019 Author Share Posted March 27, 2019 It's not love infatuation, look up limerance it's common in affairs. That's not to say you should stay with your GF, it wouldn't be fair to her to be second best, your back up plan. I would say this though real love is often not flashy, I've read several threads where the poster has not recognised how deeply 'in love' they were with their partner until they were in danger of losing them. So, I’d actually never heard of Limerence, but just reading though the rather long Wikipedia page made me feel sick to my stomach.. Now that I have a label, we’ll, it doesn’t make things any easier, but I have gained some perspective, so thank you, this has really been an eye opener. Of course (and why would you expect any less) the biggest question regarding the student is whether or not it is reciprocated, and what the best course of action is to take with my partner, or more like how to gather the courage.. Link to post Share on other sites
mark clemson Posted March 27, 2019 Share Posted March 27, 2019 Of course (and why would you expect any less) the biggest question regarding the student is whether or not it is reciprocated, and what the best course of action is to take with my partner, or more like how to gather the courage.. Not sure what you're thinking of doing. The student is out of your life. However she may have felt, seems like the best course is to let her go rather than cling to a fantasy. Believe the focus now should be your own real relationship and what steps you want to take next in it (to improve it or possibly end it). Seems like a lot of the advice above is along those lines. Or is that what you mean and intend to do? Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted March 27, 2019 Share Posted March 27, 2019 Of course (and why would you expect any less) the biggest question regarding the student is whether or not it is reciprocated, and what the best course of action is to take with my partner, or more like how to gather the courage.. Awfully unfair to your partner to keep her as an unknowing back-up, your Plan B if this new infatuation doesn't work out. Your satisfaction with your current relationship and feelings for the student are two different issues. You'd find it less conflicting to deal with them separately... Mr. Lucky Link to post Share on other sites
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