Henzer Posted March 25, 2019 Share Posted March 25, 2019 ’ve had this dream. A dream where I was talking to an old friend. One not spoken to in years. The beginning was foggy, but we were laughing and having a good time. Just in the midst of her smiling whilst talking, in a moment which felt eternal, I could not stop thinking how much of a good time we were having. Just the look in her eyes, I could see inside of her and feel how she felt; the joy of our company. Amidst her beginning to speak, I asked her if she wanted to go out with me. She stared, gave a hug and then said, “Yes.” Afterward, I picked her up in my arms and started walking, not knowing where my feet were going, while doing nothing else except looking into her eyes. Then I woke up at 2 in the morning....feeling a way about a woman who changed since we were young. A sensation to her fragilities, strengths, and stifles. I can’t and don’t want to speculate this dream. This was the first emotional dream I had about a young woman in which I haven’t thought about for a long time or spoke about. She was my friend and will at the very least always be considered such. Wow, now I’m curious as to how she’s doing. Could it mean anything? This dream? Or could it be a manifestation of a man’s hopes? I’ve been recently thinking about asking her mom to lunch and discuss courting her daughter. It’s been a long time since seeing this young woman(not the mom lol). I don’t want to be abrupt and hot on her like she probably has by many men. Maybe her mom can put it in her head that I’m interested. I’m very good friends with her brother, but don’t want to go see him with an underlying reason. It’s a finicky situation...as in I’ve always been more inclined to ask the parents before dating their daughter. This will be the second time I’ve ever done it though. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted March 25, 2019 Share Posted March 25, 2019 It probably doesn't mean much but do reach out & see how she's doing. Link to post Share on other sites
loversquarrel Posted March 25, 2019 Share Posted March 25, 2019 Dreams are nothing more than your own creation. Maybe you have a feeling of nostalgia for this woman, but don't expect her to have been thinking the same thing. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Henzer Posted March 25, 2019 Author Share Posted March 25, 2019 I don’t expect her to feel the same way. Just figured I’d post it and see what you guys thought. Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted March 25, 2019 Share Posted March 25, 2019 I’ve been recently thinking about asking her mom to lunch and discuss courting her daughter. You have some way of verifying the daughter's relationship status? Mr. Lucky Link to post Share on other sites
mark clemson Posted March 25, 2019 Share Posted March 25, 2019 It doesn't hurt to try asking her out IMO, especially if you go about it in the way you feel is most appropriate. No guarantee of success obviously, but why not try. Possibly this is your brain's way of urging to you find A relationship (not necessarily with this woman but with some woman). She is a stand-in in your mind for whoever it ends up being in reality. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted March 25, 2019 Share Posted March 25, 2019 Don't ask the mother out to lunch. If you are good friends with the brother, find a reason to hang out with him. Perhaps go watch a march madness game. When you are together casually ask about the sister. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Henzer Posted March 25, 2019 Author Share Posted March 25, 2019 Mr. Lucky, yes I do and she is. Her aunt is my moms family friend. Mark Clemson, it may be true that it is my minds manifestation of wanting a relationship. Guess it wouldn’t hurt to find out, huh? Donnivain, long story short, the brother is living with his mom due to medical issues and his sister lives there, too. She probably trying to find a job out of college. Idk. So if I go to see him, she will be there, too. She’d know instantly if/when I’d be going to hang out with her brother. I want to go hang out with him, but not for an underlying reason...you know? Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted March 26, 2019 Share Posted March 26, 2019 I’ve been recently thinking about asking her mom to lunch and discuss courting her daughter. Wouldn't this conversation be premature before you've had a chance to spend time with her daughter? If she has no interest in you, not sure how Mom's permission is going to help you... Mr. Lucky Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted March 26, 2019 Share Posted March 26, 2019 You are overthinking everything. Go to the house. Visit with everybody. problem solved. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Henzer Posted March 27, 2019 Author Share Posted March 27, 2019 Yeah you’re right. Tough not to overthink....difficult not to. Link to post Share on other sites
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