E-Squared Posted April 25, 2019 Share Posted April 25, 2019 I'd like to know what you guys think. There was a time when I used to be afraid of approaching women or showing interest in women, because I had bad experience of making a girl feel weird. I look back and may have come off a bit strong at times, but that was all in the past. I will note that there are people out there who don't understand how boundaries work and can go far as to make some people uncomfortable. Then of course there are people who will just accuse someone of doing something to make them uncomfortable, when the person didn't really do anything. I have even read about how some people believe "it's only creepy if you're unattractive." But there are creeps out there who don't understand a thing or two about boundaries, or even bring up subjects that are NSFW. So what do you consider creepy behavior? Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted April 25, 2019 Share Posted April 25, 2019 creepy behavior would be taking upskirt videos and pics of women in their 20s Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted April 25, 2019 Share Posted April 25, 2019 How we decide who's creepy 3 Link to post Share on other sites
LivingWaterPlease Posted April 25, 2019 Share Posted April 25, 2019 Someone we find unattractive in any way who is trying to provoke; especially in an unfamiliar and or inappropriate or unusually bold manner, could be familiar manner, too, though; a positive (guess it could be negative response, also, more rarely) emotional or physical response from us could be considered creepy. Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted April 25, 2019 Share Posted April 25, 2019 So what do you consider creepy behavior? Almost everyone has boundaries that are pretty perceptible in social interactions with them. To me, creepiness involves ignoring those signals and violating the boundaries. The challenge comes in the variance from person to person and, the bigger the creep, the smaller is the ability to discern these differences... Mr. Lucky 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Logo Posted April 25, 2019 Share Posted April 25, 2019 It's whenever someone gives you the heebie jeebies or the screaming habdabs . You don't want them. Link to post Share on other sites
darkmoon Posted April 25, 2019 Share Posted April 25, 2019 are millionaire-men ever creepy? (or millionaire-women, come to that) Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted April 25, 2019 Share Posted April 25, 2019 (edited) that’s a strange question darkmoon. I can’t imagine being approached by a creepy guy who announced he was a millionaire. And if it did happen, I think most would assume he was a BS artist. Would you go out with a millionaire creepy guy? Edited April 25, 2019 by basil67 Link to post Share on other sites
Shining One Posted April 25, 2019 Share Posted April 25, 2019 Creepy behavior is subjective and not even close to clearly defined. For some, taking a selfie in front of a Darth Vader display to send to your kids is creepy behavior. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted April 25, 2019 Share Posted April 25, 2019 I think many times it is whether or not the person is attracted to the person to whether or not something can be creepy.. A guy saying something like "I'd like to run my tongue down every inch of your body" isn't creepy to the person who is hot and bothered and attracted to the guy, but if she isn't attracted to him then it became very creepy... I do think certain social norms automatically become creepy, age for example.. an 18 year old being hit on by a 35 year old is creepy.. attracted or not.. I also think we all can be creepy and can say things that to the wrong person just don't sound right... the trick is knowing what to say and to who to not be creepy.. So many times creepiness is all about attraction 3 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted April 25, 2019 Share Posted April 25, 2019 Unfortunately it's in the eye of the beholder. What one person views as creepy, others may see as fine. In this age where fewer & fewer people engage in interpersonal communication more "normal" behavior is considered "creepy" by too many. That is more of a function of their shortcomings then the actor's intent. Mostly it's creepy to get too close physically to a stranger in an area where there is space. For example on an empty train car you sit a few rows away. At rush hour you're lucky if you get a few inches. However, it would be creepy to touch the other people in the train car. Got it? One of the ways to minimize the creepiness factor is to smile & be disarming. It's called charm. I say hi to people all the time, sometimes with the words, other times by a tight smile & a nod of the head. It's acknowledging the other person's humanity, nothing more. If you get the sense that somebody is weirded out by you, engage in less eye contact & physically take a step back or even just walk away if it's a random encounter. Link to post Share on other sites
chillii Posted April 25, 2019 Share Posted April 25, 2019 l'm glad you said people , because women can be creepy to believe me. l've had some crap over the years , even hanging outside my house once or twice, even a stalker and a few other things . So shyt like that is creepy no matter who it is, even to a guy. Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted April 25, 2019 Share Posted April 25, 2019 Attraction is the key, not the behavior.. If a woman is into you, you can practically butcher a puppy dog right in front of her and she'll see it as something that you should have done anyway... All kidding aside, it's really what it's about...Ive heard of women calling out guys for being creepy for merely showing interest...I mean, c'mon...you could say you aren't into them, but that doesn't by itself make them creepy... TFY 1 Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted April 25, 2019 Share Posted April 25, 2019 creepy behavior would be taking upskirt videos and pics of women in their 20s But it would be considered educational if they happened to be in their 50's? TFY 1 Link to post Share on other sites
JuneL Posted April 25, 2019 Share Posted April 25, 2019 Barring outrageous behaviors, I think it’s more about the person than the behavior per se, with one caveat. A person can easily be regarded as sexy if he executes confidently the exact same “creepy” action that another person did without confidence. If you count “acting confidently” as part of one’s behavior, then yes, behavior itself matters as well. Michael Douglas was originally attracted to Glenn Close. But after her outrageous “bunny burning” behavior, he saw her as a creep. In this sense, merely attraction itself is not enough. Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted April 25, 2019 Share Posted April 25, 2019 Coming onto online dating advice sites asking what's creepy behavior Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted April 25, 2019 Share Posted April 25, 2019 Frtom Basil's article.creepiness is a response to the ambiguity of threat. Non-normative non-verbal and emotional behaviors, unusual physical characteristics and hobbies, or suspect occupations set off our “creepiness detector." Men are considered more likely to be creepy by males and females alike; women are more likely to perceive sexual threat from creepy people. Creepiness is about not really being sure if the threat is real or not. A big guy wielding a machete in a menacing way is not creepy he is an obvious threat and our first instinct is to run far away. Creepiness is where we think something/someone may be a threat but we are not sure, we are anxious and on alert but we don't really feel the need to run, so we get "creeped out" instead. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted April 25, 2019 Share Posted April 25, 2019 But it would be considered educational if they happened to be in their 50's? TFY Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted April 25, 2019 Share Posted April 25, 2019 I think many times it is whether or not the person is attracted to the person to whether or not something can be creepy.. But I think the creepiness comes into play when action is taken before any determination of attraction or consent is made. If I sit in a middle seat on a plane and immediately begin asking questions of the female passenger next to me, some creep involved. If I follow her lead and let conversation flow naturally, not so much. Unless I take the discussion in an unwanted direction. This is all reminding me of why I travel with noise-canceling headphones. Hard to get into trouble wearing them... Mr. Lucky Link to post Share on other sites
Logo Posted April 25, 2019 Share Posted April 25, 2019 In this age where fewer & fewer people engage in interpersonal communication more "normal" behavior is considered "creepy" by too many. That is more of a function of their shortcomings then the actor's intent. That's it in a nutshell! Link to post Share on other sites
Logo Posted April 25, 2019 Share Posted April 25, 2019 Attraction is the key, not the behavior.. If a woman is into you That, too. Two men could ask a woman the same question, but if she's attracted to one and not the other, one will get a frown and the stink eye, the other will get a welcoming smile to talk to her. It's all subjective. Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted April 25, 2019 Share Posted April 25, 2019 That, too. Two men could ask a woman the same question, but if she's attracted to one and not the other, one will get a frown and the stink eye, the other will get a welcoming smile to talk to her. It's all subjective. I don't know if its a set up thing for the video, but there are a couple of video's that show some guy in an older nondescript sedan ask women waiting for a bus if they want/need a ride...All of them said no and gave the guy a dirty look...Same guy, same clothes, pulls up in a new Lambo and most get in gladly, fawning and giggling then asking the guy if he's an actor or a tech company guru ... TFY Link to post Share on other sites
some_username1 Posted April 25, 2019 Share Posted April 25, 2019 Meh, it's just a word used extremely egregiously by women to try and control the behaviour of men they don't approve of by appealing to the judgement of those present. Thus the man is supposed to feel suitably shamed and vacate the area so the woman no longer even has to look at him. Over the years however the word has become so de-rigueur that it has been robbed of any significance to any sensible man with a healthy self-esteem and moral compass because such a man knows that the word typically does not describe *him* as a person, it describes his physical attractiveness to the woman in question therefore is entirely subjective and nothing to concern one's self about. Most sensible men will be self-aware of their behaviour enough to know if they are truly causing offence or whether it is all in the woman's head - usually it is the latter. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted April 25, 2019 Share Posted April 25, 2019 are millionaire-men ever creepy? (or millionaire-women, come to that) Yes, Darkmoon, they are. I worked briefly, one week, for one who was a creep. He had a huge overstuffed office and I filed some and one day I was filing back by his executive bathroom when I heard a conversation coming from there. He was at his desk not near there. He was bugging his employees' offices and would go in there to hear what was going on in whoever that was he bugged. Creepy. He is a hot tub millionaire. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted April 25, 2019 Share Posted April 25, 2019 Women have instincts of "off" behavior even before it gets to the obvious point, and those instincts are a survival instinct from the dawn of time because women had it rough in cave man days and had to learn to dodge trouble as best they could, and these instincts are as legitimate as when a lower mammal senses a predator nearby. They're real and valid, and no one should ignore them. There's women-blaming on this subject in this thread, and I would just tell you it's invalid. Even as children, girls had honed instincts. Any girl in my neighborhood could tell you who the creep was. Kids are often even better at sensing danger than adults, who foolishly try to override and rationalize their instincts with logic. If there's someone hurting animals in the neighborhood or causing some sort of other problem, police should always go talk to the neighborhood kids. Now, granted more of them never go outside anymore. But when they did, they'd know who would do something bad. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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