What if you don't like the smell of their cologne or deodorant?

[snowcones]

If the smell of someone's cologne, perfume or deodorant really bugs you, and not for reasons like allergies or anything like that, you just don't like the smell, maybe too strong and unpleasant smelling, but you don't like it, is it rude to ask them to change it or stop wearing it?

 

I feel like some people get mad at this and I just don't know how to tell them. My mother wore and still wears a horrible smelling perfume. I hate it and I think I've tried to tell her once and she just goes on and on about how many people tell her it smells so nice. It's terrible! Anyway, she's my mom and I don't have to live and sleep with her, so whatever, but what about when you have to live with someone, like a romantic partner?

 

My last ex, when we got back together, he had started using a different deodorant and it was awful. He left that smell everywhere and I never knew how to tell him to change it. I was afraid he'd be offended. He probably would have since it was just deodorant, but I know some people wear cologne and they are very attached to it, and the smell might be even more pronounced. Do you have to just always lie to them and tell them that it's your allergies? I have a hard time with lying because I have other scents around my house and on my body as well, and he'll wonder why those are ok but not his? Or, he might fight it because he's like my mom and thinks it smells so good, but it's smelly to me.

 

How do you say this? How do you handle this?

Edited May 11, 2019 by snowcones

[nittygritty]

Give them the kind of cologne and deodorant that you like the smell of, as a gift.

[elaine567]

Give them the kind of cologne and deodorant that you like the smell of, as a gift.

 

Tried that.

Beautiful, expensive, classy stuff left on shelf and cheap pong reinstated... ugh!

[Guildford]

My olfactory senses are not the best, so I ask my wife to buy my cologne. Yes you should buy cologne for your man, and then make a physical display of how it turns you on. If that doesn't get him to keep buying the cologne, then you are in the wrong relationship.

[thefooloftheyear]

Just tell them....I don't know what the big deal is...I would not be offended and wouldn't expect anyone else to be..(shrug)..

 

TFY

[preraph]

First you have to realize that one cent on one person smells different than it does on the next. So it does become personal. it's also nearly impossible to smell the scent on yourself once the scent has blended with your chemistry. so these people think the scent is pleasant because they just smell it as they're putting it on when it is still fresh and before it turns with their body chemistry.

 

I had a similar problem with a relative and it was really my place if it was ever anyone's to be the one to tell her. She did not take it well. she was buying an expensive perfume and had been wearing the same one when she did wear it which wasn't that often for some time. I got back up from my mother and we both told her, but the whole thing backfired because she just decided that maybe she needed a fresh bottle of the same perfume. And then she still smells bad.

 

I took an opportunity once when we were just having a casual conversation and it made a certain turn that it opened up an opportunity to talk to her about, hey did you know that the reason old people smell is because of dead skin cells? So that's why it's important to exfoliate them with either a washcloth or some product. I think I actually saw good results from that talk.

 

Of course you can always buy them a different scent, but there's no guarantee that sce6nt won't turn on them too. They just don't realize how sharp and pungent smelling it can be when it goes bad. I've never smelled a really bad deodorant. It would probably be best if people just used unscented. I can't stand the smell of baby powder so I don't understand why all the deodorants come with a baby powder scent these days.

[chillii]

Worse still , p@ssy.

Ya gotta find a very very nice way of telling them.

[amaysngrace]

I bought my daughter-in-law perfume a few Christmases ago and gave the gift receipt in case she wanted to exchange it and get something she liked better.

 

She’s still using it, on her third or fourth bottle by now, and even wore it on her wedding day!

 

I smell EVERYTHING! My kids make fun of me because they can’t detect anything and I’m smelling it so strongly. It’s a blessing and a curse.

 

I totally know how you feel snowcone. Offensive smells are the absolute worst for people like us!

[Eternal Sunshine]

Smell is an important part of attraction. Cologne kind of adjusts to the natural smell of a person. I would probably just move on.

[thefooloftheyear]

 

I totally know how you feel snowcone. Offensive smells are the absolute worst for people like us!

 

 

Yep...

 

My vison isn't quite as sharp as it once was, but I can smell a fart in a hurricane..

 

TFY

[snowcones]

Smell is an important part of attraction. Cologne kind of adjusts to the natural smell of a person. I would probably just move on.

 

 

If this comes up again with a guy, I think I'm just going to tell him and see what happens like thefooloftheyear said.

[chillii]

Yeah really though, jokes aside, just tell him, no biggie.

ps, But l think l've heard it all now , would you really move on just because of some cologne ES .

 

One my gf uses l didn't like but even being female she was still ok about it.

She also loves a lot of fresh garlic to but l cert had to break that one to her.

That one was a bit trickier, lovesssss her fresh garlic haha.

Edited May 12, 2019 by chillii

[amaysngrace]

You just have to eat garlic too. Then it won’t bother you nearly as much.

 

I don’t like when I reek of garlic. Love the flavor but I know it makes me stink for the rest of the day. Sometimes it can linger even into the next day if I shower too soon after eating it.

 

I don’t care how much parsley or lemon you eat. If you eat garlic you’re going to smell.

[major_merrick]

I rarely conceal the fact that I dislike someone's smell. For me, the best smell is the absence of smell. I dislike most perfumes, colognes, and deodorants. Body odor and food smells bother me a lot less than the artificial crap out of a spray can. If a person smells, I simply won't get into a relationship with them. Pretty simple.

 

If I'm already in a relationship and they put on something smelly, I don't conceal it. If cooperation isn't forthcoming, I happily strip them out of their clothes, take them to the bathroom, and scrub them with soap until the smell is gone. Might be difficult to do that to my husband, but I've done it with female partners.

[alphamale]

just fake some sneezes and tell them you are allergice to most colognes or perfumes

[divegrl]

Hi!

 

I just told my partner that I didn’t like his cologne. And he just stopped using it!

 

I think men are pretty straight forward!

 

Have a beautiful day my friend !

[Mr. Lucky]

My wife once bought me some new cologne and offered to show me how to “put in on”.

 

I’m still wearing it...

 

Mr. Lucky

[major_merrick]

Divegirl - it works with men. As you say, they are straightforward. Women tend to be the issue. That's where the soap comes in! Strip 'em and wash 'em.

[Dandelioness]

When it comes to food, they say to always trust the nose. If something smells good, eat it. It likely has properties your body needs. If it smells bad, don't eat it. Maybe it's gone rancid or maybe your body is not needing it in that moment.

 

Should we apply that same principle when it comes to dating? LOL I'm half kidding but not. If someone is off-putting in any way, trust yourself. Your body may be telling you something.

Edited May 12, 2019 by Dandelioness

[Blind-Sided]

Hi!

 

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I think men are pretty straight forward!

 

Have a beautiful day my friend !

 

Wow... a woman who understands that. LOL.

 

 

Anyway... I think the majority of guys really don't care about a particular sent... and like a bunch of the responses here... I hate fake smells for the most part. So, if you don't like your man's sent... then buy him another to try out.

 

 

I've never been a guy who wears anything other than a deodorant. At one point, my STBxW said she really didn't like the one I used, but she never got me anything different to try. But the funny thing is... both of my kids associate that smell with me. My youngest actually will sniff the deodorant stick and says... "It smells like daddy." (so I guess I'll keep using it)

[chillii]

You just have to eat garlic too. Then it won’t bother you nearly as much.

 

I don’t like when I reek of garlic. Love the flavor but I know it makes me stink for the rest of the day. Sometimes it can linger even into the next day if I shower too soon after eating it.

 

I don’t care how much parsley or lemon you eat. If you eat garlic you’re going to smell.

 

 

 

 

Yeah l know and l have no choice she put's it in everything , god help the poor people in shops when we walk in together.

Funny thing though , hell yeah l can still smell it, bedroom reeks of it at night to, sexxxxyyy.

Anyway she's been a lot better lately , not sure what she's doin but it is better., knowing her she probably had some 500 yr old family secret to have her garlic and eat it too haha.

[Happy Lemming]

I just told my partner that I didn’t like his cologne. And he just stopped using it!

 

I think men are pretty straight forward!

 

 

This is exactly what happened to me. I was putting on this one cologne that I had received as a gift, my girlfriend hated it. She told me, next time we went to the Dollar Store, I told her to pick out a scent she liked, she did, I purchased it. Problem solved.

 

I must admit, I kind of like her choice in cologne better than my old stuff.

 

Yes, men are pretty easy when it comes to the small stuff like cologne. But don't beat around the bush, be direct and tell him. Volunteer to go shopping with him and pick out his new scent (and nothing too expensive, please).

[Shining One]

Divegirl - it works with men. As you say, they are straightforward. Women tend to be the issue. That's where the soap comes in! Strip 'em and wash 'em.

I can't imagine this working out well for many guys in heterosexual relationships.

[alphamale]

Volunteer to go shopping with him and pick out his new scent (and nothing too expensive, please).

 

the day my old lady takes me shopping for cologne is the day I will die. I shop for my own colognes and spend top dollar for the good stuff. In my 54 years I have never had a woman say she doesn't like the way I smell.

[Logo]

I would suggest you do it in a nice way. Coming out and saying, "I don't like the smell of your cologne" might offend him.

 

 

 

There are nicer ways to do it, show him that you love him, or care about him. Buy him something that you like and tell him that it turns you on. He will appreciate it doubly and put it on day and night. If he asks "I'm not enough?". Tell him that of course he's enough and that senses are very important to you in a relationship, all of them, touch, sight..etc. Then make a move on him and give him a few kisses.

 

 

 

Slam dunk!

Edited May 12, 2019 by Logo