Ex messages me and calls me a slut. I feel so awful:/

[Taryanoriley]

I haven’t spoken to my ex for about a month. The last thing I wrote to him was when you truly love someone as you say you see a future with them, even if you’re not ready for marriage you still fantasize and want this person to be with you in the future... and he didn’t respond.

 

So, yesterday I posted a picture of myself in a bikini, yes it was sexy but I never wore a bikini in public my whole life and this was my first time and I was proud. He messages me out of the blue and says what is this? I thought you were a nice person but you are a slut now. I got so angry because I am far from a slut, I don’t even have casual sex or even care about sex and he slut shamed me and I cried all night.

 

Then I told him you are the slut who downloaded tinder and bumble throughout our relationship and don’t ever slut shame me or judge someone based on a picture. Then he told me after this picture I am officially done with you. And then I laughed and said dude we were officially done along time ago, why are you saying officially done? And then he said ok good luck and then we went back and forth.

 

I was moving on and feeling better and he ruined everything:( I am panicking since yesterday because I have anxiety. He was telling me that I changed and I am not a good person and kept saying it and it’s not true! Guys was he wrong of doing this? I always thought he was a narcissist, he always made me feel bad even when he did something wrong and never even said sorry when he did something wrong and always guilt tripped me. Did he message me because he wanted to hurt me an manipulate me. I feel so sick guys:( His words really hit me hard:(

[Orokotikki]

Did he message me because he wanted to hurt me an manipulate me.

Yes, obviously he did.

Why are in contact with him?

Block him everywhere.

Let Exes STAY EXES.

[Redhead14]

I was moving on and feeling better and he ruined everything:(

 

I was moving on and feeling better and he ruined everything:( -- No, you allowed him to ruin everything. Block, delete, erase, everything. This is on you. You looked at whatever he wrote because somewhere deep down you're still hoping he'll want you back and you're looking for that opportunity, I'd say.

 

 

That being said, his behavior is immature and ugly and you're allowing it to affect you -- He doesn't deserve to have that kind of power over you. Shake it off and keep moving.

[Taryanoriley]

I was moving on and feeling better and he ruined everything:( -- No, you allowed him to ruin everything. Block, delete, erase, everything. This is on you. You looked at whatever he wrote because somewhere deep down you're still hoping he'll want you back and you're looking for that opportunity, I'd say.

 

 

That being said, his behavior is immature and ugly and you're allowing it to affect you -- He doesn't deserve to have that kind of power over you. Shake it off and keep moving.

 

Thank you so much for your advice! I will block!

[Taryanoriley]

Yes, obviously he did.

Why are in contact with him?

Block him everywhere.

Let Exes STAY EXES.

 

Thank you so much. I will block:(

[ericw899]

Let me tell you this. When my ex broke up with me, I was totally against blocking her. Everyone hear said to do it & I never did because I wanted to keep that pathway open in case of reconciliation.

 

Looking back now, I made a huge mistake keeping her on social media. She was the most toxic person to walk the face of the earth & she took every opportunity to rub my nose in it when she was with a guy or just being petty.

 

What I’m tryna to get at is that exes don’t ever want you to be happy. You looked great, you were feeling yourself & he knew that. But he doesn’t want you feeling that way so he made sure to kick you down. Moral of the story. He is a toxic POS, block him for good, love your body go out & meet a real man

[smackie9]

how can you feel so bad when you stood up for yourself! You were mature, composed, and had made his criticism backfire on him. You are the winner here. You didn't back down, which shows empowerment. You know his words are not true. It's kinda nice that that the photo bent him out of shape.

 

 

 

I agree you need to block/delete him. if he ever contacts you again, just ignore it, don't read it, don't open it. Make sure he can't see your social media...make it private. And also block those who are still friends with him.

[kendahke]

That belch had more to do with him and how stunted he is than it does you. So post more pics of you in a bikini--you are a single woman who isn't in a relationship. You may do as you like and so effin' what if he's done with you? Boy, bye--good! Stay gone and thirsty, little boy.

 

As you can see, there is no sane reason to keep line of communication open to someone this hostile---and he's probably hostile behind the mess he did to ruin your relationship.

[Ruby Slippers]

He's mad because he knows it won't be long before you find a better boyfriend.

[snowcones]

Most men these days absolutely crumble in the face of competition. It's the thing they hate the most and they'd rather beat up or abuse a woman, than face another man. Block him. He's a little boy anyway.

[spiderowl]

He was trying to exercise control over you. Good for you for standing up to him!

 

He has no business saying anything. I agree with others you need to block him. Expect a backlash indirectly though. If he's narcissistic, he will not take kindly to being blocked and will try indirect methods to get attention. Best to ignore him if he does.

 

You obviously looked sexy in your bikini and it brought out his territorial side. He left so he has no right - that's why he tried shaming you instead.

 

You are so much better than this guy. I pity any future girlfriends he has.

[RecentChange]

From your posting history- this guy has been NO GOOD from the start.

 

I am sorry he has made you feel bad - this was never a healthy, loving relationship.

 

Eventually you will be thankful that it’s over, and I really hope you do some self reflection and grow - so you realize that he was always a bad person to be involved with - and that you won’t make the same mistake of getting involved with someone like him again. All they will do is tear you down and make you feel miserable in the end.

[preraph]

I'm glad you told him off. Now block him every which way, from your phone, your social media, everything and that way you get the last laugh, even if it made you cry. You can't let someone stay in your life who has resentment and wants to hurt you. Just cut him all the way off and don't tell him. Just do it.

[sandrawg]

He is definitely acting like a child, and wearing a bikini does not make you a sl*t!!

 

I had to block my ex on everything, too. I broke NC cuz I wasn't sure where we stood, but boy did he make it clear. He unleashed a bunch of hostile psychobabble on me that I think either came from his therapist, or a friend of his. Because it didn't sound like him at all.

 

Like you, the contact w him set me back. So he is finally blocked everywhere.

 

Your ex probably IS a narcissist..they are such hypocrites. He was looking for others on dating sites while he was with you, yet he wants to condemn YOU for wearing a bikini. Jerk!

[Captivating]

I think he was jealous when he wrote all that negative stuff for you.

You must have looked pretty on those photos I suggest keeping things classy in the future for your sake, watch what you post online, people can twist and use things against you.