LonelyGuy8 Posted March 30, 2019 Share Posted March 30, 2019 An ex and also a coworker blocked me after two months on Facebook. We barely talking to each at work. But lately she has been more friendly than before. Making jokes, smile at me. But yesterday she blocked me just like that. We have no contact at all outside the work. I didn't say anything special to her yesterday at work. We were only talking, smiling, joking. I don't understand it. Why now? I borrowed a friends Facebook and there she was. Still single. So her account is still there. She doesn't wants to be unfriend with me. That's what see said before. It's difficult be friend with her when she doing this to me. We see each other almost everyday. How could I be friendly now at work? I'm so angry right now. It will be really difficult to look at her. I am still single and I don't looking for something new either. I'm tired of relationships. Nice to be single. I don't understand. Why now. Why block me at all. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted March 30, 2019 Share Posted March 30, 2019 Maybe she is dating someone and will soon be posting pictures or posts about him, and doesn't you to see. Sooner or later, exes will drift out of your life. While blocking usually seems extreme to the dumpee, it's often simply a matter of cleaning house for the dumper, so to speak. There are plenty of people who opt not to keep exes on their social media. It sounds like you're still quite emotionally attached to her, so it will take time to accept that you will no longer be privy to her online activity. Were you perhaps still holding out hope for a reconciliation? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted March 30, 2019 Share Posted March 30, 2019 Keep it civil and professional at work but cut everything else out. Staying friends with an X just keeps you in it so her blocking you is probably a good thing 2 Link to post Share on other sites
crazyguy123 Posted March 30, 2019 Share Posted March 30, 2019 She wants to move on. I had an ex on my social media for about 6 months. Then i couldn't take it and decided to move on. It's hard to see someone e you care about all the time. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Normm Posted March 30, 2019 Share Posted March 30, 2019 You're looking at this all wrong. You need to say to yourself, "she's an ex, and therefore of no importance to me and my life, she has her reasons for blocking me and I don't care". Keep saying the mantra and hopefully it will sink in. Take a lesson from this. Stop dating people at work. It's bad for so many reasons, on so many levels. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted March 30, 2019 Share Posted March 30, 2019 Don't be friendly at work. Just be professional. She could have blocked you on FB because she's ready to move on. Or she could have done it because she doesn't like what you post. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted March 30, 2019 Share Posted March 30, 2019 She probably just figured it was time. She waited a decent amount of time to see what would transpire at work and see if you'd just move on and things be normal but decided it was time to take the step. And certainly, most exes are not going to want you seeing their business and especially if they have to see you at work, so she's getting some privacy, and you should be polite and professional and not talk to her unless you have to about work, and emotionally accept it's over and move on. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LonelyGuy8 Posted April 3, 2019 Author Share Posted April 3, 2019 (edited) Thank you for all the answers. A lot of things happened after this. First she unblocked me. She said she blocked me, because she was drunk. But now she asked me to be friends. I said no. But she still asked me why not, many exes are friends. But I said no. Then she got mad and called me stuff. Still told her not friends. But after that she just gone. Not at the work. Not active on Facebook, Snapchat or Instagram. It's like she doesn't exist. I am a little bit worried. Maybe that's what she wants? Edited April 3, 2019 by LonelyGuy8 1 Link to post Share on other sites
John101 Posted April 3, 2019 Share Posted April 3, 2019 Certainly there is a lesson learned for all of us to not date co-workers. Is your company large enough so that you might be able to transfer to a different department? Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted April 3, 2019 Share Posted April 3, 2019 But after that she just gone. Not at the work. Not active on Facebook, Snapchat or Instagram. It's like she doesn't exist. I am a little bit worried. Maybe that's what she wants? She could be sick for all you know. Or attending to an emergency. Or distracted with a new dude she's just met. If something has happened to her, you will soon hear about it, but it's more likely that she's just preoccupied with something or someone else right now. You are spending too much time worrying about her and her online behaviour, which is why staying blocked would have ultimately been better for you. It would be best for you to accept that this is really over, OP. Link to post Share on other sites
healing light Posted April 3, 2019 Share Posted April 3, 2019 In this case, I think she blocked you to prevent herself from seeing reminders of you and stalking your social media. When people want to move on, it can be too painful to see pictures of them and updates in your feed when you don't expect it. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted April 3, 2019 Share Posted April 3, 2019 Good for you for sticking to your guns. Yes, us women are sometimes better able to handle being "just friends" than many men are. It would have been very hard on you, so glad you said no. Look, just let her go. She just disappeared like that to make a statement, but it's nothing at all to worry about. Not your problem anymore. Be glad you don't have to deal with her anymore and mourn and then move on. It will be easier this way. If you're just lonely for companionship, get a couple of dogs. Link to post Share on other sites
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