Author samjam7 Posted May 2, 2019 Author Share Posted May 2, 2019 (edited) hmm, you're right! I will try to believe it. Edited May 2, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator quote removed Link to post Share on other sites
TheFinalWord Posted May 2, 2019 Share Posted May 2, 2019 Good job. I am not trying to be harsh or anything. I feel bad because I know you're hurting. It's hard to think clearly and rationally when your feelings are fighting against your brain. You will feel better in time. Good luck! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author samjam7 Posted May 2, 2019 Author Share Posted May 2, 2019 (edited) No! You are completely right. Even my best friend said that now it's becoming more of my problem. It's me letting him hurt me. Yes! it is hurting. It is hurting beyond words. I just can't come to terms that his real face is this cruel. What he has been doing is pure evil. And thank you for all the advice. Edited May 2, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator quote removed Link to post Share on other sites
TheFinalWord Posted May 2, 2019 Share Posted May 2, 2019 TBH I don't think he's being evil. He's just immature. I forget his age (I think he is younger than you), but he is not grown up yet and doesn't know how to act in a relationship. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted May 2, 2019 Share Posted May 2, 2019 Yes, I was very ambitious and I am pursuing compsci master's. However, my performance this semester has been affected due to this emotional turmoil. Just flunked an exam today. I don't know if I have clinical depression now. I was willing to even be a stay at home if it meant saving our relationship. I really was crazy about him and there was a point in time when he gave the impression of being crazy about me too. He said his feelings won't ever change but guess it did. It's a shock to accept someone's new face. I hope I get better soon. I will try my level best to not reply. I have a feeling that he will reach out to me on my birthday. OMG you cannot throw away your life over this guy. Start therapy. Go see a counselor on campus. Also go see the professor of the class where you flunked the exam. Ask if you can do extra credit or retake the exam because you were emotionally compromised. The idea that you'd give up your degree & career to be a SAHM for a guy who probably could not support you breaks my heart. You are worth so much more than that. Block him. Do not let him ruin your birthday. The best present you can give yourself is a clean slate without him. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author samjam7 Posted May 2, 2019 Author Share Posted May 2, 2019 TBH I don't think he's being evil. He's just immature. I forget his age (I think he is younger than you), but he is not grown up yet and doesn't know how to act in a relationship. He is 23. Maybe he is immature but it still hurts me to think that he does not think about me once before doing all this. All he thinks about is himself. It hurts me to think that he says he loves me and misses me yet whenever I needed him the most he said in my face that he does not give a ****. Link to post Share on other sites
Author samjam7 Posted May 2, 2019 Author Share Posted May 2, 2019 OMG you cannot throw away your life over this guy. Start therapy. Go see a counselor on campus. Also, go see the professor of the class where you flunked the exam. Ask if you can do extra credit or retake the exam because you were emotionally compromised. The idea that you'd give up your degree & career to be a SAHM for a guy who probably could not support you breaks my heart. You are worth so much more than that. Block him. Do not let him ruin your birthday. The best present you can give yourself is a clean slate without him. I went to the therapist in my college but she was not that helpful. I think I need to go to a different therapist. I would work out but now I stopped working out too. I know the professor. She won't allow me. It sucks. I have to settle for a grade less than what I originally could have got. One thing I have not learned in life is how to not let my personal life impact my professional life. I don't know if it's part of being a woman. You're right. He was not worth so many emotions and maybe, in the long run, the universe wants me to keep my ambitions alive and work towards my career. That is why the relationship ended for the best. I know for a fact that in things like this I would have to make all the compromises. My ex came from a very conservative Pakistani joint family. He was not allowed to date. All his sisters-in-laws are housewives and all his brothers had arranged marriages. His mother is not that highly educated either. It's funny he knew all that and still promised me that he would manage things. Then I read an article online that said Pakistani guys often classify women in two categories. One girlfriend material and another wife material. For girlfriends, they prefer independent modern girls who have a mind of their own but whenever it came to marriage they prefer simple housewife material girls. However, while dating they promise their girlfriends that they would get married and what not. That's exactly what my ex did. Told me he would introduce me to his parents but when things got real he freaked out and broke up. Yet he continues to claim that he loves me to portray himself as some hero who got wronged. Link to post Share on other sites
Rotaglia Posted May 7, 2019 Share Posted May 7, 2019 Forget it. Ditch this fool. Total no contact (NC) from now on. Celebrate yourself. Focus on your life and ignore his. And get yourself a nice boyfriend worthy of your time and attention when you are ready and make sure he treats you right. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author samjam7 Posted May 7, 2019 Author Share Posted May 7, 2019 @Rotaglia I don't know why am I like this. Yesterday night I cried a lot because he did not text me a happy birthday. I will never know what the deal was with him because he was so secretive about his feelings. How can he just forget me like that in his good times when I stood by him when he had nothing. I don't know why I can't reach that indifference phase that he has reached. I still have hope one day he will come crawling back and realize his mistake. Link to post Share on other sites
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