teenomlette Posted September 24, 2005 Share Posted September 24, 2005 well...i really need help...when i talk to girls...i have a problem...im just scared to go up to them..and say hi...my neighbor is really hot..but im too scared to even say hi to her when she passes by me...i dont know what to say..should i just say hi...i really need help...if u have any articles or boooks that i can get from the library that will help me feel comfortable with the girls...i dont know how to start a conversation with them...ive heard that i should ask about their personal life first...what should i do..go up to a girl and ask 'em if they have any pets...thats something u may ask 'em on the phone...once they know u better..is there anyway to make myself know to my neighbor...and maybe we can become friends...please help...im seriously pissed off at everyone because of this...i need help...im in highschool...15years old..if that helps..please help me start.. Link to post Share on other sites
leighmc Posted September 24, 2005 Share Posted September 24, 2005 Yes, you should just go up and say hi to her. What do you have to lose? If you don't do it you will wonder what would've happend if you would have. The wondering and regret of what could've happend can be harder on you then getting up the nerve to say hi. Link to post Share on other sites
ALittleTeapot Posted September 24, 2005 Share Posted September 24, 2005 Try to catch her when she's outside doing something, if ever. Start casual conversation about whatever she's doing, or whatever you're doing. Maybe crack a joke to open up conversation with, flash a couple smiles, then introduce yourself. I wouldn't ask her out right away, take some time to get to know her and see what vibes you get. Link to post Share on other sites
Topper Posted September 24, 2005 Share Posted September 24, 2005 At 15 years old I was much like you Very shy. It just seemed easier to suffer in silence then take that big leap of faith and say Hi. First whats the worse that could happen? she laughs at You? She tells you your a loser and nerd? So what! Who is a guy that you think is really great. Someone you really look uop to some actor, singer, Athlete. Trust me who ever it is they at one time or the other got shot down. Yes even the biggest stud has gone down in flames. It's like a badge of Honer. Don't try to be a big macho guy or overly charming. Be your awkward self. One more hint as awkward as your feeling she is 10 times worse because she is so insecure about herself. At 15 Your all a big mass of insecure feelings. Now keep this in mind use humor. It took me years to learn that. Girls like guys who can make them laugh. Make sure it isn't mean spirited humor or sarcastic. It's OK to be bumbling and awkward fact many girls like a shy awkward guy. They feel that it took you a lot of effort to approach them and that makes them feel special. OK one last item. While you have had your eye on that one girl are you sure that there isn't some other girl who has been checking you out? She just might be to shy to let you know. Oh and one more thing keep in mind that that girl that you never noticed at 15. You Know the one who may have wierd hair or whtever. In 10 years that awkward 15 year old girl might be the most beautiful 25 year old woman you have ever seen in your life. So treat them all nice! Good luck now go earn that Badge of Honor Link to post Share on other sites
Author teenomlette Posted September 25, 2005 Author Share Posted September 25, 2005 thanks everybody...but i still want more advice..please...i really need it...im gonna try to talk to this girl...but what do i say to a girl when i c them for the first time in highschool...do i go up to them and say hi...im ____ ...and stick my hand in front of them like im politicing...or should i just talk to her whenever we may meet up at a certain time...any advice is accepted...im starting to think positive..thnx guys who have helped me out... Link to post Share on other sites
JS17 Posted September 25, 2005 Share Posted September 25, 2005 You have a real easy ice breaker here. When you see her go up to her and say, "Hi, I'm ****, I think you live on my block (or next door or whatever the case may be)". She'll either say, "Oh yeah, I've seen you around" or "I don't know, where do you live?" and the conversation is started. It's that easy. Link to post Share on other sites
Author teenomlette Posted September 25, 2005 Author Share Posted September 25, 2005 the thing is that..she knows my name..ive been introduced to her about 3-4 yrs ago..i had some classes with her a couple years back..and she is next door..so she knows who i am...what should i do... Link to post Share on other sites
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