Rayce Posted June 9, 2019 Share Posted June 9, 2019 I don't get deactivating social media because of one relationship. Why would you cut yourself off from everybody else, just because one person hurt you? That seems like cutting off your nose despite your face to me. Even if I broke up with somebody I would still want to see my friends & what's going on in their lives, especially the ones who are far away. Why deprive yourself of that just because you had a painful break up? The other people in your life should be a source of strength at that point. It's ok... I understand that it is hard for people to see from my perspective or can understand... but if you want to know who really cares about you... deactivate your account for 6 months and see who reaches out to you. On my friends list of over 150 well... just my daughter and my workout buddy...so I really don't think I'm missing out on anything. A bunch of fake phony people trying to convince the world that their lives are wonderful. Link to post Share on other sites
Rayce Posted June 9, 2019 Share Posted June 9, 2019 Yeah! I guess that's why they call it the art of letting go... Exactly my point. Social media is dangerous, one should never take it too seriously. But you're right on the money, the people around you, your circle, make you strong. Social media is just a reverberation of that, another output of their existence in your life. It's powerful because it brings something that otherwise cannot be touched, only felt, into reality. Also I didn't want to put all my drama and pain all over the place. Not everyone is lucky to have a strong network of support. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted June 9, 2019 Share Posted June 9, 2019 but if you want to know who really cares about you... deactivate your account for 6 months and see who reaches out to you. I don't need to do that. I have over 500 people on my social media. I have about a dozen people I can count on. There were there before social media existed & they are the true friends. Still I wouldn't let one bad relationship take away the joy I get from seeing their pictures & reading their memes. Plus it's convenient. You can't ever confuse virtual reality with actual reality. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Reboot123 Posted June 9, 2019 Author Share Posted June 9, 2019 Also I didn't want to put all my drama and pain all over the place. Not everyone is lucky to have a strong network of support. Major respect to you for being able to stay away from it for seven whole months. I bet you've turned all that extra time into productivity. There's always an air of mystery to people that aren't on any social networks. "Too cool for facebook" 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Rayce Posted June 9, 2019 Share Posted June 9, 2019 I don't need to do that. I have over 500 people on my social media. I have about a dozen people I can count on. There were there before social media existed & they are the true friends. Still I wouldn't let one bad relationship take away the joy I get from seeing their pictures & reading their memes. Plus it's convenient. You can't ever confuse virtual reality with actual reality. I wish my life was perfect like yours. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted June 9, 2019 Share Posted June 9, 2019 I wish my life was perfect like yours. My life is far from perfect. That said, you are obviously hurting. Do you want to make a different thread about that or point me to one you already made? Perhaps I can help you find peace or offer you some small confort. My point about social media wasn't to attack you but to explain my emphasis on real life interactions. I'd rather have a good friend call me or give me a shoulder to cry on then have 100 people like something I posted on social media. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted June 9, 2019 Share Posted June 9, 2019 Why did your ex break up with you, OP? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Reboot123 Posted June 9, 2019 Author Share Posted June 9, 2019 Why did your ex break up with you, OP? It was a mutual breakup in the beginning because our relationship became platonic. We both ended up behaving like kids instead of talking anything over like adults and it became a battle of the ego. After that, I realised that we both had to take a step back before we could even think about reconciling. I made sure our last exchange was amicable. Three months later she unfriended me. Two months on from that, she deactivated everything. Link to post Share on other sites
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