What men need to be like to succeed in dating/relationships

[Curiousroxy86]

if a guy has...

good hygiene/grooming

confidence

pursues

aware-emotional intelligence

 

unfortunately a man could get far with woman on this alone to the point she may unwisely ignore other things atleast temporarily

 

emotional well being - contributes to his own and wont be a liability but a asset to hers (treats her well)

financial well being - contributes to his own and wont be a liability but a asset to hers (dont mooch can alteast do his part or be a provider if she is the stay at home mom type)

physical well being - contributes to his own and wont be a liability but a asset to hers (nonabusive)

 

she is going to want to marry you

Edited June 14, 2019 by Curiousroxy86

[loversquarrel]

I think what we need is a list of behaviors women should avoid in order to keep a man.

[alphamale]

I think what we need is a list of behaviors women should avoid in order to keep a man.

 

yea like her always ordering the most expensive item on the menu

[loversquarrel]

yea like her always ordering the most expensive item on the menu

 

Lol that would be near the top.

[Curiousroxy86]

I think what we need is a list of behaviors women should avoid in order to keep a man.

 

Make a new thread on it

[Mr. Lucky]

Can't be sitting there with his thumb up his butt because he can't figure out why the toilet isn't flushing. To me he's useless, a toss back to the sea matey.

 

How does his ability to replace a flush valve tie into romantic potential? It would be like a man saying a woman is "useless" unless she's a gourmet cook.

 

I know a number of successful guys that probably don't know a socket from an adjustable wrench. They don't seem to have many problems with women...

 

Mr. Lucky

[somanymistakes]

How does his ability to replace a flush valve tie into romantic potential? It would be like a man saying a woman is "useless" unless she's a gourmet cook.

 

Well, there ARE men who think a woman is useless unless she's great in the kitchen

 

Being up front with your requirements helps avoid misunderstandings.

[elaine567]

How does his ability to replace a flush valve tie into romantic potential?

Because to many women, a man who can fix things from scratch is seen as manly and sexy. The ability to call a tradesman does not have the same appeal. A self sufficient man is seen as a good thing.

Even guys with oodles of cash get extra brownie points for being a competent handyman.

[Curiousroxy86]

Mr lucky imo it’s not a requirement

 

Would be a nice bonus though

[mark clemson]

How does his ability to replace a flush valve tie into romantic potential? It would be like a man saying a woman is "useless" unless she's a gourmet cook.

 

I know a number of successful guys that probably don't know a socket from an adjustable wrench. They don't seem to have many problems with women...

 

Mr. Lucky

 

 

I agree that from my experience this is a nice-to-have rather than a need-to-have for many if not most women. I suspect there ARE some women for who it's a must-have though, just not the majority.

[mark clemson]

I would think there are some "don'ts" as well:

 

 

• Don't be an ***hole who screams and vents all the time
  
• Don't be an abuser
  
• Don't neglect the woman emotionally
  
• Don't be overly manipulative or controlling
  
• Don't become a substance addict
  
• Don't lie a lot, cheat, or "lead a double life"
  
• Don't expect the woman to do all the work with the kids, esp. if she works
  

 

It's amazing that many women tolerate these kinds of things. Then again, some men tolerate them from their wives.

[Mr. Lucky]

Because to many women, a man who can fix things from scratch is seen as manly and sexy. The ability to call a tradesman does not have the same appeal. A self sufficient man is seen as a good thing.

Even guys with oodles of cash get extra brownie points for being a competent handyman.

 

While that may be true, many would allege sexism if I said, in order to be seen as sexy and feminine, a woman had to be a competent scratch cook. It's simply based on old stereotypes.

 

I want a enthusiastic partner in life, sex and family. If that's the case, I don't care if all she can make is reservations...

 

Mr. Lucky

[thefooloftheyear]

While that may be true, many would allege sexism if I said, in order to be seen as sexy and feminine, a woman had to be a competent scratch cook. It's simply based on old stereotypes.

 

 

Its not really the same...

 

Being a good cook wont save you from being stuck on the side of the road when a mechanic isn't around, and it wont save you from not having heat on a cold winters day or keep your house from flooding during a storm....It provides women(or anyone for that matter) with a sense of security...It really has nothing to do with sexism...Yeah, I know you can call people in and pay them, but its really not the same...I installed a water heater for someone recently because they couldn't get a plumber to come for over a week...Not to mention the obscene cost....I was done in a couple of hours..

 

As a guy that can build, fix, fabricate just about anything I never viewed it as an asset to a mate...I just like doing it and it gives me a feeling of sheer independence...I have never called a contractor or anything in my entire life, unless I was just too busy to do it myself or I just really hate doing it(like house painting...I pay people to do that-bores the hell out of me..)....But I can easily see why a woman would consider that a HUGE asset having that kind of partner...

 

As for the original question...

 

Other than what I just mentioned...Just be a friggin man for crissakes...Too many guys got lost in the last few decades...

 

TFY

Edited June 18, 2019 by thefooloftheyear

[chillii]

God you ain't kidden , mind you for me that's only if the internet is anything to go by , so many lost souls out there looking at damn books and the internet.

Tbh , don't really know anyone that would even think about any of the bs out there in real life though. Or they sure don't tell me about it haha,

 

But funny yeah l'm the same, do most things myself always have. l think for the sort of woman l like , it is a really attractive thing always hear stuff and it does give a guy a natural ruggedness too and l know damn sure they like that.

And funny , l don't giva fk what anyone wants to call it but l do love a woman that's great around the house too and hell yeah the kitchen man whata bonus. And funny, but eh, l find it really sexy to sometimes.

My womans and absolute wiz around the house and if she can't do it she'll find a way anyway.

And l think most guys would love it accept they just cop all the bullshyt if they say it these days.

l also think that's a big thing with career women too because they can often be useless round the house but just like women naturally usually love a man that can look after things, men love a warm caring woman and being looked after too, and wth not .

Edited June 20, 2019 by chillii

[bradt93]

As someone with bipolar and aspergers, the only thing I'm concerned about is being well off financially and finishing my education. If the right woman comes, then that's fine, but if she doesn't, oh well. I've learned a lot over the years, women love the tough guys who are buff, not the smart average size body types. Plus, I'm blonde, blue eyed, women like the dark haired and brown eyes.

[crispytoast]

yea like her always ordering the most expensive item on the menu

I could care less, I'm not paying for it either way

[somanymistakes]

As someone with bipolar and aspergers, the only thing I'm concerned about is being well off financially and finishing my education. If the right woman comes, then that's fine, but if she doesn't, oh well. I've learned a lot over the years, women love the tough guys who are buff, not the smart average size body types. Plus, I'm blonde, blue eyed, women like the dark haired and brown eyes.

 

Please stop extrapolating what you saw a woman like into "all women like", or extrapolating that because girls haven't fallen all over you, "women don't like blonds". This is just silly.

 

If *I* had to make a guess I'd say that the majority of women prefer blue eyes! Certainly I always have and I see girls go on about a guy's bright blue eyes all the time. But honestly I don't think eye color makes that much difference.

 

Blond guys are popular. Dark-haired guys are popular. Red-haired guys... slightly less mainstream popular but definitely still have their fans. And this is when we're just talking about the MOST popular guys in the entire world, the rich successful heartthrobs with millions of fans.

 

But you don't need millions of fans in order to succeed in a relationship! You only need one woman to like you. (Well, to be safe, you need enough women to like you that you can date several and find one that likes you that you also like and make a good match with.)

 

There are billions of happily married "average size" men.

[bradt93]

@somanymistakes....

Well some of what you say maybe true, but you can't deny that women are scared to date people who have a certain type of mental illness.

Edited June 27, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[GorillaTheater]

but you can't deny that women are scared to date people who have a certain type of mental illness.

 

You don't think it's just as true of men?

 

After a bad experience or two early on, I tended to give mentally ill chicks a wide berth. Maybe that makes me a bad guy, but I have my own (tenuous) mental health to look after.

[PRW]

Also going to disagree on the Asperger's. Many of us are "sigma" type lone wolves. We will let you all think you get the women, until we see one that is actually worth OUR time. Then there is no competition.

It can be like that for the Omega's too. although I've seen a lot of places on the Internet miss-define the Omega by applying the Gamma's definition to it and then miss-apply the Omega's definition to the Sigma.