Ex-BF of 3 months doesnt seem like he wants to be my ex?

[seeingthisguy]

My boyfriend of 2 years and I split 3 months ago because he said he didnt feel the same way about me anymore, and that he thought we should be friends. A bit of background: my ex-boyfriend is, unquestionably, an alcoholic. He was sober for the entire time we dated. At the two year mark however, he started drinking again, and then decided to tell me he didnt feel the same way about me anymore. I was shocked.

 

That said, it's been 3 months now and he's been away for work - but our 'break up', doesnt seem at all like a breakup. He calls every single day multiples times/day, as if we were dating. Just yesterday he called me to tell me how much money he'd be making with his new gig, and that if it kept up, we could buy property together. The other night, he had a very expensive bottle of wine delivered to my door when I told him a gf and I were having girls night. He knows that I love to cook, and that I've been hunting high and low for a specific type of copper frying pan - he found it, bought it, and had it shipped to my front door. He tells me at the end of every phone call that he loves me (as a friend, of course.....I feel stupid just writing that one, lol).

 

Lastly, he's coming back from work next week, and he keeps telling me that he's home sick, and eludes to the idea that he wants to stay with me.

 

His words keep telling me that he doesnt want to be in our relationship, and that "he's fine", but his actions scream otherwise.

 

What gives??

[preraph]

Alcoholism. But you better be careful here. He said he only wants to be friends and I guess you agreed or you'd not be talking to him, so now he's free to see other women while "just being friends" with you and that will not stop him from sleeping with you and them both. Guys use that friend word more like "you be a friend and understand I need to have sex with a variety of women."

 

So pin him down on what he wants and tell him you are not fine with an open relationship and that if you're "just friends," you will both date other people and not each other. Keep it real defined.