I asked my wife if she was happy

[JuneL]

Woggle has moved on from those days. He's just having a moment of doubt. No need to throw the past in his face.

 

I brought it up because he had a slip up in another thread. He was accusing us of having “an agenda” against men out of nowhere I’m not sure how one can get rid of such deep-rooted mindset without intensive therapy.

Edited May 30, 2019 by JuneL

[littleblackheart]

I know I need to stop seeing misandrists everywhere.

 

Your self-reflective efforts totally show.

 

In fairness to you, you seem a lot more amenable to having a normal difference of opinion with a woman without bringing gender stuff into it, and without making it (too) personal, which is quite cool and makes it a lot easier to engage with you.

 

Your couple seems solid, you seem to be in a better place mentally and emotionally; it's all up from here!

[Woggle]

I brought it up because he had a slip up in another thread. He was accusing us of having “an agenda” against men out of nowhere I’m not sure how one can get rid of such deep-rooted mindset without intensive therapy.

 

Agenda was the wrong word to use because I don't think it was deliberate on anybody's part. That being said I do think that if the genders were reversed in that thread the responses from many people would be different. There are also double standards in men's favor and I think that is we are to have really progress as a society it would benefit people to try and see things from another point of view.

[Woggle]

I talked to my friend who is divorcing this woman about it and he told me he knows for a fact that my wife is happy because he has seen her say it when I am not around. He said not to become like his ex because she would spend hours upon hours on misogynist forums convincing herself that all men felt like and then she would log off and verbally and sometimes physically abuse him. He is glad to be rid of her but he refuses to become a bitter and angry person and he hopes a few years down the road to find a better woman. According to him hateful and bitter people are like vampires and zombies because if you are not careful they will turn you into one of them.

[Destiny Couple]

Great Post!

 

My wife and I talk about this often, and she tells me a lot about her upbringing and her relationship with her parents and how she has chosen what kind of married life she wants, and I try to remember that. There are a lot of married couples out there that make it work and are happy together.