mark clemson Posted May 11, 2019 Share Posted May 11, 2019 There's no reason to give up. Go easy on the searching (as has been suggested by several folks) instead. Think about this - in five years you will have changed as a person; in ten years even more. Your "someone special" at that time may be different from who it would be today. If you give up completely, you cut off your opportunity to find someone who really works for you on a different timetable. It sounds like you're going into this expecting a certain result. But reality is not complying. Instead of giving up, keep your line out, but be aware that many of the fish you'll catch will need to be thrown back. So don't put too much effort or expectations into it. But don't stop casually fishing, since you're likely to eventually catch something at least decent. In a world of literally 100's of millions of men, what has your sample size been? Enough to reach conclusions? Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted May 11, 2019 Share Posted May 11, 2019 That feels like really hard work. I'm tired just by reading it all. But, I'm not looking for someone perfect. Some of the things you mentioned are normal human being things. Like for example the thing with the car maintenance. I do take my car at last minute to do stuff. Does that mean I have a bad relationship potential? About the job, I used to hate my work and used to cut corners. Until the day I kicked the bucket and started my own business, and now is a VERY different story and I am passionate about what I do. So if I met a guy at the time I was at my job and was calling in sick and cutting corners, did that mean again that I have bad relationship potential? No, I just wasn't fullfiling my potential and now I am. Things are not that black and white. So maybe if you had higher standards for yourself, you would attract better men. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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