Should I tell him I may have a STD?

[Scared and Worried]

I am scared because I went to get my eyes checked because they were hurting and the doctor told me that it looks like I may have a sexually transmitted disease. I currently have a boyfriend and we have been having sex for about 8 months but we have ALWAYS used a condom. There is one time when it broke in April but that is the only time I know of. I have not been with anyone else for over a year and he told me he was a virgin before me. I can't get tested until Friday or Monday but I don't know if I should tell him that there could be that possibility. I am also afraid that he is maybe going to think I cheated on him which I didn't. I am also wondering if he has cheated on me. Should I tell him that there is the possibility or wait until I get the results to even think about telling him anything?

[Dan]

I am scared because I went to get my eyes checked because they were hurting and the doctor told me that it looks like I may have a sexually transmitted disease. I currently have a boyfriend and we have been having sex for about 8 months but we have ALWAYS used a condom. There is one time when it broke in April but that is the only time I know of. I have not been with anyone else for over a year and he told me he was a virgin before me. I can't get tested until Friday or Monday but I don't know if I should tell him that there could be that possibility. I am also afraid that he is maybe going to think I cheated on him which I didn't. I am also wondering if he has cheated on me. Should I tell him that there is the possibility or wait until I get the results to even think about telling him anything?

well guys don't take stuff like that likely.......he he I should know.......but I think he would probably over react to it a little............you could tell him and hope he is understanding about it............

 

the sneaky way out, is see what kind of STD (if you have one, and see if the doc can prescribe medication for it and have it cleared up........that is a possibility.........granted most people would say be honest, but sometimes the truth ends up making matters worse........most people who will write you back will probably say the opposite

 

Dan

[dagmire]

you seem to be more worried about what he is going to think about you than what he has been up to

 

talk to you doctor

 

i doubt that you can have an std from a partner from a year ago

 

so if it is from him he must have gottne it from somewhere

 

it will be difficult to bring up

 

but it is important to trust eachother

 

dagmire

well guys don't take stuff like that likely.......he he I should know.......but I think he would probably over react to it a little............you could tell him and hope he is understanding about it............

 

the sneaky way out, is see what kind of STD (if you have one, and see if the doc can prescribe medication for it and have it cleared up........that is a possibility.........granted most people would say be honest, but sometimes the truth ends up making matters worse........most people who will write you back will probably say the opposite

 

Dan

[LoveAngel]

Should I tell him that there is

the possibility or wait until I get the results to even think about telling him anything?

Two words: Tell him. If you have to consider your ability to be honest with him, perhaps you need to reconsider just how much he really means to you. There is no question. The real question at hand is how long you can prolong the inevitable. You're being unfair to him and yourself by keeping secrets, especially about something as mutually effecting as this. And don't be so naive about the sexual frequencies of your partner or yourself. Get tested and be more careful. You can get more information from your local Planned Parenthood branch or from your doctor/clinic.

 

Best wishes,

 

LoveAngel

[Ryan]

I am scared because I went to get my eyes

checked because they were hurting and the doctor told me that it looks like I may have a sexually transmitted disease. I currently have a boyfriend and we have been having sex for about 8 months but we have ALWAYS used a condom. There is one time when it broke in April but that is the only time I know of. I have not been with anyone else for over a year and he told me he was a virgin before me. I can't get tested until Friday or Monday but I don't know if I should tell him that there could be that possibility. I am also afraid that he is maybe going to think I cheated on him which I didn't. I am also wondering if he has cheated on me. Should I tell him that there is the possibility or wait until I get the results to even think about telling him anything?

First, I'd like to clear up a few bits of incorrect information I found in the responses. There are MANY STDs that can remain dormant for quite some time. There are also many that people have for years, if not life (herpes, HPV -the warts virus-, syphillis, not to mention HIV).

 

It's good that you are using a condom every time. You should be aware of the "Morning After" pill if you find yourself in another situation of breakage. You need a prescription for it in most states, but if you take it within 72 hours of the incident it reduces the risk of pregnancy by about 75%. Contact your doctor or local Planned Parenthood for more information.

 

Now the issue about your potential STD. I'm not sure what the suggested disease is or how possible it is based on this early diagnosis. Clearly, you want to get a confirmation either way. As for disclosing this information to your boyfriend, I think you should lay it out just like the doctor did to you. Tell him that there is a chance and you are going to be tested further. He may want to be tested at the same time. You should definitely abstain from sexual contact with one another until you get any results. I can't say how he is going to react to the situation, but for the time being I think you both need to focus on the clinical side of it.