Longterm bf was planning on going to a wedding without me

[Whoknew30]

I disagree in the sense that you say they issue also isn't his sexuality. It is absolutely an issue.

When we first got into relationship, I believed I was in a monogamous relationship with a straight man. Then he's texting a transgender woman 3 years later. And I'm sorry, I know it's 2019 and you aren't allowed to say it, but she had a penis. You can call yourself or feel whatever you want. Anyone has that right. You can get an operation to get a vagina. This particular woman didn't have one, and those are just the facts.

I'm not saying anyone has to be straight, or whatever, but had I known from the jump he was gay, bi, whatever you want to label it other than straight, I wouldn't have involved myself. Too much going on. That's a personal choice. Doesn't make it wrong, (and not claiming you said it was either)

At any rate, he claims he's not gay, or even bi, he was apparently raped in college by a man and confused. After he told me that, when I caught him texting the transgender woman, we broke up and he went into heavy therapy and AA. Since then is the only time I saw any change in him. Now here we are with the wedding.

 

This wedding isn’t your issue, your choices are your issue so maybe stop deflecting & getting mad at others bc you’re staying with a guy you don’t trust. You’re cutting people down like their cheap, over their wedding bc “your” bf is haveing some cheating & sexuality issues he hasn’t figured out.

 

You have the choice to leave & if you choose to stay these issues are your & his alone...not outside people simply getting married. I scammed Over something about having a child...hopefully you’re not behaving desperately & cutting these people down in front of your child bc you don’t have the strength to walk away from a toxic situation (which it is. Would you wa t to see your child behaving like this over someone that cheated & wasn’t perfectly forward about their sexuality?

 

 

Give yourself the same advice you’d give your child.

[gradh]

At any rate, he claims he's not gay, or even bi, he was apparently raped in college by a man and confused. After he told me that, when I caught him texting the transgender woman, we broke up and he went into heavy therapy and AA. Since then is the only time I saw any change in him. Now here we are with the wedding.

 

He's full of crap. He is not straight. He wants to be straight but that's not the same thing. He craves a romantic relationship with a woman but wants sex with a man. A transgender woman is perfect for him actually. To the outside world they're a normal couple if her features are feminine enough. "I was abused and so now I'm confused" is a very typical thing for a guy who is living in denial about his sexuality to say. OMG..run now...please don't marry him.

 

Visit the forums Straight Spouse Network Open Forum and do some reading of other people's stories. I bet you'll find a lot of familiar stuff in them.

 

I wish someone had told me like I'm telling you. If you stay you will regret it. Get out now before you have children with him!!!