dateme Posted April 21, 2019 Share Posted April 21, 2019 I was out with friends and a bachelorette party came into the club. They were wild and we all went back to their hotel and had sex. Every member of that group gave it up. Is this common with brides to be? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted April 21, 2019 Share Posted April 21, 2019 I would hope not but it does happen on both sides. Grooms to be get more stereotyped for doing this. Some people think this "last hurrah" is a rite of passage. Most just see it as cheating on your FI. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted April 21, 2019 Share Posted April 21, 2019 Congratulations. Another notch for your belt. Definitely something to brag about... not! 4 Link to post Share on other sites
mortensorchid Posted April 21, 2019 Share Posted April 21, 2019 How do you feel about it? You don't seem like you want to be patted on the back for what you did. You sound like of ashamed of it. How did she feel about it the next morning? But those thoughts aside for now... You can chuck it up to an experience and you can also say "I did what I did, it was a party for the last hurrah before they get married." But whatever you do, keep your mouth SHUT. It was probably just a last hurrah, acting crazy, etc. Don't let what she built up to be the thing that brings it all crashing down upon you and others. Does anyone else know? If so, you are in some deep s***. Link to post Share on other sites
DKT3 Posted April 21, 2019 Share Posted April 21, 2019 Being married to someone who would do this is the problem, not someone running thier mouth and the betrayed finding out....that is a blessing 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted April 21, 2019 Share Posted April 21, 2019 (edited) Being married to someone who would do this is the problem, not someone running thier mouth and the betrayed finding out....that is a blessing Agree. Furthermore, having sex with a wedding party and running your mouth about it is a rather poor sign of character. Not something most people would consider doing, or bragging about. Nowhere in the original post do I see any sign of remorse. Edited April 21, 2019 by BaileyB 2 Link to post Share on other sites
DKT3 Posted April 21, 2019 Share Posted April 21, 2019 Male minds Bailey, hell most men dont really feel bad for cheating on their wives. They do feel bad if she finds out and is hurt by it. But the sex itself, nope, no bad feelings there. So the odds that many men would feel bad in OPs position is slim to be honest. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Highndry Posted April 21, 2019 Share Posted April 21, 2019 A long time ago, a friend of mine who I worked with confided in me that he slept with a female coworker mere weeks before she got married. I was shocked, because I knew the gal as well. She went forward with the marriage and I always felt bad for the husband when I'd see him. When I look back on those times there were a lot of shady women in that workplace, but they were "professional" on the outside. My female boss used to flirt with me and tell me about how she liked sex in the morning, and much more detailed stuff. She was married. I think men get a bad rap as the "cheaters" when women are equally as bad. 6 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted April 21, 2019 Share Posted April 21, 2019 Why do people even get married if this is where their head is at? Gawd! Just stay single, people! I can't think of anything less logical than cheating on your bride or groom to be! These idiots shouldn't be getting married! 10 Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted April 21, 2019 Share Posted April 21, 2019 I work in a resort that frequently hosts bachelorette parties and I can confirm that this happens often. There is a club down the road from my work that will have little games for a bride to be to engage in. These games consist of going around the bar and getting phone numbers from strangers, to making out with them, which generally leads to the bride to be hooking up with a random dude that night. Apparently, I give people more credit then they deserve. Carry on then... 2 Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted April 21, 2019 Share Posted April 21, 2019 I was out with friends and a bachelorette party came into the club. They were wild and we all went back to their hotel and had sex. Every member of that group gave it up. Is this common with brides to be? Oh, so you're one of those kinds of dudes... 4 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted April 21, 2019 Share Posted April 21, 2019 I'm gonna say no...it was luck of the draw for you. Link to post Share on other sites
TheFinalWord Posted April 21, 2019 Share Posted April 21, 2019 OP, I think that's scumbag behavior on their part, and yours. If that sounds judgemental, than so be it. I feel sorry for people that have such little self-control that they can't refrain from cheating on their soon-to-be spouse. Or the people engaging in the cheating, knowing full well that is another person's fiance. How do you sleep at night? I also feel sorry for people where sex is so meaningless, that even in the context of a marriage, it means nothing. We all know about the 7-year itch. But these couples haven't even started yet. Doomed for failure. 7 Link to post Share on other sites
guest569 Posted April 21, 2019 Share Posted April 21, 2019 Are you going to the wedding? Might be a bit awkward. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted April 21, 2019 Share Posted April 21, 2019 Before everyone gets in a tizzy, and starts calling the OP a scumbag...it's possible the bride and groom consented they both to have a night of debauchery before tying the knot.. It's possible they have an open relationship or they are swingers. Not everyone is a deviant because they have a different view about sex. I had a friend, and him and his fiance went off to get laid with other people before getting married. They had a long time open relaitonship. So all is not what it seems looking from the outside. Was it wrong for the OP to smash the bride to be? Maybe, maybe not. Not everyone is going to care about it. It doesn't involve me, so whatever floats yer boat. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Shining One Posted April 21, 2019 Share Posted April 21, 2019 I've hooked up with a few women from bachelorette parties over the years, but never the bride. I can understand why it's wrong to hook up with the bride (unless she and the groom-to-be have an understanding), but what's wrong with the rest of the group? Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted April 21, 2019 Share Posted April 21, 2019 I can understand why it's wrong to hook up with the bride (unless she and the groom-to-be have an understanding), but what's wrong with the rest of the group? Nothing really, assuming that everyone is single and consenting adults. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
greymatter Posted April 21, 2019 Share Posted April 21, 2019 How do you feel about it? You don't seem like you want to be patted on the back for what you did. You sound like of ashamed of it. How did she feel about it the next morning? But those thoughts aside for now... You can chuck it up to an experience and you can also say "I did what I did, it was a party for the last hurrah before they get married." But whatever you do, keep your mouth SHUT. It was probably just a last hurrah, acting crazy, etc. Don't let what she built up to be the thing that brings it all crashing down upon you and others. Does anyone else know? If so, you are in some deep s***. This is terrible advice, to support/encourage lying by omission. BTW it's "chalk it up..." not "chuck it up." I don't understand why anyone would encourage or minimize OP's sh*tty behavior, at all. He is bragging by posting about it here, except he is too ignorant to realize he is only revealing his true character and it's not pretty. OP, not cool. I hope that everyone finds out about this who should know, and that the groom dumps the fiance. What a huge disgusting mess - and you seem proud of it. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
greymatter Posted April 21, 2019 Share Posted April 21, 2019 Before everyone gets in a tizzy, and starts calling the OP a scumbag...it's possible the bride and groom consented they both to have a night of debauchery before tying the knot.. It's possible they have an open relationship or they are swingers. Not everyone is a deviant because they have a different view about sex. I had a friend, and him and his fiance went off to get laid with other people before getting married. They had a long time open relaitonship. So all is not what it seems looking from the outside. Was it wrong for the OP to smash the bride to be? Maybe, maybe not. Not everyone is going to care about it. It doesn't involve me, so whatever floats yer boat. Anything's possible. The OP could easily contact the groom and check in about that if he wanted to make sure it was with everyone's consent and blessing. I'm guessing OP won't be doing that. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
I'veseenbetterlol Posted April 21, 2019 Share Posted April 21, 2019 I work in a resort that frequently hosts bachelorette parties and I can confirm that this happens often. There is a club down the road from my work that will have little games for a bride to be to engage in. These games consist of going around the bar and getting phone numbers from strangers, to making out with them, which generally leads to the bride to be hooking up with a random dude that night. That's just sad! The bride to be isn't single, she is engaged. A bachelor/bachelorette doesn't give the freedom to sleep w/random people. In this case, both people are at fault. The OP feels as though it's ok because it happens often. Sleeping w/people in a relationship, engaged or married is NEVER ok. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted April 22, 2019 Share Posted April 22, 2019 (edited) its betrayal ...disloyalty not good signs at all for upcoming nuptials.....its cheating...i dont care about this last hurrah crap from men or women....personally i feel if you agree to marry someone that means not having sex with other people....i dont feel its done often or at all common,rightly so, as it shouldnt be even contemplated....this could ultimately end a marriage even before it begins.....its sad ...and horrible..disheartening for the person who feels their partner is going to be loyal and true to them...you ultimately hurt someone i hope you are remorseful...because you just changed a sacred union for the worse...you harmed a marriage.....deb Edited April 22, 2019 by todreaminblue 3 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted April 22, 2019 Share Posted April 22, 2019 (edited) Anything's possible. The OP could easily contact the groom and check in about that if he wanted to make sure it was with everyone's consent and blessing. I'm guessing OP won't be doing that. The OP made it out to be a party that just happen to show up...I don't think he knew any of these people. Is that right OP? And if she wants to sleep with someone, that's her own business IMO. Different strokes for different folks. Edited April 22, 2019 by smackie9 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TheFinalWord Posted April 22, 2019 Share Posted April 22, 2019 I stand by my original opinion. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Simple Logic Posted April 22, 2019 Share Posted April 22, 2019 I know a couple where the female hooked up at the B party. It eventually got back to the male and divorce was filed. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
princessaurora Posted April 22, 2019 Share Posted April 22, 2019 I went to a a bachelorette party like that once. All the girls were hooking up with a group of guys we met at a club. When I didn't participate, they wanted to know why. I told them I was married. They said " so are we, but tonight doesn't count, that''s what these parties are for.". Even the bride to be assured me it was OK because my husband would never find out. I was stunned as I'd been to many bp''s and only the single girls did this sort of thing. Personally, I think it's trashy unless as another poster said, it was agreed upon on advance. I wouldn't risk a long term stable relationship for some night of mediocre sex with a stranger. And I would hope that women like that are in the minority. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
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