Bad boo on Grindr sending nudes

[Iris-owl]

Hi. I’m new on this forum and look for help and advice. I will appreciate any opinion, and every is valuable.

 

I’m together with my bf for 3 years already. We live together. We (I) I have problem with him keep on seeking something on dating accounts. I cought him secretary installing dating apps a lot of times already. We’ve been through almost break up stage thanks for hot his crave for it. It’s very hard on me, I’m a person who doesn’t do such nasty things and I’m happy with him. If it wasn’t for this need that he has. We’ve been through lying stage a few times, I was disappointed few times. He just can’t be true with me. Always have something to hide. I love him a ton. I lost a lot of trust in relationship and started to spy and check him. He’s away on a training trip for 5 days and comes back soon. Today I created fake Grindr account and it turns out he send me picture of his guts. I tried to make our fake meting real, but he sorta tried but refused, in the end blocked me. Here’s the messages we exchanged:

H: I’m free today

M: me too, you want to meet?

H: I do, but I don’t know if it will end up with an happy ending

M: why?

H: I dunno. Maybe you won’t be that cute or miss a tooth... I dunno. First we need to get to know each other better. I’m a kinda “have everything under control person”

M: I don’t, I’m 100% healthy! So is the sex possible?

H: me too. Yes it is possible.

M: you have time? Send some pictures? I’m bored and horny home. You have a place?

H: he sends 1 picture of his body and 2 pictures of his goods.

M: nice

H: send back some

M: send back fake foto

H: I have a boyfriend

M: me too, no problem.

M: So can we meet today?

M: you send pictures and then don’t even say anything

H: I’m a terrible layer. My boyfriend would’ve find it out.

And he blocks me.

 

That’s the story. What should I do? Is it okay and normal for man to do these things? I feel bad. He makes me feel bad. Help ?

[RecentChange]

What should you do?

 

You should have some self respect and love yourself more than you love someone who lies to you, and would likely cheat on you.

 

By continuing to stay with him, despite his lying, the dating apps, the flirting etc - you have shown him you accept being lied to, disrespected and treated poorly.

 

In my experience, people like this DON’T CHANGE. So, either accept that your boyfriend will always be hunting for some new tail...

 

Or break up with him. That’s my advice. He can try to find someone else who will care about him, and put up with this kind of BS.

[d0nnivain]

. What should I do? Is it okay and normal for man to do these things? I feel bad. He makes me feel bad. Help ?

 

Sometimes hanging on causes more pain then letting go. You feel bad because this man is being horrible to you. He's an unfaithful liar which is on him, not you. No it's not normal for a good man to do this. You two live together. Unless you agreed to an open relationship, he is supposed to be faithful. He's not. Get rid of him. When you stop trying to force him to be a good person when he wants to play & cheat, you will feel better. He's the source of your pain. He won't change so you have to. First change: get rid of him.