Feeling miserable after being dumped

[Auxwire]

Hello everyone,

I am new here and thought I'll find some experienced suggestions here.

 

My girlfriend of more than a year dumped me 2 weeks back. The reason she gave me was that she was getting exhausted and it was taking a toll on her. And I completely understand her point of view. It's like how everyone is a dick some point or the other but I was a bit more of a dick.

 

We stay around 2-3 hours apart and could only meet during the weekends because of uni. Before summer vacation started, the last month was too hectic for me. First she had exams and then I did. We could not communicate alot and only ended up arguing. When we met I was too immature and didn't appreciate the time we spent together. She always became the better person and came up smiling at me apologizing for I don't know what. Anyway, I've always been very insecure and this was the reason for most of our fights. After I came back to uni after meeting her. I thought we should talk more and so I texted alot the whole day only to realise she went out with people I don't know at night. I just felt weird about it since I tried talking more and at this point of time I don't know what was she upto.

 

She broke up with me saying I don't trust her. After 10-12 days, I've realised how much of a dick I was to her. But she shuns the whole getting back thing. She says she doesn't wanna date. Since I didn't see it coming, I'm devastated. I realise I took her for granted. All I want is one chance to rectify things. Is there anyway that could happen. We will meet after 2 months now.

[d0nnivain]

Having relationships that don't work out is part of the university experience. It's call life & you are getting an education in different ways.

 

I'm sorry this didn't work out for you but perhaps you two just weren't cut out for the distance.

 

When school resumes try dating a coed on your campus, who is on the same schedule. The convenience alone will make thinks more simple. You can talk in person rather than by text.

[preraph]

There's just no reason to get tied down when you're in university. It's nearly impossible. Long distance? Not a chance. You already know you weren't a good boyfriend anyway and you know you have insecurity that you need to work on. Tap the university's resources and go get free counseling with them to try to stop letting your insecurity taint your relationships.

[snowcones]

Really all you can do is tell her how you feel. If she misses and loves you enough still, she will want to give it another chance too. If not, she won't want to and will want to move on. I would give it a little time of no contact in between though, to give her some time and space to reset.