pandekage Posted June 22, 2019 Share Posted June 22, 2019 Somehow I ended up in a fwb situation some months back and I think im starting to like him more and more. So Ive known this guy for some years know, we're not close, we just hang in the same crowd when we go out. I didn't see him for a very long time until last year when we accidentally bump into each other on a night out. The night was fun we never really flirted before or anything, but somehow we ended up dancing with each other and that led to a kiss which led to us going home together. The sex was amazing and afterwards he kept getting in touch for months to meet up again but I couldn't make up my mind, so nothing more happened. He then went for a 5 month long trip, but still kept sliding into my dm's from time to time, saying we should meet when he's back and I started to like the idea more and more. He came back in march this year, a year after our first hook up. We meet up at his welcome home party, and we ended up going home together. Since then we've been hooking up regularly, like every two weeks. The thing is that im starting to like him, and I wanna spent more and more time with him. Im not sure how he feels. But I've been in this situation before and the way the guys treated me are so different. Like this guy when we are together, we don't have to be drunk or meet up after a night out to hook up, we almost meet on a regular week day and spend the night together. None of us is in a rush to leave the situation after the hook up, We like to just lay and cuddle, and he always spends the whole night with his arms around me. we watch movies and talk and so on. The guy I had this situation with before, was like very strict on keeping it just physically. we would sleep in different sides of the bed and there would be no cuddle and he would always be in a rush in the morning. And he just made feel very unimportant. So im a bit confused because I feel the signals im getting from the guy im sleeping with now is kind of confusing. we never really discussed our situation, but I also don't wanna loose face and look stupid. but I also don't wanna be hurt. But I would also like to know if im just wasting my time. I don't know how to read this situation and if theres is any postive outcome of this. I hope someone can help. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted June 22, 2019 Share Posted June 22, 2019 You gotta tell him you are catching feelings & you'd like to date him. If he says no, you have to stop the benefits for your own sanity. To continue to have sex with him if there is no future will only crush your soul. He might like you back. I had a FWB for years. When I confessed my feelings, we moved into together & were together for 10 years. Stranger things have happened. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted June 22, 2019 Share Posted June 22, 2019 ^ Yes. And make sure he understands that by "date," you mean going out and doing things together, not just hooking up. And if you're going that route, you need to find out if he's seeing other women, be it hookups or has his eye on one. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Beendaredonedat Posted June 22, 2019 Share Posted June 22, 2019 Does he ever take you out or is it just a Netflix and chill situation? Link to post Share on other sites
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