Getting dumped unexpectedly!

[jess060191]

It's been a couple of weeks since the breakup. My birthday pasted and I didn't even get a happy birthday text/phone call from him.... I had a weak moment last Saturday and drunk called him. Not a proud moment of mine. I asked him to pay me back from all the money he owes me. He said he would and that he would call me back the next day to discuss. He called me back 2 days later and started the whole "I'm sorry I wish I could take what I did to you back, I hate what I did to you, I should of wished you a happy birthday, I still want to be your friend" meanwhile doesn't mention paying me back at all.

 

All that he said is what I wanted him to say. And now that he said it I feel even worst because I can't help to think that he is saying this cause I asked him to pay me back and now he's being all nice nice.

 

I feel horrible again, like im back at square 1. I know I can't and shouldn't go back to him but I wish somehow I could. Stupid of me I know. I just want this pain and all these feelings to go away.

[lonelyplanetmoon]

 

I feel horrible again, like im back at square 1. I know I can't and shouldn't go back to him but I wish somehow I could. Stupid of me I know. I just want this pain and all these feelings to go away.

 

 

I had a couple of logistical texts with my ex on Monday and got a little breadcrumb. It set me back big time. I have been in turmoil since. And what you say above is exactly how I feel.

[mark clemson]

Get him to pay what he owes you (unless it's not worth it to you) and the resume full NC.

 

Consider distractions (like good TV or novels), working on yourself, socializing with friends, time outside (even just 10 min/day), and reasonable exercising. All should help somewhat.

 

Suggest you avoid drinking too much, but that's just a general thing, not specific to this. That said, hope you're not in the habit of trying to "blot out" distress with booze (real bad habit to get into...)