Starone89 Posted May 19, 2019 Share Posted May 19, 2019 So I been with my BF for 6 years going on 7 , So he moved back with me and he isn’t working right now .He is living off his savings , all he does is be on the internet and watch sports which was fine till he got into a betting site where he can talk to different people and talk about sports ..He is on it like 24/7 and now he is talking to a girl on that site...She knows how to pick the teams and she knows about sports ..The problem is that they message each other a lot ..He tells me they talk about sports but how much sports can u talk about ..I feel like he has something for her , He never gave me a reason to think he will cheat on me ..lady’s how would u feel if ur bf/ husband is messaging another women remind u she is like in her 20’s and he is in his late 40’s . I have told him how I feel about it and all he tells me is it’s just business..I told him put urself in my shoes and he was like well I wouldn’t like it ..but then why keep doing it ? . I know if I was doing that he wouldn’t like it . I’m at a breaking point if I should stay or go , I really don’t need him for anything .I just feel like in this relationship I have lost who I am , don’t know how to find myself again .. Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted May 20, 2019 Share Posted May 20, 2019 I’m at a breaking point if I should stay or go , I really don’t need him for anything .I just feel like in this relationship I have lost who I am , don’t know how to find myself again .. Would you feel better if he was ignoring you "24/7" for a 75-year old senior citizen? Starone89, you live with an unemployed, emotionally unavailable Internet addict who pays no attention to you. How much more do you need to know? The vast majority of those posting stay or go, in their hearts already know the answer. I'll wager (bad choice of words!) you do too... Mr. Lucky Link to post Share on other sites
maxi105 Posted May 20, 2019 Share Posted May 20, 2019 hi starone, i real quick one from me as im real short on time. i think you need to talk again and get him to find more interest into getting back into work. its stressful where one person is working and one isnt. the savings he has isnt going to keep him forever and using them on a betting site isnt that smart either. you need to talk again and let him know that you are not happy with things as they are. he has moved in again...why did he go the first time? you need to get him to wake up to his situation and remind him that in order to get a better quality of life together its better if both can be working. im not knocking his not having a job, it can work but adds more stress. you need to get him to see what is going on he's avoiding situations for fantasy in this case....life isnt like that. tell him to buck up or your going to think about moving on without him. see ya maxi. good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Starone89 Posted May 20, 2019 Author Share Posted May 20, 2019 well he moved out to help his mother and that didn't end very good ..They would get into fights because he was on the computer all the time and watching sports like he does now ..She needed help with cleaning and other stuff which he did help her with at the time ..He had a business for couple of years but it went under so thats why he isn't working ..Also he is waiting to get a hip replacement so he is always in pain and i know it's not fun ..Part of me is staying to see what is the out come once he get his hip fix's ..If he is going to go and find a job , the other part of me just want to throw in the towel and say bye to him . Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted May 20, 2019 Share Posted May 20, 2019 He had a business for couple of years but it went under so thats why he isn't working ..Also he is waiting to get a hip replacement so he is always in pain and i know it's not fun ..Part of me is staying to see what is the out come once he get his hip fix's ..If he is going to go and find a job What does any of this have to do with his lack of interest in engaging in a relationship with you? Being ignored will be more tolerable if he's employed? I think you're conflating two separate things... Mr. Lucky Link to post Share on other sites
Dandelioness Posted May 20, 2019 Share Posted May 20, 2019 all he does is be on the internet and watch sports which was fine till he got into a betting site..He is on it like 24/7 and now he is talking to a girl on that site...She knows how to pick the teams and she knows about sports ..The problem is that they message each other a lot .. I really don’t need him for anything .I just feel like in this relationship I have lost who I am , don’t know how to find myself again .. Maybe he's using the girl for financial gains. Does he have a gambling addiction? Pay attention to your second quote. That's your answer. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Starone89 Posted May 20, 2019 Author Share Posted May 20, 2019 He loves to bet on baseball / football , which she does too ..She picks good games and he does too ..He is thinking a way he can use her .. Link to post Share on other sites
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