Silver_star Posted May 24, 2019 Share Posted May 24, 2019 (edited) Backstory for those that didn't see my last post. We dated for a year which was really good except he never quite expressed his emotions verbally to me (no I love you), he got a job offer in a new city and took it. We stayed together and he was adamant that it was just a trial and that we would figure it out along the way. 6 months later he is still in the new city, we talked every day on the phoen and see each other in person every couple months, yet he still won't talk about the future with me. Said he wasnt sure of what he wanted. Whether or not he plans to come back, or stay or move elsewhere. I was not a part of it, although he "cares deeply" for me and it had "nothing to do with me". Fast forward to a month ago where I finally broke and said I can't take the limbo when he is not living in the same city with me, and if he isnt serious about commitment to me in the future we are wasting our time. We broke up. It took a good few weeks for the break up to actually stick, but since May 12th we were no contact except for a couple weak texts by me asking about him. I have good days and bad. Today he messaged me with the small talk and "Hey, how are you doing? How is everything" text and he followed with asking if I have been hanging out a lot with friends and keeping busy and enjoying the weather. What does he want? Is this breadcrumbs? Actual concern? Does he want to stay in touch just in case he changes his mind? What is this small talk crap? Edited May 24, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Link to post Share on other sites
Michelle ma Belle Posted May 24, 2019 Share Posted May 24, 2019 It's you who left the breadcrumbs sweets. He wasn't the one staying in contact. When you broke up and went NC, you should have remained NC but instead you sent him a couple of weak texts. Deep down, you still want him to choose you and a relationship with you. Newsflash - he doesn't and won't. He made that pretty clear to anyone looking in from the outside. He doesn't want anything more from you than what he was getting. Stop reading more into things with him. Unless you're willing and able to casually date without any labels for as long as you both enjoy it, fine otherwise, go back to NC and move on. Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted May 24, 2019 Share Posted May 24, 2019 except for a couple weak texts by me asking about him. Looks to me like he's doing what you did at one point . . . no mystery. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Silver_star Posted May 24, 2019 Author Share Posted May 24, 2019 Cool, thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
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