OZNIG Posted July 4, 2019 Share Posted July 4, 2019 I an aware that i will come out of this as a rat but here it is Broke up with Partner 7 months ago and looked up an old Girlfriend One thing led to another and i moved in with her The relationship has not worked out and she is basically making me ill She constantly watches me in case i get a call from my ex ants to see any text message or email i receive She is constantly sneaking a look at my phone and questioning my whereabouts While i am gratefull to her for our time together i have to get away for my own sanity I cant talk to her about it as shes not that stable so i plan to just take my stuff and leave whiles shes at work I know its cruel but i have to leave soon Any suggestions or advice welcome Link to post Share on other sites
Flame Aura Posted July 5, 2019 Share Posted July 5, 2019 so i plan to just take my stuff and leave whiles shes at work I know its cruel but i have to leave soon Any suggestions or advice welcome So you know it's cruel but are going to do it anyway, selfish much? Talk to her, tell her how you feel and that you don't want to be together anymore. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted July 5, 2019 Share Posted July 5, 2019 I cant talk to her about it as shes not that stable so i plan to just take my stuff and leave whiles shes at work Why do you feel this is the best option? Link to post Share on other sites
Maddie82 Posted July 5, 2019 Share Posted July 5, 2019 What made you look her up again? Has she behaved this way before? What was the reason for the break up the first time with her? Did you do something that made her feel insecure? Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted July 5, 2019 Share Posted July 5, 2019 You make a lot of bad decisions. Break that pattern starting here. Do pack up your stuff & have most of it out but for pete's sake tell the woman you are breaking up with her. It doesn't matter that she doesn't trust you & that you are right to end this, nobody deserves to be abandoned the way you are planning to do this. At the very least if you are not man enough to break up with her face to face, leave her a note telling her it's over so she's not wondering & hoping you will come back. Karma alone should dissuade you from being unnecessarily cruel. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
isolatedgothic Posted July 5, 2019 Share Posted July 5, 2019 Having been broken up with multiple times in my life [!] I have to say that it's going to hurt no matter how you do it. She will process it in her own way, and will probably make you out to be the villain. It's just how people cope. Like someone else said, get your things together/out as much as you can. Don't save it till after you drop the news. As to how you tell her? Well, how would you want to be told? Since you've lived with her and understand how she works, how do you think she would best take it? Don't ghost her. Let her know somehow that you have packed and are out the door. She won't take it well, it doesn't sound like, but you do need to let her know. After that, you can do no contact or whatever you need to do. Please don't immediately move in with someone else. Take time to figure out how this all happened. You've gone from one to the next already. You need a long break to think things through. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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