TheCasual Posted April 17, 2019 Share Posted April 17, 2019 So I met this girl on the train on the way back from a football(soccer) away game in Nottingham in early March. Me and my mate where drunk and had a good laugh with a few people on the train. Especially this one girl. We added each on Facebook and chatted each day. Me and my mate went to another football away match on Saturday and we agreed to meet her and friends in the pub before the match and a good laugh. After the game, we went to the pub until our train was due. We got our train home and sat next to each other. She kept resting my head on my shoulder and holding my hand and put her phone number into my phone. She asked me if I liked her and I panicked and said no, she's too young(She's 20 and I'm 31). But I do have a crush on her. Although the age gap does worry me. She's now stopped messaging me. I've not heard from her since Saturday night. I'm not sure what to do now? I don't want her to think I'm playing games. Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted April 17, 2019 Share Posted April 17, 2019 I'm not sure what to do now? I don't want her to think I'm playing games. Not sure of your question. If you're not playing games, no means no, right? Why would it be surprising she's not messaging you? Mr. Lucky 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted April 17, 2019 Share Posted April 17, 2019 I mean, you said no, so she's doing the right thing and not pestering her. Why do you care if you don't like her? I mean, you said you have a crush, but what are you wanting, for her to sleep with you but not ask for more or something? Did you just mean you wouldn't take her seriously? Or she's too young to even mess with? You can't have it both ways. At her age, if you agree to see her at all, she's not going to understand the fine points. She's going to assume you want to be her bf. Link to post Share on other sites
Wallysbears Posted April 17, 2019 Share Posted April 17, 2019 She asked if you were interested in her. You said no. What did you expect? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
mark clemson Posted April 18, 2019 Share Posted April 18, 2019 I think you should do exactly what you're doing and let her go. You correctly recognized that 20 is just too young. Look for a true peer and move on... Link to post Share on other sites
Author TheCasual Posted April 18, 2019 Author Share Posted April 18, 2019 The reason I said I said was because I got scared :-( I do like her. I want to go on a date with her. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted April 18, 2019 Share Posted April 18, 2019 Assuming you still have her # in your phone, call her up & ask her on a date. Do tell her that you only said "no" that you didn't like her because you are worried about the age gap. Link to post Share on other sites
mark clemson Posted April 18, 2019 Share Posted April 18, 2019 Yes, if that's really how you feel, then go ahead and call per Donnivain. Keep in mind that the age difference might make long term compatibility difficult. Link to post Share on other sites
Simple Logic Posted April 18, 2019 Share Posted April 18, 2019 So I met this girl on the train on the way back from a football(soccer) away game in Nottingham in early March. Me and my mate where drunk and had a good laugh with a few people on the train. Especially this one girl. We added each on Facebook and chatted each day. Me and my mate went to another football away match on Saturday and we agreed to meet her and friends in the pub before the match and a good laugh. After the game, we went to the pub until our train was due. We got our train home and sat next to each other. She kept resting my head on my shoulder and holding my hand and put her phone number into my phone. She asked me if I liked her and I panicked and said no, she's too young(She's 20 and I'm 31). But I do have a crush on her. Although the age gap does worry me. She's now stopped messaging me. I've not heard from her since Saturday night. I'm not sure what to do now? I don't want her to think I'm playing games. She ask, you told her you weren’t interested. Game is over. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted April 18, 2019 Share Posted April 18, 2019 this weekend binge watch Game of Thrones to keep yourself occupied Link to post Share on other sites
Author TheCasual Posted April 18, 2019 Author Share Posted April 18, 2019 I do like her. A lot. I'd like to date her and see where it goes. I'm just a bottle job with women. I panic when one shows a interest in me. Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted April 18, 2019 Share Posted April 18, 2019 I'm just a bottle job with women. I panic when one shows a interest in me. Then you need all the practice you can get. Call her up, see what happens... Mr. Lucky Link to post Share on other sites
Author TheCasual Posted April 21, 2019 Author Share Posted April 21, 2019 We got chatted again yesterday and this morning I asked her out for a drink. She's been online, but not replied. Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted April 21, 2019 Share Posted April 21, 2019 I got scared :-( Are you sure you're 31?? Apart from that though, a 20-year old girl is a little young for a 31 year old man. It'll be a little funky for a much older guy to date a young woman who isn't even of drinking age yet. Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted April 21, 2019 Share Posted April 21, 2019 Some things are just not meant to be and you blurted out "no" for all the right reasons actually. She is too young, she is at a different life stage and no doubt like what usually happens, you will fall in love and she will one day fly away to get on with her own life, and leave you heartbroken... Link to post Share on other sites
Author TheCasual Posted April 21, 2019 Author Share Posted April 21, 2019 Are you sure you're 31?? Apart from that though, a 20-year old girl is a little young for a 31 year old man. It'll be a little funky for a much older guy to date a young woman who isn't even of drinking age yet. I'd had a lot to drink and I was tired. The drinking age in the UK is 18. I didn't plan to like someone younger. It just happened. Link to post Share on other sites
snowcones Posted April 21, 2019 Share Posted April 21, 2019 Lol guys do this all the time. Panic, I mean. Then come backpeddling. Really, you have no choice now but to go back to her and backpeddle. Tell her you thought about it and realized that you do like her. It will up to her whether she wants to deal with you anymore, but it's the only shot you have. Link to post Share on other sites
Author TheCasual Posted April 21, 2019 Author Share Posted April 21, 2019 Lol guys do this all the time. Panic, I mean. Then come backpeddling. Really, you have no choice now but to go back to her and backpeddle. Tell her you thought about it and realized that you do like her. It will up to her whether she wants to deal with you anymore, but it's the only shot you have. If I'd of been sober I'd of dealt with differently. She has hinted in previous messages. She has been hurt in the past. Link to post Share on other sites
snowcones Posted April 21, 2019 Share Posted April 21, 2019 If I'd of been sober I'd of dealt with differently. She has hinted in previous messages. She has been hurt in the past. You can go with that and hopefully she'll buy it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author TheCasual Posted April 25, 2019 Author Share Posted April 25, 2019 I sent a drunk on Monday night and she hasn't responded. Link to post Share on other sites
Orokotikki Posted April 25, 2019 Share Posted April 25, 2019 Thats a big age gap... Not just in sheer number of years, but from someone 31 to another barely out of high school. Yikes. Delete her number and move on, it'll be a bullet dodged. Link to post Share on other sites
Author TheCasual Posted April 26, 2019 Author Share Posted April 26, 2019 After sending it on Monday night, she finally 'read' it tonight at 7:30pm. It feels like wrecked another chance with a girl :icon_sad: Link to post Share on other sites
Author TheCasual Posted May 6, 2019 Author Share Posted May 6, 2019 I've not really spoke to her in the last few weeks. But still like her. Thinking of just sending her a message and totally honest with. Link to post Share on other sites
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