Question for the shy girls

[FlyingTiger]

Without going into too much detail, I’ve been dealing with a shy girl for a while now. There’s been signs that she likes me too. Mainly because how she acts and the fact she invited me to a couples day date/ party thing, as “friends”. We’ve kissed, and flirted a lot.

 

So one of her friends was teasing her the other day, said something along the lines of “there’s your man” as I walked past. I heard her reply, no we’re just friends but noticed she quickly look at me, like she was gauging my reaction. I played it cool and acted as if I didn’t hear. Then the friend said “isn’t that right?” Still I acted like I heard nothing but she said “just agree with me, don’t listen to (the girl I like)”. I smiled and replied I’m not getting involved, since I “didn't bear anything” but looked at her and she started to blush.

 

So I’m confused, was she teasing her and she was setting her straight or were they playing a game to see my level of interest. It’s obvious there’s something between us, since other people have asked but idk if this is shy girl behavior or lack of interest. Thanks

Edited May 3, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[Kitty Tantrum]

Shy girl here.

 

Good rule of thumb with shy girls is that if you've managed to kiss her, and she hasn't gone cold after, she's definitely interested.

 

AND, there's a very high likelihood that she's never going to be more obvious or overt about it than she already has been/is being now. Don't underestimate the disparity between how her behavior looks to you (uncertain/ambiguous), and how it might look to her (about to embarrass herself fawning over you when she's not yet certain of YOUR interest/intentions).

 

The burden of progress is all on you. Don't leave the ball in her court waiting for her to give you some kind of reassurance.

 

If you wait for a shy girl to give you the green light that you've got the date/bang/relationship "in the bag" before making your move, you will miss out 99% of the time - with the 1% exception being situations where her friends/family like you and are accomplished in the art of meddling.

[preraph]

Her stupid friend was just embarrassing her. If you've successfully kissed her and she's still seeming like she likes you, then it's a positive. If however, the kiss made her back off, this friend could be making fun.

[alphamale]

FT, she likes you only as a friend

[basil67]

Have you taken her on any dates - just the two of you?

[Foxhall]

a shy girl is the gold too if you can win her over,

 

 

While in theory two shy people should be a combination,

 

 

you often need a more extroverted person to match with the shy person, in-order to draw his/her personality out.

[Springsummer]

What's your definition of shy? she invited you, kissed you and flirted.

[preraph]

Sounds like you have not asked her on a date but she has asked you on one, sooooo maybe it's you that's the shier of the two. You need to ask her on a real date and stop worrying about it. Just ask her on a date in the next week before she is put off by you waiting too long.

[JuneL]

Not sure if the girl is shy, but I can totally see that you’re shy and very passive! Do you like her? If yes, have you taken any initiative to move this “thing” forward?

 

I have a different take on the situation. Most likely, she’s frustrated about your being so passive, after asking you to a party and on a date and kissing you and flirting heavily with you. It sounds like she’s been asking her friends if you like her at all, and that’s why these friends were trying to meddle.

[guest569]

She invited you to..

A couples day date / party thing,as a friend.

 

What is that? Lot of ambiguity here. Why not step up and ask her on a date? You've kissed and flirted. Yet you're friends. One way to find out.

 

Even shy people aren't afraid to say yes to a date if they are interested. No need to tip toe around us.