Maw Posted April 23, 2019 Share Posted April 23, 2019 Hi all, Sorry for my English..it might not be perfect:) I was very excited to find a job in a local company. Most of the workers were low skilled workers from other countries..but it doesn't really matter. I met a man there, he always tried to talk to me. We had limited sitting spaces and he cleared a space for me. He was 66 years old but very attractive. It started slowly, he was bringing me tomatoes, then bottle of rum. Always bringing me coffee..then seafood lunches and fruitshakes. Then breakfast and lunches. I couldn't take it. He invited me to go out, I refused it. Still we were friends but when he told me I'm beutiful for so many times I fell awkvard and I felt awkward. I'm very sensitive...If someone gives me something I don't take it for granted. He gave me bottle of rum before so I brought him potato vodka for his b-day. Day after he gave me jewlery..and he showed me photos of clothes, asking which I like. I laughed it off..but had bad feeling. Last time he insisted I should have a hot tub and because he worked in that department he said he will fix it for me. He knew I'm married but he never really talked about his family. I told the story to one of the cooworker and he complained to HR for me...I didn't want it, before that I tried to fix it by myself. They make me to complain. I found out it happened before..with the same man. They nearly fired him.To be honest I felt so embarrassed to go there the next day. It was small company and the gossip was crazy. What would you do in my skin? Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted April 24, 2019 Share Posted April 24, 2019 (edited) You need to tell him that you enjoy being his co-worker but he has to stop giving you gifts because you are married he's crossed a line from being thoughtful into inappropriate. Edited May 11, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator typo Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted April 24, 2019 Share Posted April 24, 2019 Just be polite and professional to him at work when you have to work with him. If he keeps it up, of course you need to just tell him no more gifts, I'm married. We are friends at work, but we need to keep it professional. I won't have people talking about me. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted May 9, 2019 Share Posted May 9, 2019 Keep moving forward! You have to keep this man because he is wonderfull and he really loves you! Please tell me that the "he" in your answer is the OPs HUSBAND. She's married. The guy at work is intruding on her marriage. Link to post Share on other sites
The Outlaw Posted May 12, 2019 Share Posted May 12, 2019 Remind him that you're married and respect the vows of your marriage, and thanks, but no thanks to the gifts if he keeps it up. After awhile of that, he should just back off and leave you alone and there shouldn't be any more issues. Link to post Share on other sites
Foxhall Posted May 14, 2019 Share Posted May 14, 2019 He must have thought you wanted a "sugar daddy"!! ah wel just set him straight that you are a happily married woman (I assume you are!) and that you simply want to keep things cordial and no more. stand up for yourself and be assertive. Link to post Share on other sites
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