Ironman1 Posted April 29, 2019 Share Posted April 29, 2019 So long story short , i met this girl 7 years ago and after 6-9 months of friendship and talking with her 27*7 i fell in love with her. She was the only girl in my simple life she was 10 times more modern than me and 10 times more experienced when i fell in love with her i was 18 she was 19 and she had a bf and i did every stupid thing to win her each and every and she rejected me every time but never wanted to hurt me ..... But it was not all my fault ,i would find her touching me in public , playing with my hairs , making excuses to talk to me coming to my house at 23:00 !! Everything she did ,still she rejected me and we had a very horrible fight she said ur a normal friend to me and ........... but who talk with normal friend 24*7 etc etc etc After the fight I couldnÂ’t forget her i was in serious depression and all we had no contact for 6 months only wished each other new year and birthdays . I used to find her asking others if i was at the party or not etc etc but i used to behave very rudely with her , one time she was even gonna cry but still she forgave me every time . Then we had no contact for 2 years only occasions wish each other. But in dec 2018 i wanted everything normal with her because i really loved her and had not moved on still after 7 years so i talked with her at a mutual party we had a great time . I wished her on her birthday with a really beautiful message and she did the same kinda But now shes is not the same she has no future motivation nothing and she stays with really bad people and i really fear for her i want to tell her but fear of loosing her 100% earlier she used to reply my texts at even 4 am now all pf a sudden she doesnÂ’t reply me for 10-12 hrs and shows me attitude! I really fear for this girl ! I really love her Few days ago i was at her brother wedding she cut her feet and had no slippers i bought her slipper from 200km away she didnÂ’t even say it i just saw she was in pain and i did it i washer her legs i did everything for her she was so happy but for past one month she is behaving rudely idk why ??! I really need help i really love this girl from the bottom of my heart i love her . I tried telling 7 years in really short text so many things i cannot even tell in such a short text I have spend 7 years of my precious life for this girl i dont know how to move on !! I really want to move on i am tired of crying for her help me please !!?i just want her to be safe and happy !! Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted April 29, 2019 Share Posted April 29, 2019 Stop projecting your feelings onto her. I love her so she must love me. She doesn't. Nothing you can do will change that. You've got yourself stuck. Figure that out and fix it. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted April 29, 2019 Share Posted April 29, 2019 Stop. You do not love this girl. You lust her & you are infatuated with her. Unfortunately she does not ruin those feelings for you. She thinks you are a doormat. To drive 200 km to give her shoes is ridiculous. There wasn't a store closer where you could have bought her cheap shoes? You think acting like a martyr will prove to her how much you care for her & want to be with her. All it does is reinforce in her mind that you are not man enough to be her guy. Get this through your head: She is using you to stroke her ego. She will never have romantic feelings for you. Please stop prostrating yourself at her feet. She doesn't care & will continue to walk all over you because you let her. Every day you have to tell yourself that she's a mean person who doesn't care about you & you will be happy once you finally let go of this childhood infatuation. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
loversquarrel Posted April 29, 2019 Share Posted April 29, 2019 ^^^^this sums it up op. Not sure how you think any of us can help other than to tell you to stop wasting your life pining for someone who clearly doesn't want you. It's been a decade, get some help. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted April 29, 2019 Share Posted April 29, 2019 just want her to be safe and happy !! Putting it bluntly, not your job. She tried to be friends with you 7 years ago and you blew right through every relationship boundary. And the obsession just seems to have gotten worse over time. Not healthy, my friend. Get help, talk to someone about this. What do you have to show for the last 7 years of this behavior? Mr. Lucky 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ironman1 Posted April 29, 2019 Author Share Posted April 29, 2019 First of all , i really thank everyone for giving me your precious time. I have tried everything actually she is my fathers really old friends daughter and whenever i try and start to be ok with her not being in my life she pops up at a party or a family trip or a family meet and she starts the same things . One time i was really ok with her i moved on and she came up to me and said u know i fear my parents want me married soon what do u think . This is not done talking to me like this .once she was not at a party and then i found her sisiters whatsapp on and she was talking with her about:- Who all are at the party .... And ..... And.... And Then her sister said ask me straight and yes he is at the party And she said ok ok bbye This is not done i really want to move on but I don’t know how everybody around me says forget her I’ve been trying that for 3 years!!! And about those shoes i know that was stupid !!! And also do u think i should tell her she is involved with some really bad people who will harm her people around me think i should not tell her . Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted April 29, 2019 Share Posted April 29, 2019 You haven't listened to a thing. Wake up She is not your problem You are Link to post Share on other sites
Mrin Posted April 29, 2019 Share Posted April 29, 2019 Stop it. You're That Guy. Your being a creeper. She isn't into you. She will never be into you. She probably feels weirded out trying to even be your friend because of how you're acting. You won't change her mind. Ever. Doesn't matter what you say. What you do. What you buy her. Leave her alone. Get her out of your life and get out of hers. It is only a matter of time before she either takes a restraining order out on you or a boyfriend of hers drives his fist through your face. Please dude. I know it's hard. But you've got to move on. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted April 29, 2019 Share Posted April 29, 2019 You ask who talks late into the night with just friends. WOMEN. Lots of women. Nothing you can do will change her mind. She is not attracted to you. I don't know whether it's your looks or your personality (you are definitely over the top and showing her a lot of desperate and crazy), but this isn't an Andy Samburg romcom where the goofy drunk finally gets the prize girl because he won't leave her alone. In real life, that gets you a restraining order if you don't stop. It may also get you whupped on by her boyfriend. What it isn't going to get you is her. Because she knows who you are and she likes you okay as a friend, but she is not attracted to you. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted April 29, 2019 Share Posted April 29, 2019 And also do u think i should tell her she is involved with some really bad people who will harm her people around me think i should not tell her . If she is over 18 she is allowed to make her own decisions. If she choses to be around "really bad people" she is allowed to do that & you have no power to stop her. It's not your place to say anything. Link to post Share on other sites
Springsummer Posted April 29, 2019 Share Posted April 29, 2019 Seems like obsessive, compulsive disorder? I am more concern about you than her. Leave her alone. Nothing you can or should do. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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