How Do People Even Get A Girlfriend?

[endlessabyss]

I'll have to say most of the advice given in these subs are hilariously funny. Most of the advice is very generic, and has a very low probability of working.

 

Let me first tell you that there probably isn't much wrong with you, but in your head you think there is something wrong, because you haven't had a woman validate your ego, which makes sense. We all crave romantic love and acceptance....for the most part. It's called symbolic interactionism - we form our beliefs about ourselves through the feedback our environments give to us.

 

I'm about a decade older than you, and I had no problems with girls in in my teens up until my mid twenties, and I am just an average guy. You know what the difference between that time was and now? Social media was in its infancy stages when I was younger.

 

The real problem you are up against is technology. The women in your age group have a massive market of suiters at the swipe of their fingers, making your job that much more difficult, maybe even impossible. Another problem you may have is your social network, but I have some sort of a social network, and it doesn't really make a ton of difference when it comes to finding a good match.

 

There is only so much you can do about money and your body. Not everyone has the genetics of Lechowski and the money of a millionaire, and end of the day those things aren't even needed. All my friends have working class jobs, they're out of shape - beer guts, and they are dating women who are objectively very beautiful, as well as younger than they are.

 

I think what you have to accept is that most people don't actually meet their partners from actively looking. Things just sort of happen, and it's probably best to just be as content you can be with life until something organically presents itself. Forcing this issue is going to make you more jaded and burnt out, believe me.

 

In 2013, when the cringy PUA stuff was at its peak, and everyone was using it to try and learn how to interact with women, there were tons of guys who dumped thousands into "bootcamps", books, and many other gimmicks. Not only that, they wasted countless hours and a good amount of money in clubs, and other ungodly places, they didn't want to be, but did it anyways in the hope of having some meaningless "one night stand". The sad thing is these guys didn't get the results they wanted. They were taken advantage of by charlatans who knew they could profit off of mens insecurities.

 

One last thing I wasn't to emphasize is this problem isn't unique to you. 28% percent of men in your age bracket haven't had sex in the past year. The number of men, as an aggregate, not having sex is at an all time high. I could write a thesis on why this is, but the short answer is that you just got unlucky, and were born at the wrong time in history lol.

 

https://www.foxnews.com/health/number-of-american-adults-not-having-sex-reaches-all-time-high-report-says

 

Also, watch Roosh V's videos on YouTube. He was a "PUA" guy, very attractive looking bloke, slept with tons of girls, but all the empty sex in the world didn't fill the void. Now he is on a more spiritual journey. Don't let this get the best of you.

[outwithpeterpan]

I know that this seems like a really dumb question, but I really have no idea how people even get into romantic relationships, considering that I never even been in one before. All of my life, I have wanted to be able to have a dating life and a sex life but have been deprived of the opportunity of doing so. I'm 24 years old and i'm still a virgin with no end in sight to my dating woes.

 

And then there's the people who can find relationships so easily, I envy them so bad... I envy the pretty girls who can find boys with the snap of their fingers, I envy the men who never had a problem finding girls. I want to know what it's like to feel wanted, to feel loved by somebody. I have never felt wanted in my entire life...

 

I did everything that I could to escape the loneliness...

 

I tried joining clubs at my local college. I joined a film production club, an improv club, and even joined a church, just so I could meet people and meet girls. And although I have gotten some friends out of it, the majority of women there ignore me and arne't very receptive and I don't know why. The women who are nice to me either have boyfriends, or are not romantically or sexually attracted to me. I have asked out girls only to be ignored and for them to pursue other guys. Do you know how emotionally draining it is to do all of the pursuing and initiating conversation? It sucks, I wish I could be a hot girl and just sit back and let everybody pursue me.

 

I plan to ask out this one girl at my church knowing full well that there is a very high chance that she is going to say no. And when she says no, it will be very painful. But what choice do I have?

 

 

 

To all the people in relationships, all the people who have ever had a dating life, a sex life, any sort of romantic validation from the opposite sex, I envy you. I envy every single one of you. Iv'e never felt wanted in my life, iv'e never had the opportunity to have a dating life, and to be honest that's what I truly want.

 

You play the guitar! Clean up and play in a band on the side of your real job and you're golden. The next musician I know who gets no attention from women will be the first.

 

Cultivate your image a bit. You're shooting for an artistic image, right? Get a haircut that has some style. Undercuts are pretty played out but it's safe. If your professional life permits go a bit bolder imo. Black skinny jeans, leather jacket, some band shirts, converses or chelsea boots. Women who are into artistic types don't care that much about you being jacked. Just make sure you're fit and trim enough to look good in clothes and that'll do.

 

Do you play in a band already? What's the music scene around you like?