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[Mollie77]

Advice please guys. I met this guy on a dating site first time I’d ever tried online dating but I left the dating site after a day as it wasn’t for me but I took his number and he became really good friend and we spoke of all sorts and text eachother 24/7 from 8am until 1am! He saw from my social media a lot of men used to comment on my posts and always told me it was concerning how many men would comment. I really didn’t find him attractive to begin with but we’d talk 12 hours a day made me feel close to him. We both agreed we connected so well and we were the same person. He had been single for six years as never met anyone he liked enough to commit to which was a massive shock for me , one night we spent 5 hours on the phone to eachother!!! . If i didn’t reply to his texts he would send about 8 in a row until I did, I oddly wasn’t put off . I told him I am going to Ibiza with my friends and then he sent me a pic to show he booked the exact same flight and hotel with his friends which shocked me a bit but at the time i thought wow he must like me, my friends said that was crazy behaviour but I knew from all our chats he was alright! I was nervous to meet him because I thought what If he does not fancy me in person but after four months of talking we met up - after that it seemed it was a bit weird for a few days I don’t know why . Then our texting went cold and when I asked why he said weird things like he knows I used to text men same time as him (I did at the beginning as meeting on a dating site assumed he did the same) and I should go meet other men and he will still be my mate. I was a bit upset and assumed he didn’t fancy me. i did meet someone else for a drink on his advice , he quickly then came back onto me and messaged me throughout my drink with the other man. we both agreed to stop talking to other people until we had spent a weekend together , we then got back texting and calling loads and I mean 24/7. I met him a few weeks after again and spent weekend with him and slept with him . I thought it went well. After that weekend he said he could never trust me since I went on that date and how much attention my Instagram gets and he started having a go at me , i assumed he didn’t like me romantically to act like this I was so upset and felt ugly and horrible my confidence was in bits. that day I went to tea with my mum and he rang me saying show me who your with send me a picture I was like no it’s my mum and we got in a nasty fight .Day after that I went to a concert with my friends in London and he said he knew I’d run off to London as I’m a sl*t a mess a tramp etc and he called me vile names rang me screaming at me Saïd about me texting men and the drink I went on with that guy - we agreed to cut ties as he was vile I was in tears. The week after cutting ties he text me some small talk about when we both go Ibiza same time and I caved and told him how much I missed him etc he said he felt a massive hole in his day but then kinda enjoyed it and said it’s a mature decision I don’t follow him on social media as I wouldn’t want to see it. That hurt me so much so I told him to just stop speaking to me and wished him the best. The Week after that he sent me a picture of a film we watched together, I ignored it, week after that he sent me a text message at 2am but then deleted it before I got to read it so I messaged him back asking what he had sent and he never replied and that was three weeks ago I haven’t heard from him since and don’t expect to hear from him again. I’m devastated we spoke every second of the day it’s a major loss and void I told him everything. My friends tell me his since back on dating sites which is tearing me in bits I just keep thinking of him with other women cus his back on the dating site. Any advice to get over this would be great!!!! It consumes my thoughts 24/7

(Btw - I’ve since changed my flights to Ibiza to week after unbeknown to him he will still expect me to be out there same time in June) He is 8 years older than me . I’m 30 his 38.

[Redhead14]

This is a repeat post . . . my response is still the same . . .

[mark clemson]

My advice would be to be COMPLETELY done with him.

 

It's hard to say for certain, but it sounds like this man may have a personality disorder or other psychological issue. I don't think you want a person like that fixated on you.

 

Realize that he WON'T EVER be any good for you and resolve to be done with him. Then do what it takes to be rid of him. Make yourself unappealing in whatever way works so that he isn't interested anymore. This will create room in your life for a relationship that's actually healthy.

[d0nnivain]

This post rings familiar to me too.

 

This man is absolutely toxic! You need to get away from him.

 

You can start by getting yourself a life. The idea that you have the time to text him daily from 8 a.m. to 1 a.m. tells me you don't have much else going on. To add to that you say you were also talking to other men, keeping up your social media & socializing with friends. . . . You have too much time on your hands. Instead of wasting time do something useful. Volunteer, read, get therapy but put your phone down & close your computer.

 

Seriously you have to get to the bottom of why you are so torn apart by a mean-spirited controlling bully who sleeps with you, discards you & calls you the worse vile names. Honey, that is sick & heartbreaking. You need help. Who damaged you so much that you see yourself as so worthless as putting up with this? Fix that & you will be much happier in life without him.

[Mr. Lucky]

This is a repeat post . . . my response is still the same . . .

 

And my advice is to use paragraphs, punctuation and shorter sentences.

 

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Mr. Lucky