Love/Hate thing..The ring did not buy my trust.

[Juliet]

We were together for about a year. He was my best friend. He questioned his sexuality during our relationship and met a guy for sex behind my back. He maintained nothing happened and he realized he was straight.

 

After that I did not look at him as my best friend anymore. The trust was gone. He resented me for not trusting him and I resented him for not being trustworthy. I told him I would trust him if he made a promise to me in the symbal of a ring. I really thought a promise ring would have made me feel he was serious about me.

 

I did receive my promise ring. After that he did many things that questioned my trust. Like dissappearing every Friday night without so much as a phone call..claiming he fell asleep. I felt the ring was purchased to get me off his back so to speak. Not a promise at all!

 

When we broke up he wanted the ring back. I said no so he tried to blackmail me with the sexy pctures I once gave to him. After that went down we had no contact at all for 6months.

 

Now I receive a blanket email from him. I am still in his address book!

I rec'd nothing until now. I wonder if he is testing the waters so to speak.

[JadeStar]

Wheather he is "testing" the waters or not, I would say move on. He broke your trust, you can't seem to gain it back, you even said after the ring he was still displaying some things you felt were not trust worthy. Yes I do believe trust can be rebuilt but it has to take two people. Sounds like maybe hes not willing to try to gain your trust back and you're questioning the fact you still feel you can't trust him. I'm sure thats a miserable feeling. Time to maybe move on.

 

 

 

Jade

[roxyg]

I was in a relationship similar to this, only I was cheated on more than once. As time went by, I knew it was in me to get passed everything. Slowly it happened, and I finally fully cut contact with him. He would call and call complaining how I was such a terrible person/friend. Sometimes I think back about what life would be like had we stayed in contact, but then I realize that even as a friend he would try to hurt me, and I'm better off in healthy relationships. Why should anyone want to stay in contact with someone that brings them down, or reminds them of hurtful things. Although people change and grow, the old feelings are still there.

[Juliet]

how did you become a new member.. i can't confirm my account.