samjam7 Posted May 1, 2019 Share Posted May 1, 2019 I am on the same page. I feel so used and I feel like someone used me for 2 years as time pass girlfriend. I hate myself. My self-esteem is at all time low. I hope you have better self-discipline than I do and DO NOT maintain contact with him at any cost. Such people don't give you anything but heartache. Link to post Share on other sites
TheFinalWord Posted May 1, 2019 Share Posted May 1, 2019 I hope you have better self-discipline than I do and DO NOT maintain contact with him at any cost. You should do the same thin as the OP of this thread. Block him everywhere and cut all contact. It's the only way to break the neural pathways that have you bonded to another person. When you feel like writing him, write here instead. Anything but write him. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
samjam7 Posted May 1, 2019 Share Posted May 1, 2019 You should do the same thin as the OP of this thread. Block him everywhere and cut all contact. It's the only way to break the neural pathways that have you bonded to another person. When you feel like writing him, write here instead. Anything but write him. What about him texting me somehow? I can not block him on certain places as he has kept me blocked. Do not have the strength yet. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LittleWhiteSocks Posted May 1, 2019 Author Share Posted May 1, 2019 I am on the same page. I feel so used and I feel like someone used me for 2 years as time pass girlfriend. I hate myself. My self-esteem is at all time low. I hope you have better self-discipline than I do and DO NOT maintain contact with him at any cost. Such people don't give you anything but heartache. I think we have to take responsibility for our part in a dysfunctional relationship. It takes two to tango regardless. Now that I am not in it anymore, I see the bigger picture. All the red flags that I should have paid attention to. It hurts but I am trying my best to get through it. I don't talk to him anymore. I called and texted at first, but even though he responded it fell flat, so I left it alone. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LittleWhiteSocks Posted May 1, 2019 Author Share Posted May 1, 2019 What about him texting me somehow? I can not block him on certain places as he has kept me blocked. Do not have the strength yet. Dont respond to his texts. My ex did not reach out to me after we broke up, but I kept trying. It is tough, but we will get through it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LittleWhiteSocks Posted May 1, 2019 Author Share Posted May 1, 2019 This forum is really helping me feel better. I know my friends and family are tired of me crying to them. You all dont know me or him, so it's easier to tell you things and your responses are not based on what you know about me personally. I really thought he was the one, regardless of our fights because I thought we could get passed that. I was planning my whole life around what we had, but now that I look at what was said and what was not done, they are two different things. Maybe he loved me. Maybe not. I will never know, because I wont ask. All I know is right now he is with her and from what I know the future with her is already starting to be realized. It really hurts and it's messed up. We met on Tinder and I was hoping it wouldnt be like the other hookups but maybe we tried to make it more than it was because we were both lonely. Today, I feel a little better. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted May 1, 2019 Share Posted May 1, 2019 I'm glad you are starting to feel better. In time you will fully heal. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
grace4ever Posted May 9, 2019 Share Posted May 9, 2019 Thank you for sharing your thoughts and concerns with us. It is understandable that as women when we involved everything that we are for being loved and we are corresponded we feel that our partner used us. We give all that we are expecting to be loved and appreciated. When that does not happen, we feel disappointed, used and betrayed. That’s why a wise friend who is Pastor once told me that when you date a guy is not good to involved too much the physical part to be objective in the relationship and discern if he is the right match for you. I think he gave me a great advice!! Since then, I am focus to live friendship and learn how to be a good friend. On the other hand, it is understandable for what you are saying, that after constant arguing the relationship is not good. However, do not let the break-up affect your state of life. Even in the darkest moments in our life, there’s always hope. Break-ups are hurtful, but there is still hope that you will find someone special in your life, your soulmate. You can use this time to work in yourself (reinforce your strength and improve your weaknesses). Perhaps have you thought of seeking counseling or therapy? Counseling can help you to overcome and move on from this situation. Have you thought of forgiving your former boyfriend? Forgiveness does not mean that he did right. It means that you let the problem go and move on. It will restore your joy and peace. It is the first step of healing and change. Hope his helps. Sending you hugs. I will keep you in my prayers, my friend. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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