jess060191 Posted June 10, 2019 Share Posted June 10, 2019 (edited) Hello all, I was recently dumped on Friday, and I am a mess. I have not been dumped in years. Dumped by the same guy who I have written about in the past on here. Stupid me. I did everything for him, everything. I gave him money, bought him food and clothes, let him use my car, credit card, netflix. How could I be so blind and used. Love makes you do stupid things. He dumped me on Friday because I "pushed him away", randomly I pushed him away. Two days prior to him dumping me he was telling me how much he missed me and couldn't wait to see me. I feel like I am in a bad dream. He hasn't checked up on me since, already declared on facebook that he is single again, already caught him trolling on other woman's photos. I am just so hurt. I need to stay off his social media, I can't stop checking it. Just so sad, I want this pain to go away. Edited June 10, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Link to backstory Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted June 10, 2019 Share Posted June 10, 2019 You are in the immediate throws of the pain. It's fresh & acute. Take some time & grieve the loss. When you have gone through the catharsis you will realize that you haven't lost much at all. He was no good. Hang in there 2 Link to post Share on other sites
GTR King Posted June 10, 2019 Share Posted June 10, 2019 I feel your pain, I was dumped Friday as well, How long where you together? No breakup is sudden either one party has been thinking about it for few weeks/few months. Take your time to better your self & spend it with family/friends etc Link to post Share on other sites
Author jess060191 Posted June 10, 2019 Author Share Posted June 10, 2019 On and off for a year. HBU? Hope you are okay.... Link to post Share on other sites
GTR King Posted June 10, 2019 Share Posted June 10, 2019 (edited) Was hard for me, Loved this girl to bits & went on holiday to Morocco last month 10 days together, was together just over 7 months She has loads of things going on in her life, like she still hung up on the death of her dad last feb & used me as Void/gap filler to get over him & when she realised I wasnt like her dad she ended things, Not spoken since Friday Knew it was coming & tried to get it out of her but she was having non of it, till she came round mine Friday to tell me I am getting better each day Edited June 10, 2019 by GTR King 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted June 10, 2019 Share Posted June 10, 2019 Hello all, I was recently dumped on Friday, and I am a mess. I have not been dumped in years. Dumped by the same guy who I have written about in the past on here. Stupid me. I did everything for him, everything. I gave him money, bought him food and clothes, let him use my car, credit card, netflix. How could I be so blind and used. Love makes you do stupid things. He dumped me on Friday because I "pushed him away", randomly I pushed him away. Two days prior to him dumping me he was telling me how much he missed me and couldn't wait to see me. I feel like I am in a bad dream. He hasn't checked up on me since, already declared on facebook that he is single again, already caught him trolling on other woman's photos. I am just so hurt. I need to stay off his social media, I can't stop checking it. Just so sad, I want this pain to go away. I hope this time you're done with him, aren't you? He is using you and I hope you can see it this time. Block him, move on and don't go back. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted June 10, 2019 Share Posted June 10, 2019 (edited) This guy was a blood sucking parasite. You didn't love him, you loved the guy you wished he would be and just having a relationship at all. The sooner you get your mind around that concept, the easier and faster you will move on. This guy did you a favor. Edited June 10, 2019 by Redhead14 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author jess060191 Posted June 10, 2019 Author Share Posted June 10, 2019 i know i feel pathetic crying over him. I am so shocked he hasn't even tried to reach out to see how I am doing. Not even like " hey i am sorry for everything hope you are okay". Nothing. I was nothing to him. i just feel so low. I wish I could hate him, maybe one day I will. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jess060191 Posted June 10, 2019 Author Share Posted June 10, 2019 Glad to they are getting better each day. I feel like I am too. Though I still have my moments of grief. We will get through this. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted June 10, 2019 Share Posted June 10, 2019 i know i feel pathetic crying over him. I am so shocked he hasn't even tried to reach out to see how I am doing. Not even like " hey i am sorry for everything hope you are okay". Nothing. I was nothing to him. i just feel so low. I wish I could hate him, maybe one day I will. It's a good thing he hasn't reached out because you would take him back in a heartbeat. You need to pray he doesn't call or return. Link to post Share on other sites
The Outlaw Posted June 11, 2019 Share Posted June 11, 2019 Love makes us do stupid things, yes, but most likely you weren't in love, you thought you were and he capitalized on that. He told you what he felt you wanted to hear to keep you hooked, so he could get whatever he wanted. People like that are less than a dime a dozen, and they're best brushed under the rug and forgotten about. It may not seem like it now, but you really didn't lose anything. You dodge a bullet because it could have be worse. Link to post Share on other sites
GTR King Posted June 11, 2019 Share Posted June 11, 2019 i know i feel pathetic crying over him. I am so shocked he hasn't even tried to reach out to see how I am doing. Not even like " hey i am sorry for everything hope you are okay". Nothing. I was nothing to him. i just feel so low. I wish I could hate him, maybe one day I will. No need to feel pathetic, He obviously didn’t love you, Same with my ex, she didn’t love me in the End & hasn’t reached out to me since Friday, takes time but you will get there Link to post Share on other sites
Author jess060191 Posted June 11, 2019 Author Share Posted June 11, 2019 i am now currently crying at my desk at work because i looked at his facebook and saw a recent video of him. He looks so happy as if I never even left a mark in his life. I know what I have to do is block him but it's like i am not ready to, its like i still want to keep that door open if he does try to reach out to me. it's not like there's any way we can get back together now. my chest literally hurts with pain i am so sad so so so sad. Link to post Share on other sites
GTR King Posted June 11, 2019 Share Posted June 11, 2019 If you feel like that then block his Facebook/phone number, Keep your self active meet friends. Delete pictures of him/get rid of stuff that remind you of him. It will get better trust me I am better today still think about Ex a bit but less each day 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author jess060191 Posted June 11, 2019 Author Share Posted June 11, 2019 If you feel like that then block his Facebook/phone number, Keep your self active meet friends. Delete pictures of him/get rid of stuff that remind you of him. It will get better trust me I am better today still think about Ex a bit but less each day i cannot wait for that day. i'm glad you are doing better though, hang in there. Link to post Share on other sites
GTR King Posted June 11, 2019 Share Posted June 11, 2019 Still miss her & wish I could see my ex right now but the spark went in the relationship & we both wanted different things. So gotta accept it how it is Can’t wait for the day I stop thinking about her & can start to date again Link to post Share on other sites
Author jess060191 Posted June 11, 2019 Author Share Posted June 11, 2019 Still miss her & wish I could see my ex right now but the spark went in the relationship & we both wanted different things. So gotta accept it how it is Can’t wait for the day I stop thinking about her & can start to date again the thought of dating someone new makes me want to vomit lol... Link to post Share on other sites
GTR King Posted June 11, 2019 Share Posted June 11, 2019 Not good, the thought of doing it all again annoys me as was single for 6 years before my ex Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted June 11, 2019 Share Posted June 11, 2019 I dated a guy briefly who dumped me shortly before I could dump him I was a little upset for a bit until I really got real and reflected on what a "sh*t" he was which is why I was going to dump him anyway. Now, I'm just embarrassed that I dated him for as long as I did Link to post Share on other sites
GTR King Posted June 12, 2019 Share Posted June 12, 2019 (edited) Not every relationship will be right for you.. Like my last one it just fizzled out, we weren't meant to be, Would of loved it to work as miss her and did love her but gotta move on with life. the right one will come one day no need to sit around moping will be hard at first Edited June 12, 2019 by GTR King Link to post Share on other sites
lonelyplanetmoon Posted June 13, 2019 Share Posted June 13, 2019 Jess you should really block him and keep to NC. It just makes you miss him more if you look. It is really hard not to feel deep attachment. I have been there. Just do whatever you can to keep NC and work on improving yourself. He does not sound like he was that great of a bf anyway. You deserve someone who will be there for you and who is not selfish. Link to post Share on other sites
Yokoyan Posted June 14, 2019 Share Posted June 14, 2019 I totally get how you feel, I was unexpectedly dumped on April 14th, 2 months today. I’m feeling better now, but at the beginning the pain was too strong.you will see things clearly and feel better, I promise. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jess060191 Posted June 14, 2019 Author Share Posted June 14, 2019 Jess you should really block him and keep to NC. It just makes you miss him more if you look. It is really hard not to feel deep attachment. I have been there. Just do whatever you can to keep NC and work on improving yourself. He does not sound like he was that great of a bf anyway. You deserve someone who will be there for you and who is not selfish. Blocked him yesterday, i cried the whole time doing it. But I know I had to do it in order to move on. Today is a tough day, we were suppose to go to a wedding together. Trying to keep myself busy and mind off of it, but all i want to do is buy taco bell and veg out at home. Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted June 14, 2019 Share Posted June 14, 2019 Get off your butt and go out and buy yourself something you've been wanting -a piece of jewelry, maybe. Or, go out and buy some new throw pillows, new curtains, new bedspread, a couple of new pieces of artwork for the walls, swap out old ones. Do something nice for yourself. Call a friend and go to the movies. This guy doesn't deserve to have one more minute of your energy. Give yourself time to grieve but do it in little bits. Set aside say a half and hour each day to sit with your feelings, cry, scream, journal. At the end of that time, you force yourself to do something productive, anything but dwell on this. After a little while you should find that you are taking less and less time for that. Link to post Share on other sites
lonelyplanetmoon Posted June 14, 2019 Share Posted June 14, 2019 And post here often if get the urge. Just remember they come in waves and eventually will pass. I had about an hour today where I wanted to reach out so bad but did all I could to resist and now the feeling is gone. I dont want him back. He does not deserve me. I can do better to find a guy who is happy on the inside and is not codependent. Link to post Share on other sites
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