rejected1 Posted June 23, 2019 Share Posted June 23, 2019 In April 2018 he dumped me and six weeks later replaced me with another girl, but their relationship ended in January. In November, I met and started dating this new man I met in my book club group. We have been exclusive since January. Things are going really well, and I really see a future with him. But my ex-fiance wants to get back together. For the past two months, he has been trying to convince me to give us another chance. He is jealous. But he dumped me. I understand and know he is rejecting his choice. I don't want to get a no-contact order, I already have him blocked on all social media, but he always finds a way to contact me. It's harrassment. But I feel pity for him. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted June 23, 2019 Share Posted June 23, 2019 How is he contacting you now? Fake accounts, or? Don't feel pity for him. Just find a way to block him out of your life so you can concentrate on your new relationship and not have him jeopardize that. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Blanco Posted June 23, 2019 Share Posted June 23, 2019 Did he start this pursuit after he found out you were seeing someone else? We guys are kind of dumb and proud, so it's entirely possible his ego won't let him accept that you have moved on and some other guy has "won" you. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted June 23, 2019 Share Posted June 23, 2019 Send him a certified letter saying the following: Dear EX: You broke up with me in April 2018. Now that your other relationship has failed you seem to think you are entitled to come crawling back into my life. You hurt me when you broke our engagement but I pulled myself together & have moved on. You are no longer welcome in my life. Please respect that choice and stop trying to contact me. I do not want to talk to you. If you continue to harass me, I will take the necessary legal steps to protect myself. I'd prefer you simply go away on your own. Sincerely, rejected1 Send it certified mail. Keep the green card when it comes back & a copy of what you sent. If he continues to bug you, do get that restraining order. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted June 23, 2019 Share Posted June 23, 2019 ^^^^ This, is what I would do. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted June 23, 2019 Share Posted June 23, 2019 Tell your friends to stop feeding you information about your ex and what he is doing or saying to them. Tell them you have moved on to someone new and are no longer interested in what your ex thinks. When a number you don't recognize pops up on your phone, assume it's him and don't answer it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted June 23, 2019 Share Posted June 23, 2019 He dumped you and all that's bothering him right now is that you have another man. It's very common for the x to show back up to see if you still like them best after you get another man for their own ego gratification. Stop being silly and feeling sorry for this idiot. he's trying his best interfere with your relationship and he's going to succeed if you don't take firm steps. you need to send him something in writing that you hang on to that says you do not want to be contacted by him again and then if he keeps it up shows up at your house or whatever you need to always keep a log of any further disrespect you showed you by invading your space and show that to the police and get a restraining order. This is all about his ego. Block him from seeing all your social media and off your phone. He starts showing up uninvited you need to call the police because that can be dangerous. as long as you let him he's going to sabotage a relationship until he finds another girl and then he's going to flip you off just like he already did. Link to post Share on other sites
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