Crazy Ex contacted me out of the blue.

[yololin]

I had a messy but very final break up with my ex in Feb 2018. Since then, every 6 months or so she would contact me. First it was a brief message, thanking me for various reasons e.g., teaching her how to play tennis. Thanking me for being there for her etc etc. I ignored the message. 6 months later she messaged asking to start again. I wrote back bluntly that it was not a good idea and that i was in a new relationship. She wished me luck and mentioned that her father has been falling ill and that was it. I didnt comment about her dad. Just last week she messaged again asking if we can talk from time to time as a friend, followed by a few missed calls.

 

I was just about to reply coldly, saying that i don't think its a good idea to stay in contact, but i hesitated. I'm now here asking for your advice. I'm kind of worried about her. I wonder why she's contacting me. It takes a lot of guts to contact an ex and that she might be desperate. Her mother died a few years ago. I'm imagining that she might be in a tough spot, especially with her dad being ill or even passed away. She doesn't have many friends.

 

I want to do the most good. Do i respond and allow contact, or am i being more helpful by keeping myself out of her life?

[Marc878]

Breadcrumbs won't get you much.

 

Block her like you should have done upfront

[Happy Lemming]

Which woman do you like better?? The one you are currently in a relationship with or your "Crazy Ex"?

 

If you want to go back to the "Crazy Ex", then keep communicating with her.

 

If you want to continue with your current partner, then attempt to quietly, nicely sever ties from the "crazy ex"... Hopefully she isn't a "bunny boiler"

 

The more you communicate with "crazy ex", the deeper you get entangled in the web. I know you are trying to be "nice", but when it comes to "crazy ex's" you don't know what they could do next.

 

For the most part, everyone is going to lose their mother and father (unless the parent outlives the child), so she'll have to learn to grieve that loss in her own way.

[ExpatInItaly]

Are you still in the new relationship with someone else?

 

If so, this should be a no-brainer, OP. Block the ex. If not, well, you describe your ex as "crazy." Going back for more drama would therefore be on you.

[Gosh]

Why are you calling her crazy?

[fastrad]

Seems like you are answering your own question by labeling her 'crazy' in the first place. You didn't give any other information to indicate what redeeming qualities you would keep crazy around for.

[Buffer]

Na, brother, she dumped you, ghosted you, now wants contact and still be friends after you are in a new relationship. Nope, had her chance, me thinking the grass wasn't that green in the other pasture. Go cold turkey. Is her father really crook or is it a ploy to get back into your mind?

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[doyathinkso]

You KNOW she's crazy.

 

 

You told us this from the get-go.

 

 

Why even bother asking us all this.

 

 

Block her. Ghost her. Anything other than that and you are just BEGGING for trouble.

[OatsAndHall]

It doesn't matter if she's "crazy" or not; you're dating someone else. You risk creating a ton of problems for yourself if you keep in contact with an ex while seeing another person. Dig around this site and you'll read story after story about people having contact with an ex and it causing problems in their current relationship.