br00t Posted May 3, 2019 Share Posted May 3, 2019 (edited) There is this girl at my work, I always caught her looking at me, So one day I decide to go up and have a chat with her. She seemed completely disinterested in talking to me, So I decide to just think she wasn't interested. So now I completely ignore her, Don't even acknowledge her existence by talking to her, yet she still stares and looks at me. I can feel her looking at me when I walk past, I can see it out of the corner of my eye. If a woman isn't interested why keep looking? Edited May 3, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted May 3, 2019 Share Posted May 3, 2019 If a woman isn't interested why keep looking? Maybe your fly is open. You approached her, didn't work out so time to move on. Not much effect on you if she continues to stare at the back of your head... Mr. Lucky Link to post Share on other sites
somanymistakes Posted May 3, 2019 Share Posted May 3, 2019 Maybe she thinks you're weird and she's staring at you to keep an eye on you. Maybe she's really bored and just keeps staring in your direction. Maybe she thinks it's polite to look at you when you go by. Who knows? This whole thing is in YOUR head. She seemed completely disinterested in talking to me, So I decide to just think she wasn't interested. So now I completely ignore her, Don't even acknowledge her existence by talking to her You chatted with her. You decided she wasn't interested. You decided to snub her because of it. (intentionally blanking someone is rude, sir) Now you wonder what she's thinking. Well, so far it doesn't seem like you've bothered to find out what she thinks, you just make up ideas on your own. If you want to know what she thinks ask her, otherwise quit obsessing and making up theories in your head. Link to post Share on other sites
Dandelioness Posted May 4, 2019 Share Posted May 4, 2019 There is this girl at my work, I always caught her looking at me, So one day I decide to go up and have a chat with her. She seemed completely disinterested in talking to me, So I decide to just think she wasn't interested. So now I completely ignore her, Don't even acknowledge her existence by talking to her, yet she still stares and looks at me. I can feel her looking at me when I walk past, I can see it out of the corner of my eye. If a woman isn't interested why keep looking? I wonder if she's thinking the same thing. It may be that you both noticed each other looking at each other and it took on a meaningless life of it's own. She noticed you for whatever reason. It doesn't mean she's interested. I'm not sure why she snubbed you. If she's not interested, so be it. There's no need to be rude with a colleague. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Ajax Posted May 4, 2019 Share Posted May 4, 2019 I think completely ignoring her, assuming she is in fact looking at you, is kind of rude in itself. Maybe just give a nod of acknowledgement when you cant her looking your direction. It's socially appropriate, and if it turns out she isn't actually looking at you, you haven't embarrassed yourself. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author br00t Posted May 5, 2019 Author Share Posted May 5, 2019 I think it's actually important to ignore her. She was looking at me constantly, made a move, got the brush off, So I have no reason to give this woman any of my time or attention really. I just find it weird she looks at me all the time if she wasn't interested. Link to post Share on other sites
darkmoon Posted May 5, 2019 Share Posted May 5, 2019 perhaps she wants your job Link to post Share on other sites
somanymistakes Posted May 5, 2019 Share Posted May 5, 2019 I think it's actually important to ignore her. She was looking at me constantly, made a move, got the brush off, So I have no reason to give this woman any of my time or attention really. I just find it weird she looks at me all the time if she wasn't interested. If you think people don't deserve basic human politeness unless they're potential date partners... Link to post Share on other sites
Author br00t Posted May 5, 2019 Author Share Posted May 5, 2019 If you think people don't deserve basic human politeness unless they're potential date partners... This is what men don't understand. You have to treat women like this to avoid the friend zone. Say hi in passing maybe, But under no circumstances if you are interested in a girl do anything more than ask her out from the start. If she brushes you off you MUST walk away and ignore. This way she at least knows you were interested and by ignoring her it tells her you are not interested in her friendship. A lot of guys screw this up and don't get it Link to post Share on other sites
mrs rubble Posted May 5, 2019 Share Posted May 5, 2019 Is she really staring at you though? A couple of years back, I was sitting eating my lunch at the food court at the mall, staring into space, thinking about where I was going to go next when a guy sitting adjacent to me asked me if I knew him as he thought I was staring at him. I was so embarrassed, I was actually looking right through him...I was not in the slightest bit interested in him, in fact I was mortified that he'd even think I was interested in him. Link to post Share on other sites
somanymistakes Posted May 6, 2019 Share Posted May 6, 2019 This is what men don't understand. You have to treat women like this to avoid the friend zone. Say hi in passing maybe, But under no circumstances if you are interested in a girl do anything more than ask her out from the start. If she brushes you off you MUST walk away and ignore. This way she at least knows you were interested and by ignoring her it tells her you are not interested in her friendship. A lot of guys screw this up and don't get it Did you actually ask her out? You said you "had a chat" and she "seemed disinterested". That's not the same as "I asked her out and she said no." It sounds like you keep making things up in your head of what you think people are thinking and how you think people should behave. How's that working out for you? If you're not interested in her friendship and you don't think she wants to go out with you, WHY DO YOU CARE if she's looking at you or not? Also, the friend zone is not real and many, many women ONLY date people they are friends with first. Look around it's not hard to find posts by women in love with their friends! When you ask a woman out and she turns you down because she'd "rather be friends", that is NOT because you've been sucked into some magical friend zone vortex, it's because she ain't interested and is trying to be polite so you don't attack her. Link to post Share on other sites
LuckyM Posted May 6, 2019 Share Posted May 6, 2019 So many possibilities, who knows? When I stare at someone it is either because they remind me of someone else I know, they look suspicious, or with females, they are very pretty. I once stared at a man on a subway because he looked just like Brad Pitt. I couldn't get over it, and he knew I was staring. Great actor! Link to post Share on other sites
Springsummer Posted May 6, 2019 Share Posted May 6, 2019 (edited) There are weird people everywhere I guess. today this person walked by and insisted I do 2 high-five with him. what the hell? like I am his best friend. I dislike to have any physical contact with another person. but I didn't want to hurt him, so I did it anyway. urg... same day in the at noon, I walked by another guy in the cafeteria, who worn sun-glass (who the hell wear sunglass indoor?). He is a good looking guy. The way he looks made me really nervous. I unconsciously put my hand on my mouth. That's what happen with this guy, every time I walked by I either put my hand on my glass or something. I just too nervous and had to do something with my hand. These two men work at the same team, so I have the same chance encounter to either one of them. but they are the polar opposite, one is so chatty, warm and act like my best friend. One is so aloof and cool and act like don't know me. One I don't want to touch, one I have dreams. why is life work like that for me? Edited May 6, 2019 by Springsummer Link to post Share on other sites
Author br00t Posted May 7, 2019 Author Share Posted May 7, 2019 one is so chatty, warm and act like my best friend. One is so aloof and cool and act like don't know me. One I don't want to touch, one I have dreams. And let me guess, the one you want is the one who is aloof and ignores you? This proves my point with women. ignore them, you get them, You hang around like a bad smell they friend zone you. Link to post Share on other sites
Springsummer Posted May 7, 2019 Share Posted May 7, 2019 And let me guess, the one you want is the one who is aloof and ignores you? This proves my point with women. ignore them, you get them, You hang around like a bad smell they friend zone you. You couldn't be more wrong about it. One is simply a very gorgeous man, handsome face and great physique. the other, I couldn't say the exactly opposite...but I don't have a thing for bald and heavier man. also, the chatty one...after he asked how is my Monday, he proceeded to tell me he is very tired and readily to go home and sleep. I was shocked. previously, he also demonstrated he is not technically competent and avoid solving technical problem for me. Go figure... Link to post Share on other sites
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