Sassydiva Posted May 10, 2019 Share Posted May 10, 2019 My boyfriend and I had a huge blowout one night while drinking..I ended up going home late at night because it was so uncomfortable..next morning we talked bye ur didn’t go well. Basically he was convinced the situation couldn’t be rectified. I tried talking to him a couple more times, but he just wants to move on..I decided to go no contact but he had excuses to text me but apparently it wasn’t to get back together according to him, he had no problem talking to an ex without the intention of getting back together..fine. So I started living my life..we rushed into the relationship super fast, and as a result I became codependent, needy, and super high expectations and the relationship wasn’t progressing. So we spoke about letting things cool off and then possibly connecting later..I let it go. He would sporadically text me I would say every other day..but I didn’t think anything of it..then he started calling me and having lengthy convos most of the time..fast forward 3-4 days later he texts me saying he wished things were different the says we can start again soon..this was less than a week ago..since then we have been texting and calling like nothing happened..he wanted to leave what happened in the past..we have actually spoke about going out, but haven’t made a plan yet.. How should this go? I want to take things slow and not rush into getting together, but shouldn’t we hang out sooner rather than later? I met up with him briefly but he was in a rush..should I let him make the effort to see me? Not sure how to proceed.. Link to post Share on other sites
MyWorldView Posted May 10, 2019 Share Posted May 10, 2019 The thing to give the most consideration before starting again, is the reason for the blow-out and the intricacies of the relationship. One fight does not ruin a relationship, it's about how you resolve and move on from that conflict. If you all had a great loving relationship until that moment, I'd say give it another chance. However, if there was constant tension that lead to the blow-out, you may be just trying to fit a square peg in a round hole. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sassydiva Posted May 10, 2019 Author Share Posted May 10, 2019 The thing to give the most consideration before starting again, is the reason for the blow-out and the intricacies of the relationship. One fight does not ruin a relationship, it's about how you resolve and move on from that conflict. If you all had a great loving relationship until that moment, I'd say give it another chance. However, if there was constant tension that lead to the blow-out, you may be just trying to fit a square peg in a round hole.problem is, he hasn’t made no real plan to see eachother..I don’t want a chatting buddy. Maybe I’m being inpatient and I need to just let him initiate..I don’t want to be his chat buddy, but we just reconnected so maybe I need to give it Time. Link to post Share on other sites
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