lostflight Posted September 23, 2005 Share Posted September 23, 2005 Hello all, It would be great if some of you could share some of your thoughts on how to gather the strength to finally pack your bags, hit the road and prepare for the emotional storm that will come after seperating from your wife. Just a quick story on my situation, we are on our second try at keeping our marriage together. We seperated once before and decided to try again after several months of seperation. I have come to the conclusion that we just dont have much in common, we cant seem to find a common interest in anything. We have been married for about 7 years and still cant seem to find that missing link. Well I think it just wasnt meant to be. It is ok, I dont hate her and she doesnt hate me. I think that these things happen in life and sometimes goals just seem to head in different directions. However as I just mentioned seperation and what comes with it is easier said then done. I remember the first time it was extremly painful and perhaps some preperation would help ease some of that pain. Thanks all for your help... Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted September 23, 2005 Share Posted September 23, 2005 First thing... be REALLY sure this is what you want... a lot of people go thru that 7 year itch (I'm not saying this is you, just saying be sure) IF you come to the conclusion that you're certain then it's time to make the seperation a legal one with divorce pending... I say this because it gives BOTH parties a sense of whats to come and what to expect... such as dividing up marital property, bank accounts etc. IF the 2 of you can remain civil all the better... Good Luck Link to post Share on other sites
Author lostflight Posted September 25, 2005 Author Share Posted September 25, 2005 Thanks for your reply. I do believe that it is the best thing to do. However I am not to worried about the legal aspects as much as I am worried about the emotional part of the seperation. I guess what I mean is since we are not angry at each other, it is that much harder to seperate. We have strong feelings for each other and we care very much for each other. However as mentioned before we both know that we cant continue like this. So my plea here is for any advice that can help me gather the strength to make that difficult first step and leave. Then of course comes that horrible pain that one must deal with which if not checked can wreck havoc on ones life. It is that, that I wonder if there is anything one can do to help lessen the intensity of the emotional pain. Thanks all.... Link to post Share on other sites
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