Author Myasylum Posted April 8, 2019 Author Share Posted April 8, 2019 Boy... seems like this has kind of taken a life of its own. Some people are 100% accurate, others way off. She was watching a band, and I followed her out there. I felt like a creeper just standing there, and a pest being like... Oh let me help you, let me help you. Seemed kind of weird to me? She's not my girlfriend and doing anything more than I did seemed obsessive. So I left her be. She obviously went there alone so she knew what she was getting into, she had other friends there as well. I was just the one she spoke too most of the time. Well, at the beginning at least. Trust me, I'd be more then willing to hold a door open for her I'd there was one. I'm still talking to her, where this goes? Who knows? But whatever I didn't mustn't have killed off my chances completely... Link to post Share on other sites
Wallysbears Posted April 8, 2019 Share Posted April 8, 2019 Yea, I've noticed some people on this forum seem to look for problems rather than help solve problems. Anyway... Crutches are temporary... I did ask her out. It wasn't a yes or no answer unfortunately. Kind of this safe middle ground kind of thing. She's busy this weekend and probably the following weekend , she's not a good planner, she'll have to get back to me when she's free. Thought that was a blow off kind of answer, but we text back and forth all day. I guess that's something. See where it goes I guess. Thanks for all the helpful responses! Suggestion? Send one more text that's along the lines of "Hey, great chatting with you....let me know when you are free to get dinner. Hope to hear from you soon" and STOP TEXTING Leave the ball in her court and don't be there to be just some random text buddy 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted April 8, 2019 Share Posted April 8, 2019 I'm glad you asked her out & not through an intermediary. Her lukewarm response was unfortunately telling. If she gets back to you with a definite time, great. Otherwise, be polite when you see her but don't chase without more indicators of interest from her. Link to post Share on other sites
Gretchen12 Posted April 9, 2019 Share Posted April 9, 2019 You should have been flirting when you were helping her. Not too late. Don't treat her like a friend. Flirt ! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Myasylum Posted April 14, 2019 Author Share Posted April 14, 2019 (edited) Well, to anyone that cares to hear an update?? All that stuff about carrying her crutches and giving her too much or not enough attention, all seems to be irrelevant. I have spent much time going back and forth with her and I can say without a doubt... anyone that says they need "more time" 99% of the time isn't telling the truth. Just walk away. Being recently divorced i'm learning a lot here. Been out of the "game" for a long time. Truth is... she's just really not that interested, and I guess they feel it's mean just to come right out and say that. Plus they like the attention. As I was talking to my friend about this, he said, See this is exactly why I don't play "the game" anymore. I don't even want to bother. I think he's on to something there. She went back on everything she said, like it was just a big lie to keep me hanging around. Like someone else said on this forum, "a messaging buddy". I just kind of said... ok. and left it at that. Makes me kind of sad, but now I know. Edited April 14, 2019 by Myasylum Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted April 14, 2019 Share Posted April 14, 2019 Makes me kind of sad, but now I know. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. In a way, modern dating is a numbers game and you simply have to sift through possibilities to get what you want. Don't get discouraged, only works against you... Mr. Lucky Link to post Share on other sites
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