Making friends

[Angel29]

For the past 6 years I have used meetup.com to make friends. Whilst at the beginning I met some great people they have moved on and got married, had families etc and don't come anymore. Even when I do see these friends I feel they are not authentic and hide a lot of their life away whereas my long time friends and I always share the good and bad times.

 

Meetup seems to have changed and the people that go now have severe mental health issues, insecure and needy or use it as a dating site and hurt people in the process. I do have friends I met before meetup but would like to meet some more people. Where can I meet people without using meetup? It would be nice to meet a man too but I find it hard at meetup as I am unable to make new connections when past dates are there watching.

[d0nnivain]

You can meet people through shared interests. As an adult I met my closest friends 1). doing a summer share in a house by the beach; 2). through a women's business group; 3). through a sorority alumnae group; 4). at a book club in my church; and 5). volunteering through a civic charitable organization.

 

It seems for me the routine of seeing the same people over & over, preferably every week, but at least every month helped forge the friendship. The friendships also deepened when I reached out to specific individuals & invited them to do something with me outside of the organization.

[stillafool]

Sure take a class, join a hiking group, take up golf, etc., whatever your interests are just do it. Something like this would be better than a meet up group to me. Let me ask you, why would you end your friendships just because they have gotten married and are now mated? When I was single I still saw my girlfriends who were married. Friendships don't end because people get married.

[Angel29]

Let me ask you, why would you end your friendships just because they have gotten married and are now mated?

 

I didn't want the friendships to end but they always have an excuse and it usually is they are spending time with their husbands. Most of the married ones went to meet a spouse at meetup so I don't think they were genuinely investing in friendships anyway. I do still make an effort with others though.