Shauna26 Posted December 28, 2019 Share Posted December 28, 2019 Because he said his wife didn't want him no more and the love is not there no more she said it her self so he started talking me Link to post Share on other sites
ibby7 Posted December 29, 2019 Share Posted December 29, 2019 It was right around the one year anniversary of my girlfriend of 17 years death from cancer. Walked into a brewery struck up convo with bartender. That was it.. she targeted me.. showed interest.. knew I was lonely and we started a 16 month affair. One of the worst 16 months of my life.. stress.. lying.. everything. She was a straight up narcissist. It's been 7 weeks no contact. Link to post Share on other sites
TinyCastle Posted December 29, 2019 Share Posted December 29, 2019 We first met through professional circles, working on a major project together across organizations. We were both long time married. I had a teen, he had no children. After the project ended, he invited me out for drinks. That began a friendship that lasted 3 years. We would go out 1-2x monthly for dinner and drinks and just talk. We never acknowledged our feelings, but kept the friendship hidden from our spouses. I knew I was attracted to him and I thought about him all of the time. I assumed he didn’t feel the same until about 7 months ago, it evolved into a physical affair. Now I’m falling in love with him. He is trying desperately not to fall in love, as he does not want to blow up his marriage. My marriage is already moving toward separation with the help of a counselor. I cherish all of the time I have with my AP but I miss him so much during the spaces in between. And I worry constantly that it can’t last and I’ll lose him. I don’t regret the affair, but regret the circumstances that prevent it from becoming more. Link to post Share on other sites
Happy Lemming Posted December 29, 2019 Share Posted December 29, 2019 Many, many years ago, I was the "other man" and dated a married woman. We met through a mutual friend. She had told "our friend" that she was desperate for some male attention and sexual contact, as her husband never wanted to touch her. This friend knew I was single and a bit of a "horn dog". He thought I would be perfect for this woman. My friend called me up to meet him for drinks at local bar that had a small dance floor. He came with this beautiful woman. I didn't know he was bringing anyone with him, but was pleasantly surprised. We all chit-chatted a bit, then a song she liked started playing and she wanted to dance, so I went out on the dance floor with her. After that song ended, a slow dance started playing. As I started to leave the dance floor, she pulled me back towards her and told me to "slow dance" with her. At that point, she whispered a few things in my ear about her true intentions. I quickly agreed. When we got back to our table (after dancing), our mutual friend was gone. She must have said something to him before we started dancing. At that point, I paid our tab and she followed me back to my house. The sex was incredible!! It was like someone had unleashed a caged animal!! We "dated" for 8-12 months (if memory serves) and we had A LOT of fun. Lots of traveling, adventures, camping, etc. and "OMG" wild mind-blowing sex!! Link to post Share on other sites
Hip Pocket Posted December 30, 2019 Share Posted December 30, 2019 Lots of sweet stories here. Whilst away on vacation my MM asked me to dance with him. We sat down for a drink after and got to talking and found out that we both live in the same corner of the world. He asked where I worked and I wrote the address on a napkin, just the cross streets off a certain interstate. A couple of weeks after our trip ended he walked into my business and it was on. To this day he still thanks me for accepting that invitation to dance. Link to post Share on other sites
ElecLibre Posted December 31, 2019 Share Posted December 31, 2019 We met through mutual friends at a rock climbing gym, which is why i didn't see any wedding band at first, he would take it off to climb. He's 12 years older so I never questioned his intentions, and we would meet up regularly to climb and have drinks after, always with the group of friends. One night he offered to drive me home since I mentioned having to catch the bus, and we sat in the car for 3 hours just talking about life, our past, our dreams and our experiences. That's when I found out he was married. I did keep some distance after that out of respect but then the texting phase started and it became a nightly thing. I was also curious to see how far I could push the flirting before he told me to stop, so I'm definitely not all innocent. It was a full blown EA at that point and then evolved naturally into a PA. I'm not going to encourage you to pursue this, because it requires solid emotional awareness to accept being the "back-up" and having to live in secret. For me though, it's been a wonderful experience. Link to post Share on other sites
jah526 Posted December 31, 2019 Share Posted December 31, 2019 7 hours ago, ElecLibre said: We met through mutual friends at a rock climbing gym, which is why i didn't see any wedding band at first, he would take it off to climb. He's 12 years older so I never questioned his intentions, and we would meet up regularly to climb and have drinks after, always with the group of friends. One night he offered to drive me home since I mentioned having to catch the bus, and we sat in the car for 3 hours just talking about life, our past, our dreams and our experiences. That's when I found out he was married. I did keep some distance after that out of respect but then the texting phase started and it became a nightly thing. I was also curious to see how far I could push the flirting before he told me to stop, so I'm definitely not all innocent. It was a full blown EA at that point and then evolved naturally into a PA. I'm not going to encourage you to pursue this, because it requires solid emotional awareness to accept being the "back-up" and having to live in secret. For me though, it's been a wonderful experience. Sounds very similar to my experience. Mine didn’t wear the ring either at the gym. And he got me into his car alone one night after working out. I’d argue yours knew exactly what he was doing - he was out fishing. You’re just the first one who bit. These guys are manipulators with a capital M. He’s still manipulating you. Maybe one day you’ll realize that. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Beentheretoooften Posted December 31, 2019 Share Posted December 31, 2019 Lol! That’s funny. All of us are manipulators. Lol. Do a better job protecting yourselves and look in the mirror before you accuse 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Happy Lemming Posted December 31, 2019 Share Posted December 31, 2019 (edited) 18 minutes ago, jah526 said: He’s still manipulating you. It sounds like "ElecLibre" is happy and not being manipulated. I can assure you, I was quite happy being the "other man" and never felt manipulated or used. Edited December 31, 2019 by Happy Lemming Link to post Share on other sites
William Posted December 31, 2019 Share Posted December 31, 2019 On 5/3/2019 at 3:22 PM, William said: Topic check: How did you become the "Other Woman/Man? We thank you in advance for your topical responses. A reminder to post to the topic. Thanks! Link to post Share on other sites
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