Mysterio Posted July 4, 2019 Share Posted July 4, 2019 What does The Spark mean to you in terms of romantic relationships and do you need it to make it happen. I have three women friends that are very beautifull looking women. Out of the three. Two of them I could imagine sleeping with. The third one is like a sister to me and she is drop dead gorgeous. So just because they are my friends. Does not mean I can't see a spark so to speak. Does not mean one has to act on it. Link to post Share on other sites
nospam99 Posted July 4, 2019 Share Posted July 4, 2019 I think I asked a similar question some months ago. I would characterize the conclusion of that discussion and what 'spark' means to me as sexual attraction. Also sometimes labeled 'chemistry'. Pretty simple actually, you can picture yourself having and enjoying sex with the other person. Link to post Share on other sites
FMW Posted July 4, 2019 Share Posted July 4, 2019 The spark is not only acknowledging that they are an attractive person but also wanting to do something about it Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted July 4, 2019 Share Posted July 4, 2019 I think that the only spark worth mentioning is one which is mutually felt Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted July 4, 2019 Share Posted July 4, 2019 what are you asking mysterio? a "spark" is when you meet someone new and you both just mesh, have tons in common and get the feeling like you've known each other for ages... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mysterio Posted July 6, 2019 Author Share Posted July 6, 2019 Every one has a different take on what a Spark is. Link to post Share on other sites
Foxhall Posted July 6, 2019 Share Posted July 6, 2019 this was well defined in another thread, if you are out in company and other people notice the dynamic between two people, i.e it is obvious to the others in the group - these two get on well and so on, a spark may be where the girl smiles shyly at you as you are speaking,even if you are not saying anything particularly interesting but she is enjoying listening and taking in all you are saying a spark may be in a friendship context even where you can talk and laugh about any topics- this could be friends with benefits type thing- lol like my Hungarian friend- we click very well but have no particular long term aspirations, In general I do not find it easy- maybe two out of every 50 girls I would have coffee with, lol might get the spark. but when it happens then - it is good to feel a spark. Link to post Share on other sites
Cathy7 Posted July 6, 2019 Share Posted July 6, 2019 The spark is like thinking of your real first true love - when you think about this person after years, even though it didn't work out and it's been years from now, you feel a shiver of longing, sadness, love, memories....-going through you like it was yesterday. At least this is how it works for me. Link to post Share on other sites
Leigh 87 Posted July 7, 2019 Share Posted July 7, 2019 It could be different fora guy. Most men tend to feel urges if a sexual nature towards any woman they find attractive irrespective of a spark. For me, I need a spark to get me sexually aroused. I have been with 9/10 guys look wise yet felt absolutely nothing sexually. A spark is when I want to have sex with a guy instantly upon meeting him. Versus most men I encounter where I feel neutral. A sexual spark can sometimes be something deeper but I can never tell until later on. Sometimes a spark ends up being deeper than instant sexual attraction. Most times not lol. I personally rarely felt a spark but it always started as sexual and then only time would tell if there was more to it. Link to post Share on other sites
chillii Posted July 8, 2019 Share Posted July 8, 2019 Nahhhh, sexuality alone doesn't makath or equal true spark, just lust, it's a completely different animal on it's own. Link to post Share on other sites
snowboy91 Posted July 9, 2019 Share Posted July 9, 2019 I also asked a fairly similar question a while ago. It seems it's quite a vague concept that not everyone gets... and it seems to work slightly differently for everyone. I can be physically attracted to (feel urges for) someone... but not feel a spark. I can feel a "friendship" spark, where I just simply mesh with someone and we have lots in common, and can't stop talking to them... but not be attracted to them. A relationship spark is a beast in and of its own... the physical attraction needs to be there, but there is just that additional feeling of excitement when you're around them and interacting with them. Which feels slightly different from a combination of a friendship spark and physical attraction... kind of hard to describe. And I can't tell what it is that makes it happen... it just happens. In hindsight I sometimes wish I'd listen to it more. Link to post Share on other sites
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