unnamed Posted June 2, 2001 Share Posted June 2, 2001 ... my girlfriend dissaproves of it, then should I feel guilty and feel like she is going to throw me away? I'm trying to fight an addiction; its not neccessarily severe, but its there. I've been going online for approximately 6 years now. I'm trying to stop for her, but I still slip up once and a while. She broke up with me two weeks ago because it bothers her and she said that she couldn't be with someone who "treats me like crap" (because I went on porn). Now whenever I go on I just feel like I'm going to lose her. I am trying to stop, for her, but I don't know if that actually means anything to her. Is it wrong for me to feel that way? Link to post Share on other sites
Tammie Posted June 2, 2001 Share Posted June 2, 2001 There is nothing wrong with porn, unless you let it take over your life. If you think you are addicted, contact a local sexaholics anonymous group. You'd be surprised that this happens to men & women, and people from all walks of life. I just read an interesting article in Marie Claire about this. Some addicted people (sex, porn, internet) lose their jobs, become isolated from family & friends, or won't go outside the home because of their addiction, and you don't want it to get to that point. If you are REALLY being honest with yourself, and all you did was 'go on porn' to 'treat your gf like crap', your gf sounds like a pill and you should be glad you are not together anymore. Find another woman who has no hang ups about porn (in it's proper place). But I wonder if this was not the only issue in your relationship, and you and/ or she are using this porn excuse and not looking into the deeper problems existing. Either way, you're now free to look at all the porn you like, with no one judging you. Feel better? Link to post Share on other sites
Laurynn Posted June 2, 2001 Share Posted June 2, 2001 Geezus P Cripes. Your girlfriend has a snit when you admit to masturbating. Why you tell her what you do in PRIVATE is beyond me. Now, as most healthy guys do, you check out porn online. She again, doesn't approve. Why are you telling her? Do you also tell her when you have a bowel movement? When you blow your nose? She sounds like a control freak, you sound pussy-whipped and your whole relationship sounds absolutely unhealthy and unbalanced. You've posted about your relationship problems many times in the past, and myself and others have tried to give you our most sincere advice, from the heart......but you are simply ignoring it. Are you a man or a mouse? L Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted June 2, 2001 Share Posted June 2, 2001 Laurynn's pretty much told you like it is. Since your girlfriend broke up two weeks ago, why are you stil so concerned about her opinion? I don't think you will be successful in stopping your use of pornography unless you cease FOR YOURSELF, not others. If your exposure to porn has diminished substantially from what it used to be, I wouldn't characterize it as an addiction anymore. I'm with Laurynn. If she's still around watching you like a hawk for signs of porn, get some gonads and tell her to bug off!!! Link to post Share on other sites
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