Mysterio Posted July 4, 2019 Share Posted July 4, 2019 I certainly think it's a numbers game but one has to be careful not to let that aspect bite them in the a--. Multi dating can be a great thing as you're meeting more people and getting out there more. But, I don't do it much anymore as it backfired on me a few years ago. I had two dates set up on a weekend. The first date was awesome; we clicked, had a lot of fun together and she asked if I wanted to meet up the next day. Unfortunately, the time frame didn't work out because of I had a day-long hiking date planned the next day. I tried to nail down a date with her that next week but she was busy with work and was going to be out of town the following weekend. Long story short, I went out on the date with the other woman the next day, it wasn't much fun and the woman that I was actually into did a slow fade and I never got to go out with her again. Had I been smarter about it, I would have agreed to that date on the spot and cancelled with the other woman. BUT.. I was playing the numbers game and the second woman looked like a better prospect on paper. But, she absolutely wasn't and we didn't click. Oats. In that case you did back to back dating. Might as well have had one one week the other the next week. Its just an outing anyways. So its not like you are cheating on the other one. You would not be that foolish to bring both dates to the same dinner spot or activity. If anyone is doing back to back dating One is like Dinner in one part of town. The other is an activity on the other side of town. Link to post Share on other sites
bluesfan Posted July 9, 2019 Share Posted July 9, 2019 Depends on your personality / age / stage in life, imo. Either you don't mind meeting a lot of people to find a partner, or you prefer the 'whatever happens happens' approach. You can mix and match too, I guess. Mostly probably down to the stars aligning / right timing either way. I think it all depends. One respected poster quoted an "expert" and said for most guys it takes about 300 approaches in person to get a bite. I find that hard to believe unless you're obese and 250lbs. I mean unless you work in a restaurant or something I don't know how the hell you will run into that many people you like, let alone be an appropriate conversation and all or even have the chance to "talk" to that many single people you're attracted to. Then on Match, I'm averaging about 8 people replying out of about 100 messages marked "read" and I'm being told that's actually slightly above average for most guys replies wise and that actually replies rates for "strong profiles" is typically 2-5 percent. I botched a couple dates potentials on there though. Including one really hot chick who wanted to meet for dinner, BUT I lived 30 miles away and didn't feel like driving to that busy town for dinner because she was only listed at 5-0. Even though she had a nice face, smile and nice rack and in good shape. Link to post Share on other sites
snowboy91 Posted July 9, 2019 Share Posted July 9, 2019 I do like to see it as a numbers game... but you can play the numbers a little. If we say we're only compatible with 10% (I made this number up for illustrative purposes) of the population for a LTR... then if you meet 10 people, only one of them is right for you (and what's the chance they're single...), but if you meet 1000 people, then 100 of them might be good. And surely some fraction of them are single and available! Which is where that numbers game thing comes in - it's more likely to work out if you go out and meet those 1000 people than if you sit around and stick to your circle of 10. You could be lucky enough to have person 1 or 2 be an ideal LTR, or you could be seriously unlucky and have it be person 200. So luck does play a role too. But by being selective about where you go to meet people, you can turn that 10% into a 20%... or if you're in the wrong place you could change it to 2%. I know this is overkill, but it's a numbers approach to come to the same conclusion as what advice is often given. That is, get out there and meet people! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Curiousroxy86 Posted July 9, 2019 Author Share Posted July 9, 2019 yea snow I know some people say "its a numbers game" in terms of meeting as many people as possible but that approach just seems way too tiring. im not a fan of quantity over quality as far as just going on dates without being selective. now as far as "playing the numbers" I do choose to multidate before exclusivity but that doesnt mean I always have multiple guys to go on dates with at one time all the time. I am just open to date more than one guy if he has yet to ask for exclusivity and I have yet to agree. but I still choose to be selective in terms of choosing who I go out with, continue to date, and enter into exclusivity with Link to post Share on other sites
JuneL Posted July 9, 2019 Share Posted July 9, 2019 I botched a couple dates potentials on there though. Including one really hot chick who wanted to meet for dinner, BUT I lived 30 miles away and didn't feel like driving to that busy town for dinner because she was only listed at 5-0. Even though she had a nice face, smile and nice rack and in good shape. I suspect those N Korean ladies you’re so obsessed about are below 5 feet; that’s why many of them don’t look slim. Link to post Share on other sites
bluesfan Posted July 9, 2019 Share Posted July 9, 2019 I suspect those N Korean ladies you’re so obsessed about are below 5 feet; that’s why many of them don’t look slim. Well they wear high heels. Most, the singers are over 5 feet. Kim So-mi is pretty tall and big bone frame for a Korean girl and their best looking one too. Well, Jo Kuk-hyang is the hottest one. She's pretty skinny too and smaller, about 5-2 without heels she looks like. She has a perfect smile and excellent legs. If I ever met her on one of those trips to North Korea I would so do everything I could to try and hit on her. I would totally plow that. https://morandisco.files.wordpress.com/2014/07/jo-kuk-hyang-eca1b0eab5aded96a5-20150907-12-01ep.png?w=640 Link to post Share on other sites
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