Women, have you ever friendzoned yourselves?

[Logo]

Is there such a thing as a woman, through her actions or inaction due to inexperience, friend zoning herself to the point that she becomes more appealing as a friend than a romantic interest?

[todreaminblue]

people think the friend zone is a bad place to be...i dont believe at all that it is anything but a safe place to get to know a potential love interest properly.....deb

[d0nnivain]

Not every person will find every other person attractive. As a woman I have rarely been inadvertently friend zoned. I have interacted with men and made it clear by my words & behavior that I wasn't interested in romance with these guys. They are some of my best friends. There can be some incidental occasional flirting but everybody knows where the lines are.

 

As an adult I can only think of one guy I thought was attractive & would have liked to date who ended up solely as my friend. We started off working together but about a year in he left the company. We were both single at the time. As I got to know him better I realized he preferred women who are far more active & sports oriented then I am. His wife of almost 20 years runs 1/2 marathons with him; they kayak together & are always taking these active adventure vacations. If I need to be 13 miles from where I am, I'll drive. There is no need to run that far. lol

[elaine567]

A self inflicted friend zone is not a bad place to be for a woman. A besotted man can make a great friend actually - he can't do enough for her... Women are often quite happy just being pals with men.

It can also be a bit of a relief to know he just wants to be friends, no need to bat him off with a blunt instrument....

 

Few men it seems to me will completely "friend-zone" a woman, unless she is really really unattractive in his eyes, and if they do they may change their mind if she shows interest or is willing.

Whereas a man shoved in the "friend-zone" by a woman has usually little or no chance or reversing that verdict.

[Tamfana]

Is there such a thing as a woman, through her actions or inaction due to inexperience, friend zoning herself to the point that she becomes more appealing as a friend than a romantic interest?

 

Yes, lots of people including women choose platonic friendship over romantic possibilities and intentionally act in a platonic "friendship setting" most of the time.

[snowcones]

Not me, never, but I know women who do.

[littleblackheart]

through her actions or inaction due to inexperience

 

This, for me, has only ever led to scenarios where I would give the wrong signals and have men assume I was interested when I wasn't. I don't know any woman friend-zoning herself inadvertently .

[basil67]

You mean as in a guy seeing me as a good mate rather than a romantic interest? Never! They either wanted me as a girlfriend or didn't bother at all.

 

Men don't tend to want women hanging around as 'best friends' like women do.

[Logo]

Thanks for the great responses.

 

 

 

Here's more about what I meant, a woman who is shy or reserved and because she's shy and reserved can be uncomfortable showing her feelings outwardly as other women and as a result ends up appearing more appealing as a friend than a romantic partner.

[Springsummer]

You mean as in a guy seeing me as a good mate rather than a romantic interest? Never! They either wanted me as a girlfriend or didn't bother at all.

 

Men don't tend to want women hanging around as 'best friends' like women do.

 

I agree.

 

You can't friend-zoned yourself. Attraction is unmistakable.

 

I have never had a real man friend. If they want you but you don't want them, they are gone the next minute.

 

unfortunately, I have never really had a male friend that I want... There was one male friend that I likely will want him if he gave me some time. but unfortunately he was too hot and quickly got snatched up by a woman who really want him. I never talked to him again. I burn bridges...